Hey everyone. This is Stefan from projectlifemastery.com.
In this video, I want to talk to you about confidence,
having confidence in yourself, having confidence in the process, having
confidence in your business, having confidence in a goal, a result, a dream,
and vision. Whatever it is that you want to pursue in your life, you have to have
confidence. You have to have belief. You have to have certainty within yourself
and the belief that you can make anything happen. Whatever it is, no matter
what the obstacles, no matter what the barriers,
no matter what it is, that you believe in yourself that you can make it happen.
You have to believe in yourself that you can be successful, that you can achieve
the goal or the result that you're after, but you also have to have belief and
confidence in the process, in the journey, in the business, and the opportunity, in
the goal, in the vision that you have. If you have this incredible vision
where you want to make millions of dollars, you want to live on the beach,
and you want to travel the world, you have to actually believe that that's
possible for yourself. To take it a step further, not just have that belief but
that conviction that that will be a reality for you one day. You might
not even know how, but you have that belief and you have that faith within
yourself that you will be able to make it happen, that anything is possible for
yourself. You have to have faith, and oftentimes, having faith means that you
believe when there's no reason to believe at all.
I've been getting emails from people and working with people, and I see
so much a lack of confidence, a lack of belief.
They're not even really sure that they're going to be successful.
They're not even sure whether or not they can ... They've got the
training and they've got everything step by step, but they don't even believe in
themselves that they can actually implement it.
They don't believe in themselves that they can create their business and have
success. If you don't even believe in yourself, man, I don't know what to say.
There's no hope for you, because nothing will work unless you work, right? If you
know certain people out there, everything they touch turns to gold, everything that
they pursue, they're successful at, and the reason for that
is because of them, their belief and confidence in their self. If you look at
the most successful people in history, the top achievers in the world, the top
athletes, the top celebrities, the top 1% of anything,
they all have an incredible amount of confidence, belief, and certainty within
themselves. That translates to every other aspect of their life.
For myself, I've been able to be successful at multiple areas of my life,
not just financially and business but also I made an incredible change and
transformation in myself for dating and attracting people in my life, to meet and
approach random strangers, to become a confident public speaker, to be able to
transform my body and do two fitness shows called the WBFF and transform my
body and get up on stage and do fitness modeling and stuff. I've
been able to transfer that confidence to different aspects of
my life and be successful in multiple areas. That's all because of the
confidence that I've been able to cultivate within myself. You need to
have that. You need to condition that every day. How do you develop it? There's a
few ways I can share with you guys, a few things that work for me.
Number one, you guys have heard me say this again and again, but I've been doing
morning rituals since I was 17 years old. I contribute morning rituals to
being the driving force in shaping my life. Because it's what you do every
single day, how you condition yourself daily that shapes who you are, not
something that you just do once in a while. You can't just go to a seminar
once in a while and expect your life to change for the better. You need to have a
daily practice, a daily ritual of conditioning and shaping who you want to
be. If you want to transform your body, it's not like you can just go to the gym
for a weekend and expect your body to be transformed for the rest of your life.
You have to condition every day. You got to workout and build that muscle.
That's what a morning ritual is, is I take that time every single day no matter
what since I was 17 years old to condition my mind, my body, and my spirit to
shape and create who I am. What you guys see before you right now is the result
of
daily conditioning, having that morning ritual. Every morning, today was no
exception. I woke up. I got on my rebounder.
I'm jumping up and down. I'm conditioning myself through affirmations, through asking myself
questions, through feeding my mind and reading and learning. That gives you
incredible sense of confidence
It makes you believe that anything is possible.
I had certain affirmations where every single day I say to myself, "I
Stefan, see, know, hear, and feel that I am confident, that I am determined, that I
am unstoppable,"
and when you say that to yourself every day with intensity, with emotion like you
really mean it,
then you take that on as a belief system. You carry that power, that energy within
yourself, and you believe it. Whatever you say to yourself enough times, again and
again with repetition and emotional intensity, you will believe, right?
How else do you think you believed all the negative stuff that
you have in your head anyways? It's because you conditioned that again and
again. You kept saying to yourself over and over again that you're not good enough,
that you're a failure, or someone else said that to you.
Maybe you had a parent, maybe you had a family member or a bully
or whatever that just every day or frequently was saying that you're not
good enough or nothing was ever good enough, and so you don't have any
confidence. Even though when you're younger you don't really have control
over the influences in your life, at the stage of life you're in right now, you
have full control and you can reprogram, recondition yourself to be whoever you
want to be. Having that morning ritual every day where I condition my mind and
speak out loud what I want,
who I want to become, who I am, what I stand for, that's an incredible way to
shape my belief systems. Also, you have to understand that confidence and
certainty is just an emotional state and that you can put yourself in that state at
any moment that you choose.
Right now in this moment, you could stand the way you would
stand if you're totally confident. You can change your physiology. You
could put a look in your eyes. You could breathe fully. You can model and adopt
the physiology of other people that are successful and confident just by
modeling, just by faking it until you make it.
The truth is, when you fake it, you have made it, because that moment that you
change your physiology, you're going to feel more confident and just being
aware of your emotional state.
You can change your confidence just through visualization, visualizing the result
that you want. A really great book for that is called Psycho-Cybernetics.
It basically teaches you how the top athletes, they envision themselves every
single moment making that shot or being successful or
winning the trophy or achieving the result or the goal that they're after.
The more that you see it in your mind, the more it becomes real for you, the more
certainty that you have. You could develop your confidence just by reading
every day, by reading every day and reading these incredible stories of
these people that went from zero to hero, from rags to riches.
I've read Sam Walton's book Made In America, the founder of
Walmart. I've read Jeff Bezos' The Everything Store. I've read all these incredible
biographies and these self-help books, and when I do that, what happens is I'm taking
on the beliefs and the positive message of the authors and the people in these
books. I take that on myself and I start to believe it.
When you see enough role models, enough examples that people that
became successful, then you start to believe that you could be successful as
well. That's an incredible way. Also, there's videos, there's interviews
that I provide here on my YouTube channel of other people that built up
successful online businesses and that provides a role model, a reference for you
that if all these other people have been able to do it, then you can as well, right?
The more references that you have, the stronger that your belief will be.
That's a great way to condition and build that confidence, that certainty
within yourself,
having rituals like this, reading, feeding your mind, and also investing in
yourself.
That's why I'm huge on learning and improving myself because when I invest
in training, when I go to a seminar, when I have a coach or a mentor, they give me
confidence, right? Right now, you might feel lost like you
don't know what to do. You don't have any confidence in yourself, but if you actually
have a step by step program, a training that can guide you
from A to Z, that thousands of other people have already been through before,
other people have gotten results with, that you're learning for someone that
created it, that has the results that you want, and that gives you a huge edge, a
huge advantage.
You don't have to worry about competition and all that sort of stuff
because you believe in yourself and you believe in the process.
Whenever people say, "Oh, I'm worried about competition. I'm worried about saturation,
all this stuff."
What they're really saying is they are lacking confidence. A confident
person doesn't have any fears or worries about that, right? They just have belief
in themselves. They believe that no matter what it is they pursue or go after,
they're going to be successful at no matter what.
I see so many of these fear-based questions that people have. Man, it's
like, if you don't have confidence, what can I tell you man? How are you
going to make anything work in your life? You got to develop that, and you don't
have to develop that person then pursue it, because
often times people use that as an excuse. They say, "Well, I don't have the confidence
right now, so I'm going to develop that first, and then I'm going to start a business." No,
you got to start now and you build that as you go.
Another great way of doing that is by achieving your goals. That's why
I'm a big fan of setting these little micro goals, these monthly or weekly
goals, that when you set a goal, you achieve it.
It's an attainable, realistic goal for yourself. When you achieve it, you get
confidence. You get references. You start to believe. Wow, you know what? I set
something n my mind and it was just an invisible thought, and then I made it real.
I turned the invisible into the visible. I turned something that was in my
head to reality. When you do that, it's like, "Oh my God, I created that. Now,
what else can I create?" You set the next goal and you achieve that. You see, most
people, they set these crazy unrealistic goals that they never achieve. Sure
enough, they just keep bailing again and again because their goals are like, "I
want to make a million dollars," and they never even made a dollar
online. Sure enough, they don't achieve that goal, and so they
don't feel good about themselves. Their self esteem goes lower. The confidence
goes down,
and then soon enough it's like every other goal you set, you're not going to
believe you're going to be able to make happen because you kept failing time and
time again.
That's why I say to people, your first goal is to make $1 online
in your online business. You achieve that, man, it's like you get confidence from
that, and then the next goal, you make $100, and you get confidence
from that. Then $200, you get confidence from that. You
slowly build it up, instead of just setting these crazy unrealistic goals
that you have a 99.9% a chance of failing to
achieve. Don't get me wrong. It's great to have those goals, but those
are the long-term vision goals that you have 5 years or 10 years from now,
right? Where the short-term ones are the ones that are just trying to set
yourself up to win, to build that confidence within yourself.
All of these are different ways to build that confidence, but in a lot of
cases, you just got to believe man. You just got to have that faith.
Whenever you catch yourself operating from fear, you got to be able to cut
that off and say, "No, I will make this happen. I will be successful.
I'll find a way. If I can't find a way, I make the way." You got to
have that belief in yourself, and that's something you just got to decide to
have. You got to cut off that weak
limiting factor, that fear, because that's not really you.
That's not who you are. That's just a part of yourself that wants to survive
and be safe and protect yourself.
You're capable of so much more, and you have incredible potential, you just got to
believe in that potential and act on it.
That's it guys. Create a practice. Create a ritual. Do all of the things you
got to do to invest in yourself, to help get that confidence and belief, but
you got to be developing that and work harder on yourself than on anything else.
Work harder on yourself than on your business, on your job, on your goal,
whatever it is, develop that confidence and certainty as you're pursuing your
goals, because at the end of the day, that's what's going to make the
difference between success and failure, is that confidence, that belief that you
have in yourself.
Build that every single day. Thanks for watching.
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