Hey ladies, it's Mark here, founder of Make Him Yours. And today, we're discussing
online dating profiles. I want to show you how to build your profile to bring the best
men in and stop making the five big mistakes that a lot of women make that push those good
guys away. I'll see you in just a second.
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Okay. Online dating profiles. Now, there's lots of mistakes that get made in
profiles that are really simple and easy to fix, but that serve to get you all the wrong
results when it comes to online dating. I want to give you the five biggest mistakes
women make and men as well in online dating profiles today, and right at the end,
I want to show you the number one thing, the number one mistake that almost every woman
makes in her profile to stop herself being able to bring the right guy in. But look,
the first thing is very simple ladies, it's just have a profile. I see so many people,
so many women who just put up photos and don't write a profile. Now, I don't understand this
because if you're gonna go to the effort of putting up your stuff online to meet someone,
you may as well write a profile as well. But on a serious note, it communicates that you're
not serious about online dating. And you'll also draw in men who aren't serious. And it's
sub communicates that you believe, even though it's not, you believe that your looks are
your best asset for attracting men and neither are good things to communicate.
Mark: So tell me about yourself.
Jermia: Hi, I'm Jermia.
All right. The second thing is typos. Proofread your profile. Have a friend
proofread your profile. If you don't, it makes you look like a hillbilly.
Mark: So tell me about yourself.
Jermia: Oh hi, I'm Jermia. Um, I love to eat healthy and exorcercise. I love aminals
and horse ridding, but if you're only after one thing, don't brother.
A third thing on a more serious note is negativity. I see a lot of negativity
and and women writing or men as well, writing negative things in their online dating profiles
and it just doesn't serve. People want to be around people who make them feel good and
that includes first dates and if you're putting negative vibes across in your profile, any
guy that reads that is going to get negative vibes from you as well.
Mark: So tell me about yourself.
Jermia: Hi, I'm Jermia and I really hate clubbing. So if you're into that teenager rubbish, then
don't even bother. I also don't like cats and I hate having my time wasted by horrific men.
Okay, the next thing you want to avoid is saying what you don't want. Now,
I get why women do this, and I get why men do this as well. It's very tempting when you're
frustrated with online dating to want to say what you don't want. You've been on there,
you get frustrated by meeting the wrong people and you want to go, "Oh, I don't want this
and don't bother message me if this," the problem is, the good guys that read that don't read
your profile and think, Oh, I don't have those traits, I should message her. They think,
"eh, this girl looks jaded. I'm not going to message her." You want to avoid stating what you don't want.
Mark: So tell me about yourself.
Jermia: Hi, I'm Jermia and I'm tired of players. So if that's you, don't even bother. If you
have a crazy ex, don't bother either. Finally, if you don't know how to be a gentlemen, don't
waste both of our time.
Okay. The last one is very simple, very common, and will probably surprise you.
It's summarized by this profile that I literally found on line about five minutes ago. This
was Sarah's profile. And Sarah, I don't know who Sarah is, but this was Sarah's profile.
Sarah wrote, "I'm an easygoing girl who likes to have fun. I like to hang out with my friends,
have a laugh, and meet good people. I want to travel in the future and have big goals."
Now, what you're probably thinking right now is, "Well, Mark, that doesn't actually sound
that unreasonable." The problem is everything Sarah has written there applies to every woman.
There is nothing in those statements, even though they're all true that actually applies
to Sarah. She's just written a bunch of statements that apply to basically everyone.
Mark: So tell me about yourself.
Jermia: Oh, nice to meet you. Uh, I'm a human. I have been for about 24 years now. I like
breathing, eating and sometimes talking. I drink water occasionally and I am a female.
You have to make your statements specific. This is the number one thing I work
through with clients and it takes every single client by surprise. You've got to make it
really specific. "So I like to hang out with my girls and have fun." No... That statement
applies to every woman. "I go to Eatons Hill on a Friday night and enjoy mocha cocktails
or Cloudland on a Saturday night with the girls and enjoy a strawberry daiquiri." That
specific. "I want to travel." No... "I want to visit tigers in Tanzania or go to a full moon
party in Koh Samui." Bingo! You want to make your statements specific because the more
specific you are, the more a guy who is a fit for you is going to see that and is going
to message you. If your statement applies to anything more than five to 10% of women
either delete it or make it more specific right to you.
Well, thanks for watching! I hope that makes sense. And that is a big way. I
very rarely see people get all of these right. So if you can do all of these, you are going
to be taking enormous leaps into bringing the right men into you and getting the guys
you want messaging because they read your epic profile. So those are the five common
mistakes that women make. Make sure to check out the program we've got as well. It's How
to Tell If A Guy Likes You, it's in the description below and it is the complete guide to reading
and understanding all aspects of the male mind as when it comes to dating and relationships.
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