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Hey Psych2goers! Welcome back to our channel! This video is inspired by Mo Re’s comment!
Do you ever worry about whether your actions might turn others off? Well, there are quite
a few common traits that many find unattractive. To help you with that, we’ve compiled a
list of some of the most common ones. Here are six unattractive traits that turn people
off.
ONE: Being Rude to Service Staff
How does your date treat your waiter? Pay attention next time. This can be a valuable
insight into their character. Is your date going out of the way to complain about their
waiter? Are they losing their patience for no reason? Well, it’s best not to be rude
to your waiter. It’s a giveaway into what kind of person you are, your patience, and
how you deal with conflict. And it’s highly unattractive. In contrast, how attractive
is it if your date is patient and kind to your waiter even when the waiter is having
a difficult time?
TWO: Being Distant & Skipping Class
Go to school kids. According to a 1992 study by psychologists Richard Moreland and Scott
Beach, the fewer school classes you attend, the less attractive you’re perceived. The
psychologists had four women enrolled in a large psychology course. Students were asked
at the end of the semester to rate how attractive each woman was. The fewer classes someone
attended, the more unattractive they were perceived. As you could imagine, some students
forgot about some of the women who didn't show up to class regularly. It’s more attractive
to make yourself known and show up to class. Your grade will thank you later too.
THREE: Being Overly Critical Have you ever come across someone who was
overly critical? All the time? Were they judgmental of you too? According to psychiatrist Ralph
Ryback in Psychology Today: “a critic can bring a lot of toxicity into a relationship.
Critics may never call you insulting names, but they may constantly insult your beliefs,
appearance, and thoughts, often because they have low self-esteem and want to be in control.”
Not too attractive.
FOUR: Being Too Clingy All the Time
According to a study by three social psychologists from the University of California, San Diego,
being clingy can likely be an unattractive habit. The psychologists wanted to study the
relationship between an individual's physical proximity and the “probability that individuals
would be chosen” as enemies, or friends! The researchers asked students who they liked
and disliked. They found that those who had met face-to-face frequently were more attractive.
When researchers asked students who they disliked the most? It was the students with whom they
were forced to spend their time with. So if you like someone, make sure your whole
life doesn’t revolve around them. Don’t forget to also focus on yourself, your loved
ones and pursue hobbies that you’re interested in. Working on ourselves and making ourselves
happy is an attractive trait in and of itself.
FIVE: Frequent Jealousy & Controlling Behavior
Controlling behavior can be extremely unhealthy in any relationship. This type of behavior
is often paired with jealousy. Some people who display frequent jealous behavior do so
out of fear you will no longer want to be with them. Controlling behavior becomes a
way to keep you with them. This continued behavior can be dangerous and abusive. Attractive?
Nope.
SIX: Passive-Aggressiveness
Passive aggressiveness is a common turn-off. When one is passive-aggressive they’re expressing
any negative feelings they have indirectly instead of directly. This can be shown in
some forms of sarcasm - often used as a defense mechanism when passive-aggressive. Covertly
plotting revenge or trying to get back at someone in secret. Insisting nothing is wrong
while showing angry expressions can also be passive-aggressive. This trait is a common
turn-off for people. One of the best things for any relationship is communication and
honesty. So it’s best to be open to how you feel, … and keep the plots of revenge
at a minimum. … Ya know what, just lose the revenge plans entirely.
So, what traits do you find unattractive? Will you work towards healthy behavior for
your relationships? Feel free to share with us in the comments down below!
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