Hi, I'm Nicholeen Peck and I teach all about parenting, good communication and building
strong family bonds all over the world, through the lens of the principles self government,
and today we're talking about teaching children to be considerate of the rights of others.
In this video, we're going to be talking about what generally happens with children trying to
control each other, and how they are stepping on each other's rights. We're going to talk about
what a right is, and then how to help children learn to be considerate of each other's rights.
Bullying is on the rise, unkindness is pretty much the new social norm, which is very sad. In
fact, I was just in a conversation the other day when a person expressed a different viewpoint from
mine, which is fine. Happy hearing other people's viewpoints, but they did it in a way that was just
very unkind. Very rude, really, on purpose. And I thought to myself, you know, nobody is going
to listen to you now, now that you phrased it in that way, when you don't show consideration
for other people, when you don't show that you value them, or honor them when you're sharing
an alternate opinion from theirs. Everyone who is listening suddenly thinks of your opinion as not
very valid. And people don't realize that well, at least that's how it used to be, I guess I should
say that, that is the mature way to analyze communication. But I think for most people,
it's still kind of their fallback, their go to, but in modern culture, we are actually nurturing
wildness. And we are making it so that some people think, if you didn't get aggressive,
angry, or whatever, then you don't believe it enough. You don't feel it enough. You're not
convincing enough. And so actually, we're creating an environment where our communications right now
are not considerate, because we think that that's more convincing, to show to show that kind of
emotion in our communications about things that we're passionate about, honestly, that's so sad,
because we don't come to truth if we're just worrying about emotionally manipulating each
other. So let's talk then, what is a right, why do we need to know about that? And how do we help
our children to not fall for this same social trap that so many people are falling for that really
is promoting wildness, unkindness, and is degrading the whole of society. In a day and age where
rights have pretty much been made up all over the world, I do think it's important to understand
what a right is. There are basic rights that a person has. But you know, the funny thing is,
most of those basic rights are not articulated. So the United Nations, which is a international
organization, that I actually have consultative status at, has human rights that it's articulated
for people. And then it also has what they call child rights. So interesting that the human rights
are some how different than the child rights. In fact, the human rights, there are less of them
than the child rights, they've listed 45 rights for children, and many of them are not really
rights at all. In fact, they are just things that people think according to their understanding, or
what they think a child should be raised like the children should have as rights. And these child
rights have been perpetuated all across the globe, in fact, much to my chagrin, because I look at
what some parents think that their children have a right, and I see them ruining their own children.
So for instance, one of the rights is a right to have unfiltered internet, that's not really
a right that a child has. Because if they have a right to an unfiltered internet, then that takes
away their right of parents. So we have to know what a child's basic rights are. And then we can
help a person see what they need to honor and be considerate of. So there are things like a right
for a child to be medicated by the government, again, that removes parental rights, or right
to freedom from religion, again, that could remove parental rights, there are sexual rights,
which again, would remove the parents from, you know, their input, because what if a person thinks
for their sexual rights, they should be having sex in the childhood or the parent says no,
that's dangerous, risky behavior. You shouldn't be doing that. Well, then that removes the role
of the parent again, so if there is any right that frustrates a role, then it's probably not a right.
So we have to remember that so it's important for As to know exactly what a right is, I'm going to
define that for you. We're going to talk about that. But before I do, I want you to click that
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either, so that you're notified when new videos come out. In Webster's 1828 dictionary, which
happens to be my favorite dictionary, because words have not been corrupted in that dictionary,
it's back to their original meanings. We didn't start switching a lot of words around for our
purposes and to manipulate or confused people, you know, way back then. So I love it. And plus,
it's such a comprehensive dictionary. So Webster's 1820 dictionary, it defines right as having a just
cause, hmm, having a just cause. So then do we understand what just means. So we need
to look up the word just next. The word just in Webster's 1820 dictionary means moral,
upright, true and honest. So if you have a moral upright, true or honest cause then that
means that would have to go back to principle, it would have to go back to truth. Well, one of the
main principles that a person has in their life, one of their main truths is who they really are,
these would be self evident truths, not things that you could adjust ever just based upon how you
feel. These would be things that you are who you are, you know, like you are a child, because you
have parents, and because you are a certain age, you are a child, or you are a parent, because you
have children, those go back to truths about your identity and your role in life and who you are.
So those would be just, so then your just cause as a parent would be your parental rights,
to teach your child to honor that role. Now, the child actually, their role is learner. So
what is their just cause in that role? They have a right to learn, they have a right to be taught
by their parents. That is their number one right. So for years, I did therapeutic treatment care for
troubled teens. And they would always say to me, okay, so there are rights,
and there are privileges, and you can't take away any of the rights. So they would say,
the children have to have a bed to sleep and clothes to wear, three meals a day and a roof
over their head. If you ever remove any of those things, then you could end up going to court,
the child could be taken away from you, you know, et cetera. And I thought to myself, you know, I've
been some other places in the world. And in some other places in the world, those four things are
not rights, they are still privileges. And so I put a lot of thought into it. And I thought, what
does the child have claim on the very beginning of their life? Well, they can't get here without
a certain order, without a certain structure. They can't get here without cells from a mother
and a father. So that means they have claim upon having a mother and a father to love them. They
have a claim they have a just cause it's a truth, but they couldn't get here without mother and
father. So they have claim upon parents love from parents. And as I reasoned it out, I realized that
is actually the number one right that a child has is love from parents. So how do we as a society,
be considerate of that? How do we teach our children to be considerate of that? Well,
the very first thing we do is we teach them to honor parents, they've got to understand the roles
and honor their parental authority. If the learner won't learn or the teacher won't teach,
then you have this function, the child will not find freedom or happiness if they don't honor
their parents and develop a good relationship with them. Now, I do know not every home has
great parents. In fact, I know that there are some that we really need to take into parenting school,
and I have helped for that, okay, teachingself government.com That's help, but they have to want
it, right. And there are some parents who don't want to change, they don't want to care and they
are going to be dysfunctional, awful pet parents, I get that that doesn't change that the child has
a right to love from parents, they have a right to parents who will teach them and train them,
they have a right to that learning, they may not get their rights honored. The parents might not
be considerate of the rights of that child. But if a parent is and they do the teaching, they do
the training. They correct. They strengthen and nourish and nurture that child, then the child
has their rights being honored by the parent. And if the child is taught to honor the parental role,
or their parental rights, then hopefully that will translate to them honoring all other people. It's
that family bonding that happens within the bounds of the roles in the home that teaches
the child to honor, respect the rights and roles of everyone around them. So if we want more civility,
if we want less bullying, less contention, then what we need is more honor of roles. We need
honor of true rights, which are just causes not just choices, we need more truth, more morality,
more honesty. That's what we need. This book here, Roles: The Secret to Family, Business,
and Social Success was a book that I wrote, long after my first book about parenting. It was also
written after my course, my first course, my second course definitely incorporates this
into it. But I wrote this after a while, because I realized after I'd been teaching parenting for
a long time, that there were many people that even though they needed the four basic skills of self
government, even though they needed to know how to correct their child's out of control problems, if
their relationships weren't where they needed to be, because they didn't understand who they were
in the home. And they were just in survival mode all the time, that they would have a problem. And
so this book here is designed to help families, you can even read it together as a family, because
it's a story and you learn through the story. Many people have called it genius, they absolutely love
how they learn through this story of the Justice family, which is like a case study, if you can
read this and understand who you are. And if your children can read it with you, or you can have the
discussions these parents have with their children, with your children, then hopefully, you can get on
the same page with who you are in your roles. And then if you can be considerate of those roles for
each other, and talk about the roles of everybody else around you and the rights associated with
those roles, like the role of teacher or the role of pastor or bishop or minister or, you know,
or what's the role of president of your country? What are these roles, what do they entail,
and then you can teach a person to be considerate of or who someone really is. Then the value them
and then there'll be considerate of their rights, their cause, the honesty, the truth
that is associated with that principle of who they really are of their role in society. This book,
you can find it on Audible, you can find it at teachingselfgovernment.com It is a great
read aloud for the family. So go to teaching selfgovernment.com and find this book today.