good morning from doula Parvati household for mr. Jake hi
from mr. Benjamin I am on my way to Ryerson University they invited me to
speak in their women and leadership summit which is super exciting the theme
of this talk is called power so it's just a lot of amazing powerful women
that are coming telling their stories and I feel super honored to be one of
them today I'm going to be talking about successful self care
how are you feeling I don't know nervous my thumb you know
modeling was and still is an industry that puts a lot of pressure on girls and
women to look a certain way and it's even more difficult because I was still
16 years old and at 16 you're still trying to figure out who you are and
what's your identity modeling did give me a lot of amazing opportunities not
only did it gave me the financial freedom to support myself but it also
forced me to face all my insecurities face to face whether I liked it or not I
learned what made me angry what makes me sad what I'm willing to compromise on
and most importantly why and although modeling allowed me to tap
into the self awareness it still allowed me to play small and by playing small I
mean when we don't let ourselves go after the great things that we know that
we can achieve has anyone ever felt that way before I
know happens every single day something so crucial was missing and that was my
identity my identity as valaria not as a mother not as a wife not as a model but
the core me
I'm internet famous it doesn't happen but thank you how I build my network
well when I started on YouTube it really didn't come to me that this is gonna
become a business and that's why I really wanted to mention how I just
followed an interest of mine I didn't know how it's going to develop I just
started putting content out there my purpose was to you know try to help
people I have all this information from being in the fashion industry Beauty and
nutrition I was like how do I put content out there for free let people
learn that people consume it I just really try as much as they can to stay
in tune with the people that are part of my community and to every day that I put
something out there I ask myself how is this going to bring value to somebody is
it going to make them laugh is it's gonna make them cry so it's going to
motivate them and once I have any answer for that that content goes like this
industry is a tricky thing because my content doesn't mean my content is my
life I don't really have separation and that's something that I accepted I'm not
trying to portray this like perfect image this is hard and it gets even
harder when there's children involved and like a grown-up life the thing that
I think helped me so much is the fact that from the get-go
I didn't portray myself as somebody else this is who I am this is what I'm
interested in I always say I'm not an expert about anything I just share what
I'm learning and what I'm passionate about and I think that really helped me
to keep doing this because I don't have to put extra energy into waking up and
be like okay I have to put this mask on and go and work I don't try hard to like
separate it because I know it's impossible
but what I do use is self-awareness to know when you know what today I'm gonna
shut this off and focus on my kids today I'm going out you know kind of tilt the
balance a little bit because balance is changing every single day and that's
kind of what helps me to keep going that has been actually one of the biggest
blessings in social media for me so I really turn it around to instead of
looking at it as big negative into being my future and guy there's one thing that
I do that are trained myself to do whenever I see a negative comment or you
know someone's judging me number one I again qualify them are these people that
if I click on their profile there's no picture it's like Angela love cats.com
there are people unfortunately today they go online just because they're not
happy with their own life so they'll go out there to spread that negativity and
judgment so if that's Angela calm I'm like thanks Angela I'm wishing you all
the best I don't respond sometimes I even blocked blocking is a
magical tool you guys you have to use it more even in real life that's kind of
the first box that Isis second group that I look for is people that I've been
engaging with subscribers of mine they want to have a discussion
they have like a different point of view and sometimes I'm like it's kind of
irrelevant and they've not informed enough or sometimes I'm like oh that's a
great point and that teaches me to learn more about this subject or to pay
attention to something else group number three is the golden group these are
people that are my people that been there from this start and I'm like I
know that they want the best for me and I'm gonna look at that criticism that
judgment and I am we don't know I'm not gonna look at it as judgment I'm gonna
look at it as an opportunity to learn so every single time I read a negative
comment I'm like okay is this box a box B or buck C and that really helps me to
navigate through in this social media world of everyone
you
okay so we are done with the derives on top it was so fun and I'm so happy it's
done I feel like it was another thing they were just I was just like so
nervous about that I think I did good there's obviously more improvement and I
can't wait to see the video to see it I think you're gonna get more comfortable
with these things with time I think you just have to keep doing that you have to
keep practicing I know I love the door I feel like I sound like a new passion
there's something about standing on stage and like seeing people that speaks
to meet these days there's so many amazing women in the audience now time
to take off the makeup and have my babies
oh yeah jakey you have to talk if you want to people you want to ask anything
what are you good good okay say thank you so much for joining me thank you so
much for doing this morning hi hello papa
thank you for learning that's a lie let me Gais when did a cut you want to call
me back in the line okay okay number one so this is what I have to do so when you
when a PK is that already in the cub cool
just call me and I okay good morning from doula Parvati household from mr.
Jake hi from mr. Benjamin Ben is obviously not
feeling Monday yeah your night into it up
I'm sure people can relate Benny you're a mood right now and we have Papa
lepovitz key in the front who's trying to figure out music we're going to side
it of course they know we've been telling them what's Atticus for the past
like year we're going to school oh you're so proper going to school and
we're just talking with Jake about his birthday because it's coming up and
we're trying to figure out what we're gonna do jakey wants to have a magician
show Ryan magic show but I'm not sure about locations where Phillips place
okay I'm gonna find out I'll ask his mommy I know Mama's gonna I don't know
yet but I will find out anyways I hope you guys have a good day I hope the sun
shining will make you positive and happy especially you
it is very sunny oh my god I'm gonna sneeze okay so we are going to TNT to
get a few outfits for a really awesome shoot that I have on Saturday with the
boys we are shooting the cover and an interview for modern music which is a
really cool magazine about motherhood and stuff I'm looking for some flowy
romantic looks it's 6:00 p.m. now I'm going for dinner with my girlfriend that
I've been canceling on her for like six months now so here I am being a friend
yeah because I'm always amazed how you think this like interest anybody at all
okay first of all it's the truffles so oh yeah that's really
gonna translate it into Instagram foodie sort of little thing and I use the
alcohol foodie so for me it makes me feel better that okay well if you have a
on your phone I mean snapped away good morning my beauties okay so we are on
our way to school when I drop off these little monkeys of mine Matty
yes monkeys and then momma's gonna go get you health cards because they've
been expired okay cool let's go somehow I managed not to film anything today
because I was so into this personal day thing that I decided to do and I've
accomplished so much a lot of administrative things I let it kind of
be a day off my creativity was like flowing I was messaging like the girls
all these content ideas that I got and different things that I want to start
doing like we announced the virtual book club in the beginning of every month I'm
gonna post a book I give like one mind for everybody to read the book and then
at the end of the man I'm gonna do like a live session where we actually like
discuss the bold and talk about it it's gonna just like promote reading more and
I'm just really excited about it I feel like on fire on fire I tell you we're
going through this phase now where the kids are obsessed with hava nagila which
is like Jewish traditional song could help
people put at weddings and other like celebrations they just want to hear it
all the time
okay great what do we do now yeah the key choreography for picky can we do the
ones
ready okay show me how you put your jacket on yeah so good okay my love it's
time for our Foreman checkup that we're late for but it's okay we're team
started a star star a us star yes you are that's done this done that's
not Wow I got my kids their dentist appointments
that I took to the pediatrician is scheduled another doctor support I'm
like mommy the hell out of my life right now now I have a podcast and we had a
little problem where apparently today I was supposed to go shop for the books
that were shooting but it wasn't in my calendar and the way I lived my life
today is that if it's not in my calendar it's not happening but it's okay we
moved it to another day oh my god okay two minutes I have a podcast didn't even
look at the questions that she wanted to ask me because they don't happen hello
hi Ashley how are you I'm good thank you so much I'm so excited to do this guy's
I'm going to dating right now I feel like I'm going to a quarter life crisis
trying to figure out who the hell I am and where am I going
I just had this podcast with Ashley Wood and we were discussing self-awareness
and stuff and honestly in the past like couple of weeks have been so off like
feel weird about not who I am but where is everything going I guess I was
talking to her and she was like I 30:29 but any chance this year that's
the time where Saturn return apparently every like 30 years you go to
kind of a crisis in your life all these questions and realizations trying to
find the canoe definition for yourself so I feel like that's what I'm going
through right now I don't know what the hell's going on I feel like I need to
redefine everything not even redefine but like learn new
ways of being cool that was a good talk trying to figure that all out so I'll
keep you posted okay so buddy wanna do yeah yeah what
time do you dare 9:30 I would you put the costume on okay I
need to put this man down to where with the egg you are yes okay let's do it
so Benjamin this is the last time people will see you looking like Benjamin no no
now you're gonna be a Luigi no it's the outside it's 46 you're for put your
hands yeah everything paladin we're going to do a mustache for you with
Mama's I don't want to I don't want my stash okay no mustache your baby luigi
no thank you oh you're not okay the quick breaks above I know any blonde
this oh there's not this year your mama too small no it's not
it is come on you little where's Benny and then you're gonna say and this is it
backpack well we need to okay Sunday force poor him at the kids school I
decided to dress up a speech to surprise the kids because Benny been asking me if
L do that I really want to add to the holiday spirit I'm gonna hop with the
stroller right let's bring some food just like casual no oh my god the kids
will be so excited I don't think anyone in the school will be dressed up like
none of the parents okay let's do this mother of the ER here I've seen people
walk around and none of the parents dressed up and that's what happens when
you get older and you grow up you just don't have the playful spirit left in
you
peach needs
speech do you like my costume okay you want to go let's my crap on Benny wait
wait be careful traffic gangs Mario