Although the average stranger looking at an INFJ from the outside may not realize it,
INFJs can experience truly sudden mood swings.
This rare personality type is great at putting on a smile and going about their day, convincing
everyone around them that everything is just fine, when inside, they may be experiencing
deep mood changes that are affecting how much they’re actually enjoying themselves.
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Today we’ll be talking all about the 8 reasons why INFJs experience such intense mood swings.
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Number 1: Feeling Misunderstood For a person with the INFJ personality type,
feeling misunderstood is nothing new.
Because INFJs have such elaborate inner worlds that they are hesitant to share with the average
person, they tend to have a deep understanding for unconventional topics and an intuitive
guide that gives them insights into confusing situations.
The mood swings come into play when they are challenged to explain themselves or their
thought processes that are often overly difficult to put into words.
They can ‘feel’ something so strongly, but when the time comes where they need to
let other people in on their thought processes, they can easily get frustrated, quiet, and
unwilling to share.
This can make them seem hot and cold, retracted and indecisive in the moment, especially when
it comes to relationships and friendships.
Number 2: Worrying Too Much There's no doubt that the INFJ is an absolute
worry wart.
With high emotional intelligence and a need for everyone around them to be happy and content,
the INFJ is known to worry about relationships, friendships, family members, health, finances,
careers, looks, future, and past.
This alone can cause ‘out of the blue’ mood swings because although nothing notable
happened in the real world, an INFJ can easily come up with a narrative for what can or should
happen, which can instantly change their mood from happy in the moment INFJ to impending
doom INFJ.
While this mostly happens when this personality type is already feeling some underlying stress,
they do have the power (or curse rather), to bring this sense of worry with them wherever
they go, at any time.
Number 3: Bottling Up Emotions INFJs have a tendency to hold on to their
deep underlying emotions for the sake of keeping their surroundings and the people in their
lives satisfied and unworried.
They can put on a pretty good show by making it seem like their inner world is filled with
daisies and butterflies, when in reality they are dealing with some complex and often confusing
emotions that even they can’t figure out.
Whether the boiling emotions are from a toxic friendship, partner, career or other life
complication - sooner or later, an INFJ will break.
It may seem like the emotions are coming out of nowhere, but an INFJ can suddenly become
overly expressive and emotional about what has been bothering them, and if it’s anger
that they’ve been bottling up, you can be sure the receiver is in for a wild ride.
However, when it’s all said and done, this firecracker energy will even surprise the
INFJ, and they can easily retract to being apologetic for their behaviour.
Unless someone has seriously done them wrong, because in that case, you may never see that
INFJ again.
Number 4: Being Pushed Past Their Limits
INFJs have a strong mental endurance, but when it comes to other people pushing them
to get out of their comfort zone, they can quickly become moody and even slightly passive
aggressive.
Deep down they want to be able to push themselves to the point of living out their wildest dreams
but when the time comes to play it out in the real world, it’s difficult for an INFJ
to get themselves to a place of just going out and doing it.
For example, if an INFJ was somehow convinced to go out to a party with their extroverted
friends by swallowing their introverted pride and going with the flow, they’ll be able
to have fun at their own pace.
Yet when it comes time when the extroverted friends begin to badger the INFJ to dance
on the dance floor and they’re stuck feeling completely uncomfortable, they will not only
repeatedly refuse, but they can quickly lose all enjoyment in the outing and run for the
door.
Not to mention, it will be nearly impossible to ever convince this INFJ to go out with
this crowd again.
Number 5: High Sensitivity
There's no doubt that the INFJ personality type is known to be highly sensitive to outer
stimulation, what most people don’t know is that overstimulation can have a serious
effect on their overall moods.
With a lack of significant recharge time or when an INFJ is faced with long periods of
high stimulation, they just aren’t themselves.
Whether it’s a loud bar, a crowded event, bright office lights, loud music, too much
sun, and the list goes on.. when INFJs feel drained or over-stimulated, they can quickly
become irritable, dull and maybe even snappy if the people around them are close enough
to the INFJ that they feel comfortable to express these emotions.
While people may try to shake them from their sudden change in mood, no amount of coffee
or short periods of downtime will do the trick to get an INFJ back to their original selves.
In fact, this is their way of knowing that they’re needing to go home and recharge
their battery, in peace and quiet.
Number 6: Constant Questioning Of Their Moves
Another complex thought processing habit that most INFJs experience is their constant wondering
of whether or not they’re making the right choice in some aspect of their lives.
If we look at a career for example, one week an INFJ may feel confident and sure of themselves
that this is what they want to be doing, and then by the time the next week rolls around,
they are questioning whether or not the job fulfills them and their passion, if they enjoy
the people they’re working with, and if they could find better pay or a shorter commute
with another position elsewhere.
This constant inner banter can not only suddenly change their outlook on jobs, living locations,
and relationships, but it can also have a significant effect on their moods.
Once an INFJ isn’t feeling a situation anymore, the smallest things that they used to tolerate
can easily lead to frustration or boredom, causing them to complain and question everything..This
can also happen in INFJs dating life.
Number 7: Sudden Changes Of Plans
Although INFJs can be spontaneous when the time is right, a sudden change of set plans
can easily throw them off their course.
The perfectionism of the INFJ favors structure and organization and in times that either
of these are challenged, especially when it comes to a social setting, they can become
displeased and uninterested all together.
It may seem dramatic to some, but the INFJ often requires a great deal of mental preparation
for things that are out of their normal daily lives, and so when they’re faced with the
challenge of speed preparing for something new, they can become so overwhelmed and busy
in their minds that they feel the need to back out.
This is especially apparent if there is a new person invited into their small social
group because they know they won’t allow themselves to be themselves around new people.
Number 8: Taking on Too Much
Aside from being uncomfortable when pushed past their limits, INFJs also have the tendency
of pushing themselves beyond their limits by taking on much more than they can chew.
While they are able to balance a great deal of obligations and responsibilities, they
can hit a point of no return where they are completely drained and begin questioning the
different aspects of their lives in hopes that they can weasel their way out of some
of their obligations.
For example, if an INFJ is in a relationship or marriage where they use their micromanaging
and organizational skills to have to take complete control of everything such as finances,
cooking, cleaning, appointments, parenting, and spouse satisfaction, all while balancing
their own work and enjoyments, they may hit a point of feeling like they are completely
drained of energy to the point that they begin questioning the relationship as a whole.
While this tendency is self inflicting, it can definitely catch other people by surprise
that this personality type doesn’t actually want to do it all, they just want it all done
properly, especially since INFJs seem to thrive when being in control.
Well, that's it for today, psych-os.
So, if you’re an INFJ, would you say you can experience intense mood swings?
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