I already did a video on how to get girls at house parties, and that has a lot of tips
you can use at bars and clubs too, so click the link on the top right of the screen to
check that out too.
Lately I’ve been going out more and more and I've gotten some more experience under
my belt when it comes to getting girls at bars and clubs.
So I’m here to ejaculate all my knowledge onto you, let’s do this.
The number one tip I have for instantly building a flirtatious vibe with a girl when you’re
out at a bar or a club is to maintain solid eye contact with them throughout the interaction.
This instantly builds up the intimacy, and since it’s usually dark and you have to
get close to her to hear each other, eye contact immediately helps add to the sexual tension.
Another tip is to put your hand on her back and talk in her ear after you’ve talked
to her for a minute or two and you’ve built up the intimate vibe by teasing her and making
eye contact with her.
This'll help quickly and casually break the “touch barrier” and make her more comfortable
with you touching her.
Now don’t worry, I didn’t forget a tip for how to actually approach her.
The best thing I recommend you do is to make a comment about something going on around
you guys.
This sounds like typical advice, but it's actually the best thing to do in this specific
scenario, IF you do it correctly.
It's the most normal way to approach a girl at a club because it's not overly aggressive,
and it's not uncommon to strike up conversation with people if your surroundings are worth
commenting on - a lot of people do this all the time even when NOT trying to pick up girls.
The truth is, if you're at a club, or a bar, and you approach a hot girl, TONS of other
guys have already approached her and are already planning to approach her.
So unless you're REALLY good looking, you can't just go up and ask for her number right
away because it's too aggressive and not unique enough to make her care.
Commenting about your surroundings opens up conversation and lets her see more of your
personality and how confident you are in social interactions, which is what you want to aim
for if you're average looking, around average, or below average.
For example, just the other day I was on the train and the guy in the row in front of me
was asleep and his phone was ringing REALLY loud, I looked over at him and noticed it
wasn't even waking him up and he just kept on sleeping.
The hot girl in the row behind him noticed it too, so I just said to her "do you hear
that too?"
and boom conversation started right there.
We kept talking for awhile during the train ride and I had her number by the end of it.
At clubs and bars, you can pick anything, but some specific examples of things you can
choose to comment on are: the super douchey drunk guy, how slow the bartender is, how
bad (or good) the music is, the creepy guy who just tried hitting on her, the couple
showing too much PDA, how little alcohol are in the drinks, how crowded the venue/party
is, how people keep stepping on your shoes, how much of a dick the guy who just shoved
his way through you is, you get the idea.
Anything remotely interesting or worth commenting on is good enough.
This is a lot more casual and easy to pull off since you’re not just going up and saying
something stupid like “hey you’re hot,” and she’ll be more open to talk to you since
it’s not uncommon to talk about your surroundings.
From there you want to make sure you tease her and flirt with her as soon as possible
since once you make a comment about something you only have a maximum of like 20-30 seconds
to start flirting and get her interested before she walks back to her friends or starts talking
to the bartender or goes back to the dancefloor or whatever so make sure you execute fast.
This is why you want to talk to a ton of girls and embrace rejection because it’ll build
up your experience and you’ll be able to quickly learn how to get good at it.
Hell, if you approach enough girls in one or two nights you’ll already be literally
20 times more experienced than when you first started, so go out and approach a shitload
of girls.
Now another thing that’s equally important as the approach is this, you have to understand
that EVERY time you go out, there is a chance of getting rejected when approaching girls.
And I’ve learned that the reason behind this is because, at bars and clubs, there
are gonna be 4 types of girls.
Type 1: the girls with boyfriends.
Now it’s pretty obvious that you’re gonna have a 99% chance of getting rejected by them
since if a girl has a boyfriend or a guy she’s talking to, she’s not gonna be into hooking
up with some random guy she just met.
You CAN get these girls, it's just a lot harder, so don't get torn up about it.
Type 2: the girls who are just in a bad mood and don’t wanna hook up or talk to anyone.
This type is a lot more common than you think, most of the time these are the girls who are
gonna give you a bitchy attitude when you approach them, but the important thing is
to not let it ruin your confidence for the rest of the night.
When going out, I’ve seen some of my friends get shut down pretty harshly by type 2 girls
and then they’re too nervous to approach for the rest of the night and it fucks up
their confidence.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Acknowledge that the girl is probably mad at one of her friends, pissed about the rapey
guy who tried rubbing up on her from behind, or whatever else girls get mad about.
Realize that you DON’T have control over every situation with girls and you WILL be
rejected by some girls, and then GET OVER IT.
Look, guys get REALLY stressed out about rejection and they take it personally, "I must be too
ugly, I must have really shitty game, I must look weird" or whatever.
But guess what?
NO GUY gets every girl he talks to.
You could be a trillionaire who looks like Zac Efron and flies up to the club in a fully
functional Ironman suit and you're still gonna get rejected occasionally.
It definitely doesn't mean you're a loser, so don't dwell on it, just move on to the
next girl you see, no big deal.
Type 3: the girls with the super drunk and crazy friend.
Type 3 girls usually lead to rejection as well because they’re too busy worrying about
their friend and making sure they’re okay that they won’t even have time to talk to
you regardless of how good looking you are or how good your game is.
It’s usually pretty obvious to tell if a girl is type 3 because her drunk friend will
be closeby causing a ruckus.
Again, not much you can do here in this situation either, so you just need to suck it up and
hit on the next girl and hope she’s….
Type 4: this is the only type out of all 4 that is open to hooking up with and talking
to guys when she goes out to bars and clubs.
These are the girls you’re gonna have the best chances with and you wanna try to make
sure you’re only talking to type 4 girls when you go out.
Now here are some tips to make sure you spend your time talking to type 4 girls and not
wasting time on the other girls.
If a girl looks like she’s playing babysitter to one of her drunk friends then don’t even
bother approaching, and save that as a potential option for later once you’ve approached
EVERY other girl in the bar or club If a girl looks like she’s in a bad mood
then don’t bother approaching her either since she’ll likely fall into the type 2
category and you won’t have much success.
Realize that you’re going to get rejected A LOT when you first start going out and that
it’s actually a good thing because it just makes you more experienced for your next approach.
Picking up girls in nightlife settings is extremely random and hard to predict, so just
embrace it and talk to as many girls as possible until you’re successful.
And that’s it.
In summary, talk to as many girls as possible and don’t be concerned about getting rejected,
make really good eye contact, make a comment about your surroundings, and make sure you
tease her and flirt with her from the start.
OUTRO: Hey!
Want more tips on picking up girls at parties?
Then click the link on the screen to check out the other video I did on this topic, with
TONS more specific tips just like these!