28!
I want to marry before I am 30.
- So you have 7 years left. - Yes.
I'll try my best.
We are both totally jealous now. Jelly!
Hey guys this is Cathy Cat. Today we will go and Ask Japanese
what their ideal age for marriage is.
This might be a little bit different than in your country.
Let's go and Ask Japanese.
What's your ideal marriage age?
28... I am currently 25 you see.
So I think, in a few years its about time.
I think 29 is good because you work a little, have some fun and then marry.
- 26! - How old are you now?
I am Eighteen.
28!
I want to marry before I am 30.
Same here 28.
26 for me.
- I think 25. - Why 25?
If you marry at 25 and get kids at 26 it's a really good age in my opinion.
It's neither too old nor too young.
- How old are you now? - Nineteen.
You have seven years left.
I'll try my best.
Neither too late or too early. Somewhere at the end of my 20s.
- 25 is good. - How old are you?
- 26! - Wait a second....
- When do you personally want to marry then? - Before I am thirty.
Why so?
Once I am older than 30 I will be an old hag.
I am soon 26 so... maybe in one or two years?
- 27, 28? - That's about the time.
That's because I met someone that I would like to marry some time...
Oh how nice for you!
Look at us two. We are totally jealous. Jelly!
What type of partner would you like?
A kind and cute one.
I don't have any preferences about what occupation he has to have.
- Also someone who is just jobbing? - Uh... ok...
- As long as he works hard. - The inside is important.
I am actually 24 you see..
I would like to have a break through at work first...
and then enjoy a relaxed lifestyle.
So my ideal would be 32 years old.
- 32. - That's quite realistic.
Are your friends marrying already?
It's marriage season now. Everyone is marring like crazy these days.
All my class friends are.
24-25 that's the peak time.
?
But I am not changing my opinion.
?
Due to all my calculations, 8 years is best.
I am a bit older 31 to be specific.
I think even over 40 is ok.
- You are not rushing it now then? - Not at all.
I am 31 so in eight or nine years.
By that point my work should be going fine too.
At least I expect it to be.
- Wow you are serious now. - Kinda serious topic.
Shall I ask in a more flaky way, what type of partner do you want?
Super flaky? So my future wife... as long a she is from this planet it's ok...
Stop it. Too flakey.
But to be honest I feel drawn to people from my home Okinawa.
So we will have the same things to talk about, if we are from the same place.
So my heart feels drawn to people from my homeplace.
As long as she can laugh at my jokes, she will be the right one.
- That's nice. - How about you Cathy?
What... wha... wha... wha...
She is doing the "I politely decline your offer" face.
Should I feel embarrassed now?
She can be anything she likes. I just don't want a girl who just
wants to be a housewife.
She should have her own goals too.
What kind of wedding ceremony do you want?
I would like to marry at a temple or shrine.
Wear Japanese clothes and have a quiet marriage like that.
- And your ceremony? - I don't want one.
I would enjoy it more if we both went to travel somewhere together.
Your main focus is the honeymoon?
Having a ceremony in front of my family... it's pretty embarrassing...
Not inviting the family?
I don't want to invite my family. I don't want to invite my acquaintances.
Nobody.
- Will you invite your family? - I will ONLY invite my family.
- No friends? - They can come to the party.
I want a marriage Okinawa style.
What's Okinawa style?
There are special Okinawan marriage clothes.
They are called "RYUSOU" ...
So you wear a ryusou...
It's similar to a Japanese ceremony but a bit different too.
I would like to try it one day.
I would like to see it one day!
A Japanese style wedding would be nice.
Wearing traditional Japanese clothes.
Because we are in Japan after all.
You can't really do this abroad, right?
Instead of a wedding dress, I think the Japanese style is better.
I want to wear a wedding dress and a kimono.
I want to go to the beautiful sea... wear a beautiful dress...
And then have a big wedding ceremony.
- So being able to see the ocean is the most important? -It is.
I think abroad would be great too.
- Hawaii would be great. - No you can't!
Oh dear same place?
Somewhere beautiful I want to have a nice ceremony.
Japanese style or wedding dress?
I want to wear both. The kimono too.
I will be fine just wearing the dress.
A big white wedding dress and...
then change into a pink and colorful one.
Since I have been a child, it was my dream to have my ceremony at Disneyland.
It might just stay a dream though...
It's my big ideal to have a Disney marriage.
I wish I could...
That's such a great idea. I kind of want to do that now too!
I heard that you can do that at one of the Disneyland hotels.
Even my eyes started sparkling now. Please don't give up on that dream.
I won't then.
- Save up for it! - Lots of saving!
It's my dream to have my ceremony abroad at a beautiful place.
Somewhere where you can see a beautiful ocean.
I think marriages abroad are more cool.
It's definitely a common ideal.
Where would be good for you?
- Guam or Hawaii. - Now I see...
What will you do clothes wise?
Well... a wedding dress I think.
Just with the family...
In Japan?
In Japan. A tiny ceremony.
Wedding dress or Japanese fashion?
Uh...
Both is ok for me...
You will ask him first?
I will talk it over with him first.
What type of partner would you like?
A hair dresser like me.
- You'll have the same topics to talk about. - Exactly.
That's easier.
I like people who do physical work.
I see. Someone who brings some muscles to the table.
Yes... that would be it.
What type of partner do you want?
He has to be kind and also take care of the kids properly.
He should pick up on things.
I want someone who is employed at a proper big company.
Ideally the boss of it.
- A handsome company owner? - Exactly.
- A normal company worker. - A civil servant.
- For security? - Security.
I aim to have a secure life.
As long as he will work hard for the sake of his family, that's ok.
Same. He should work hard.
Is there a certain kind of job you would like him to do?
Not really.
- Can he just be a part-time worker. - No, that's actually a no-go.
- He needs to be properly employed. - Yes a safe employment.
Will you keep working or quit working?
- I want to keep working. - I would like to keep working.
Where would you like to live? What kind of house do you want?
I want to fly abroad.
- Somewhere where the ocean is pretty. - Hawaii and such?
Not a place like that. I want to go to a countryside where there are no Japanese.
Somewhere where there is at least a train.
Not too much on the countryside. Commuting shouldn't be too tough.
Not too much countryside but with some green?
- A fiendly environment. - That sound nice.
I want to live a celebrity lifestyle
Here comes the supersized wish.
A celebrity lifestyle. How do you imagine it to be?
Hugging a small pet dog in a beautiful home.
A bit like Paris Hilton?
A house or an appartment?
I want to live in a great big house.
A house! Large enough to have a garden.
Lots of grass.
I just want to have a normal happy household.
An apartment with a save auto-lock feature.
Wow you want everything to be super safe.
I want to live in the countryside.
- A house. - Garden or no garden? - Garden!
- Will you plant some veg then? - I want to.
- You want to? Really? - Would you not?
Grannies in Japan do it.
I want my own potatoes!
I want to live a calm life in the town where I was born.
- So the place where your parents are living now? -Exactly.
So you will bring your husband and live with your family?
I want to live in a house separately from my parents.
But definitely in the town where I was raised.
House or appartment?
House would be best.
I think we should live where we feel we want to live.
- In Japan? - I want to live abroad too so...
I will decide it when the times comes.
Once the times comes you will check it with your partner?
I would like to live on the countryside.
Ideally in my own house.
I wouldn't mind living anywhere really.
- As long as you are happy, anywhere is ok. - Anywhere is ok.
Cause she is happy right now, right.
- So jealous! - Jealous!
I want to be able to be noisy so I'd like to built a big house in the countryside.
And then call friends over for drinks and party every night.
I am the right opposite. I was born and raised in the city you see.
I would like to live my life in the city.
I can't deal with the countryside. A nice apartment would be great.
Thanks so much.
In Japan there used to be the "tabenokotta christmas cake"
Which is the left-over Christmas cake which means if you are 24/25
that's the best age to marry. If you are 25 and then it's the day after christmas
nobody wants to eat you anymore. Once you go to 25/26
No one wants to eat the old christmas cake and no one will marry you anymore.
That has changed nowadays as you could see, we had a variety of ages here.
How about you and in your country? When do people marry?
Let me know. Looking forward to reading your comments and catch you
soon on Ask Japanese, bye.