Hello my wonderful friend! In today's video we are going to be talking about
female psychology what women really want. What you are about to learn is all based
on psychology and science. As a certified coach I have studied this extensively
and as a woman I can add a little bit of insight and totally back up everything
that I have researched on this. I think you may be most surprised by what is not
on this list and I have a very special bonus at the end that you're not going
to want to miss. Now before we get started with female psychology what
women really want be sure to subscribe and ring that notification bell.
My name is Melannie, I am a dating and relationship coach for Christian men.
I help you get the girl of your dreams. I am also the creator of the online course
How to Get a Girlfriend, you can learn more about that through the link in the
description below. Now one of the main things I teach my clients is that the
key to attracting your dream girl is to be the dream guy of your dream girl. One
of the main things you need to know in order to do that is what it is you she
even wants. Now there are certain things that as women we just want, it is how God
created us, these are things that are very very important to us. A lot of
people think that the main thing a woman wants is physical attraction, now don't
get me wrong, physical attraction is amazing and should definitely be encouraged and
that's definitely something you want to be working on. If you've been following
me here for a while you know that I share a lot of tips on that. However,
there are other things that women actually rate much higher than physical
attraction. So if you can combine these traits with physical attraction, BAM
right there you are her dream guy. So we are going to be going over some of the
most important things today that women want, again this is based on female
psychology and science. So let's get started.
Trait number one is a sense of humor. As women we are really really
drawn to a man with a good sense of humor. Research shows that it is actually
seen as a sign of intelligence and creativity.
Another important way to look at this is people like to be around people who make
them feel good, we just do. Period, end of discussion, in any type of relationship.
And when you are around somebody who makes you laugh and who makes you smile
it creates those feel-good chemicals in your brain and you just feel good when
you're around them. One thing you need to know about women is ultimately good
girls are looking for a long-term relationship. And so whether consciously
or not she is always asking herself if this man would be a good partner, if he
would be a good husband, if she wants to spend a lot of time with him, and a good
sense of humor is incredibly attractive to women.
So make sure you are letting her see your sense of humor. It's always good when you
can make her laugh and you can make her smile. One note on this is to make sure
that you are using your sense of humor in a positive light instead of a
negative light. This is something that actually stops a lot of people, that
they're unaware of. If you are making jokes like belittling jokes about
yourself or something else or sarcastic snarky jokes, those aren't funny and they
actually push her away. So make sure that you are using your sense of humor in a
positive uplifting way, that is insanely attractive. Trait number two is kindness.
Now there was a really really big study done with a lot of people across a lot
of different countries and they asked each participant what trait or what
quality they were looking for most in a partner. And the number one thing was
not looks, it was not education, it was not wealth, it was kindness. Men and women
are very different in a lot of ways, obviously, that is not a huge surprise,
right? However, at our cores we're actually very much the same, we want the
same things, we have the same basic needs and desires.
We just want someone to love us for who we are,
we just want someone to be understanding and forgiving and kind to us.
That, again, is a trait that she's looking for in a long-term partner, ultimately in
a husband, that right there is a deal-breaker. Women love men who are kind.
So she will notice how you treat her, she will notice how you treat your family,
she will notice how you treat your friends, complete strangers, your
co-workers. If you are a kind person, that is really really going to attract her.
Now a quick note on this, I do get comments from you guys all the time
questioning this or saying that you have girls treat you like trash for being a
nice guy. First off, I am so sorry that has
happened to you. That is wrong and they should never treat you that way. The
important thing to remember here is only toxic women would do that. The right type
of woman would never treat you that way. So it's very much a toxic trait for a
woman to treat you that way for being kind. I actually have done a lot of
videos on how to read the signs of a toxic woman. Knowing that will help you
steer clear of women like that and instead attract the healthy kind of
woman who is going to treat you with the respect that you deserve. So there are
links to a playlist with those videos in the description below. Be sure to
check that out if you have been struggling with girls treating you badly
when you're just being a nice awesome guy. The truth is a mature good healthy
woman who is not toxic loves a man who is kind. That right there is a
deal-breaker. Trait number three goes right along with kindness and it is
being a sensitive man. I know that the world tells you guys a lot to "man up" and,
you know, "hide your feelings" and there's a ton of pressure with that and I'm
sorry that that has happened. However, realize that women actually are
very drawn to a man who is very sensitive. A man who is willing to open
up and show his tender side, that one right there is a deal-breaker for me
actually. That is one of the most attractive traits in a man, it just like
melts my heart and makes me feel connected to him. I want to know who he
is, I want to know at his core. Because the
truth is I have those same things as well,
the same fears and struggles and everything, and so being able to see that
in him and see him open up like, that that's insanely attractive. Quick story
for you. I know a woman who was getting to know two guys and she had been dating
both of them casually and she was at kind of a pivotal point where she was
trying to decide which one she wanted to get to know and date steadily. At this
time her father unfortunately died tragically and suddenly, and one of these
men came over to her house and he just cried with her and held her and
comforted her. The other guy acted like it didn't even happen and started
demanding things of her and wondering where their relationship went. Which man
do you think she married? She married the first man. Sensitivity and feeling
like he understands you and that he cares about you and that he appreciates
you, she wants to see that side of you. That right there is so much more
attractive than I can even express. Quick note on this. You do want to make sure
you're not needy or whiny or clingy. That's not what sensitivity means, it
just means showing the more sensitive soft side. That is what she wants to see.
Before we get to tip number four I wanna hear from you guys in the comments.
Should I do more videos on what women want in a man?
If I should, type "Yes!" in the comments below.
And we are to trait number four and this is to be an interesting person.
If you saw this video this trait is not going to surprise you at all. If you
haven't seen that video check out the link in the description below. As humans
we are just drawn to people who are interesting and who are fascinating.
A man who is interesting is a very attractive man. This means someone who is
learning, someone who feels like they have a purpose in the world and they're
adding to that purpose, someone who has driven, someone who is interested in new
things and trying new things, someone who geeks out about his hobbies,
someone who is contributing to the world, a man who respects himself and is
invested in himself and his relationships, and a man who has a
purpose in life. A good way to look at it is which girl would you be interested in,
the girl who is learning a new language or the girl who's sitting around waiting
to get married? That's a pretty obvious decision, right? One is really interesting
the other, what would you even talk about? So being an interesting
person, a driven person, that is really really attractive to her. And we are to
tip number five and this is a man who pursues. Speaking of being an interesting
and fascinating person, yeah, pursuing will help you do that
really really well. Women are incredibly attracted to men who pursue. It makes her
feel feminine, it makes her feel wanted, it helps her see you as strong and
masculine and as a man. And again that makes her feel feminine and attractive
and wanted. Research actually shows if the woman does the pursuing instead of
the man that she tends to take on more masculine traits in order to feel more
safe. That's not the effect you want to have on her, so pursuing, I'm serious guys
I can't even begin to explain it, I've tried to explain it a million times,
I don't think you can understand the effect it has on a woman when a man
pursues. Now if you are nervous about pursuing a girl, number one realize
that's normal, but number two you don't have to be. This is why I do so many
videos on how to know if a girl likes you. If you're getting a lot of signs
that she likes you and you're getting them frequently, well then it's usually
pretty safe to pursue. So I will put a link in the description below to my
playlist with those videos, be sure to check that out.
The truth is, pursuing is so effective and if she's already interested, oh my
goodness it's gonna take the attraction level up dramatically. So now the
question is how do you pursue? Some really good ways are to ask for her
number instead of giving her yours and then once she gives you her number and
you're done talking, get to your car, whatever it is, just shoot her a text and
say hey this is whatever your name is it was so fun talking to you. Now she has
your number and then start texting and chatting together. This means asking her
out instead of waiting for her to ask you out or just hanging out with friends.
You can also call and text her. Really it just comes down to letting her know you
are interested in her. One of the best ways to end up in the friend zone is to
not let her know you're interested. You don't want that, it is so much easier to
stay out of the friend zone than to get out of the friend zone. So let her know
you're interested, flirt with her, complement her, all of these things
letting her know that you think she's attractive and that you're interested,
that is how you pursue. And we are to our bonus tip. Now I get comments from quite
a few of you actually expressing concern because you're not in your 20s or your
30s anymore and some of you are legitimately afraid that your time has
passed and that it is too late for you to find the type of woman you want and
to be attractive to a woman. But research actually shows that many women are very
attracted to older men. Like very attracted to older men. As a matter of
fact gray hair by a lot of women is seen as very very attractive. So please don't
ever feel like your time is past. That is certainly not the case and many many
women are actually attracted to you for the qualities that maybe you feel a
little self-conscious about. So there you have it my friend. According to
psychology that is what women really want in a man. To learn more about what
women want and how to get a girl to like you and how to get a girlfriend, be sure
to check out my online course. Guys, if you like my YouTube videos you are
going to be blown away by what you learn in my online course.
Just check out the link in the description below to learn more about
that. Seriously, check it out now and then we can hang out more, you know,
because then you can see me off of YouTube as well as on YouTube. So I'm
just saying, that's pretty cool. Thank you so much for watching my amazing friend!
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leave that in the comments as well. If we are not yet friends on social media we
totally need to be so check out the links for that as well. Speaking of
what women want and how to be attractive to them, I have a free guide for you that
you need. It is 17 Traits Christian Women Want Most in a Man. I think you're going
to find them as surprising and encouraging as these traits were. All you
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