The absolute worst thing that can happen to an ENFP is getting trapped in
routine and repetition and in this video we're going to explore that and, more
importantly, what an ENFP should do to get out of that and when ENFPs are by
far the most successful, when we thrive and this has been true both in my own
life and just all us ENFPs around the world. By the way, if you are new here my
name is Dan, this is Dreams Around The World and my mission here is to help you
become the best version of yourself all while creating the most awesome life
possible for you and those you love now I am one of those crazy in fps
which means just I am an ENFP and in my experience the times that I have done my
absolute best when I felt that I've reaching my potential and that I've made
big change have been when it was a must when I was up against the wall when the
pressure was on and when I needed to make something happen that could have
been quitting a job when I had to start my business
to live off of so I quit I was broke and I just was like all right time to start
selling advertising it was like a media business I had I was you know had a
little newspaper thing it was cool or whether it was moving to Costa Rica I
mean like you got to make this work or you're gonna be homeless in Costa Rica
it's always been about having to do it pushing myself and creating that
pressure and you know it was really kind of crazy is in the early part of my life
let's say like early 20s I always felt like I needed that in order to be
successful and I think I probably unconsciously created situations where I
was like really desperate and that forced me to step up I always had this
thing like huh my life is too easy you know middle-class white dude in Canada
yeah like I have no pressure so I'll never do anything and then eventually I
created that pressure and it kind of sucked then I messed up parts of my life
but it then ended up working out and I guess I was onto something
needing that pressure point is we need that pressure we do not do well in
transitions enfps do not thrive one foot in one foot out hey I'm going to start
my own business but I'm gonna stay at this job and then I'm also gonna make
sure I have six years living expenses in the bank as well as blah blah blah it
doesn't tend to work out we do that for one reason we hate being uncomfortable
we hate having awkward conversations like ending a relationship or quitting a
job and we are ultimately anxious of the future and that can lead to hey maybe
one day I'll see you know behavior and it doesn't work out for us it does not
work out very well at the very least and it leads to getting stuck in something
ultimately what's happening here is that our fear is getting in playing around
with our subconscious and creating these reasons that seem good like I'm often
fooled by other inna @ph where let's say to me hey yeah so I do want to do X Y Z
but you know I have this great plan and I'm gonna do this first and then that
first and like at first it will fool me I'll be like okay yeah that that makes
sense that it wait a minute you're just scared to do the thing you really want
to do so you've come up with a crazy strategy involving degrees and jobs and
all kinds of other stuff that really isn't what you want to do but it avoids
a few uncomfortable moments right it happens and I've said this in other
videos freaking ENFP sometimes we are too smart for our own good and we can
create these excuses and these whole web of lies to convince ourselves not to do
one thing that we think is going to be really uncomfortable and usually isn't
that hard at all once we actually do it so how do you make this change first you
got to start being honest with yourself about what you
we want right get out of reality for a little but do the dreamy thing that
enfps love to do think about the future what you would really want if you could
do anything right I used to play the lottery game as a kid not really what
kids should be doing but be like if I won a million bucks what would I do what
would I buy now I didn't know that if I want a million bucks I'd end up becoming
more depressed and it would like ruin my life at the time I thought winning the
lottery would be good what I do like about that exercise is it gives you the
freedom to just dream there's no what if there's no like I mean it is what if
it's like what if I could do anything there's no limitations
whereas I find as people get older myself included we limit ourselves what
we think is possible and we place these limitations so even when we're in theory
dreaming or thinking big it's like within our little box that we're
thinking big so give yourself permission to just daydream or to think about what
you would really want and then be honest with yourself when you're coming up with
these crazy plans to not do the thing you really want why are you doing that
is it really just fear is it someone else's voice is it a parent or maybe the
general Society is always saying like you can't do that then you'd be happy
and life would be exciting and interesting and that would break our
system why are you resisting the thing you really want to do ask yourself that
get to the core of it and then once you know got to take some kind of big action
you got to do something that commits you to following through could be buy a
plane ticket could be sign up for a course it could be write a really
painful email to end a relationship also don't dump people by email that's messed
up whatever it is take that big action I've written about this on my blog
before about how I quit my job doing this how I started my first copywriting
business just taking a big step that commits you to following through so that
you can't backtrack the worst thing you can do okay it's not the worst thing but
like top 10 worst thing you can do is realize you're not happy
think about what you really want and be like yeah I'm going to make that change
and then do like a halfway commitment like yeah I'm gonna quit my job in six
months or so I'm not gonna tell anyone that now I'm not gonna commit to my boss
but I am going to quit my job and yeah that's my commitment and of course six
months six months to an ENFP is like a lifetime the amount of things that can
change in that period right it's insane so don't have that has to make that
change when you have that fire when you know you're not satisfied with your
current situation and you must make a change make it in that moment commit to
something in that moment that will hold you through to it and then really you're
gonna step up you're an ENFP you're badass when you've got to do it you're
gonna pull it off you're gonna make it happen I have no doubt about that
but you've gotta be honest with yourself about what you really want face that
fear just for like 10 20 seconds I have a rule on my website 20 seconds of
courage it's from that Matt Damon movie We Bought a Zoo brave people are not
brave 24/7 they're brave for like 30 seconds and they do something really
courageous in that moment and then that commits us to a better life through and
through on that note I think I'm gonna film a video about how I committed to
quitting my job in advance that was a really cool experience and I'll share
that as well I'll link to that at the end of this video it's out already if
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catch you in the next video soon and I hope you found this inspiring and you're
gonna take some action and be that badass I know you are ciao
you