What's up everybody? Charlie from Charisma on Command here, and I wanna do a very quick
video breakdown to, to illustrate the answer to a question I get asked sometimes which
is, what makes for like charismatic facial features? And particularly what makes for
a charismatic smile? So I think the perfect illustration of someone that just has an incompletely
radiant smile is Will Smith, and I'm gonna click play in just a little bit, you'll see
it and probably feel it but I want to explain to you first, why his smile is so compelling
and so engaging? And a lot of it has to do with the musculature that he engages, so his
smile is revealed first of the teeth, his teeth are revealed you can see right here
by pulling up on his top lip. You can see that dimple there. Some people smile by pulling
down and over on the sides of the lip or the bottom lip, I'm gonna show you an example
of that in just a second, but that's the first thing.
The second thing that you can also see here is that his eyes, right? He's got some tension
on his upper cheeks and he's got, they're called orbicularis oculi those are the muscles
that's surround your eye, they form crow's feet sometimes. You can smile from your eyes
by using those muscles and in fact if you just say cheese and just, you know, sort of
clench your teeth together and don't engage those muscles, the smile looks incredibly
fake. And one of the things you'll see that not only does Will Smith engage those eye
muscles every time he smiles, he keeps them going even when he's not smiling with his
teeth which basically just makes him radiate positivity to everyone that he interacts with.
The last thing I want you to keep an eye out for is how relaxed his lower jaw is, right?
Almost, when he laughs it just completely goes open, you can see a gap between his teeth
often. When you clench those teeth you get this sort of mangled-like here are my fangs-type
smile. That is not what he does, and then to tie it all together he speaks through the
smile which is to say that these muscles are always sort of flexed, they're like, he's
near a smile at all times when he's laughing or joking or listening. So just pay attention
to all of those things here.
So right here, when he laughs, it's, it's formed by his lower jaw sort of dropping down
creating space, it's completely relaxed you can see right here, these muscles under his
eye are flexed and again the smiles revealed with the top of his, with his top lip being pulled back.
Again there's a full laugh and it's formed by the top lip going back and complete relaxation
of the lower jaw, eyes are completely engaged.
And a great laugh there, so I wanna show you just to illustrate how not to go out job,
somebody who does not. I don't mean to pick on her but Nancy Pelosi has one of those smiles
that just come off as fake. So I'm gonna show this here she comes out on stage. Notice the
difference, notice what's happening with her eyes, there's not that, that sort of upper
cheek tension and notice how she forms her smile.
So that one's not so bad but when you saw just a few seconds ago when she came out see
That one is sort of formed by her pulling to the sides on her smile, and I don't know
if she's genuinely happy or if this is just the musculature that she's trained, but it
comes across very, very false.
That's a little better right there, but again right there she's got this lower jaw completely
clenched, and she's flexing that lower, that sort of lower lip to reveal the smile. And
you don't see the same sort of tension in her upper cheek which would indicate a genuine
smile so it looks like she's being faux like she's faking that smile.
I wanna go, I think it's around here to her telling a joke just so you can see her difference
between a real smile and a fake smile, one thing to keep in mind is that as she tells
these jokes when the camera cuts back to her she often has a fake smile on, though when
she finishes a joke she almost laughs at herself and releases what's a real smile.
So I keep going here.
So right there a completely like forced smile right here, waiting for the camera to come back.
And that, look how different that smile is, she's got that lower jaw relaxed you can actually
see space between her teeth and it's formed by that top lip going back, still her eyes
don't have that incredible sort of infectious positivity that Will Smith has. But it feels
much more genuine so what is this mean? You wanna get a Will Smith type smile, the way
to do that is to actually feel positive and there's tons and tons of different thing that
you can do to do that. Go into them in the book Charisma on Command, if you wanna get
it, it comes with a lot more videos like this and I'm sure that I'll add a link somewhere
nearby where you can sign up for early access to that. But basically, long story short you
use your body. If you look at Nancy Pelosi here, she's very, very stiff she's obviously
uncomfortable, she's hardly moving her hands, she's trying to be politic.
If you look at Will Smith in that last video and watch it, he moves around in the chair,
he opens up his gestures and studies have shown very, very clearly that the way that
you use your body has an immediate effect on your brain chemistry to the degree that
the dopamine in your head, that thing that makes you feel happy is going to be flowing
much, much more if you have these open expansive gestures and if you activate a real smile
so there's a positive feedback loop there, tons and tons of other ways, there's a lot
more depth there but don't wanna get into that in this video. Hopefully this has been
helpful. If you want more there's plenty more videos here. There's gonna be lots of free
ones and even more if you sign up for early access of Charisma on Command. For now, hope
this has been helpful.