- Why can't we do everything?
We should be able to do everything we want.
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What's up socials, welcome back to Amy TV,
your space to discover the life you want
the way that you make it.
Something a lot of people take notice about with me is
my level of productivity.
But they're not usually saying,
"Amy, how are you so productive?"
That's not actually the word that tends
to leave their mouth.
It usually sounds more like,
"Oh my gosh, you have a YouTube Channel?
"Oh my gosh, you're on another airplane?
"Oh my gosh, you own two companies?
"Oh my gosh you volunteer?
"Oh my gosh, you're a speaker?
"Oh my gosh, you wrote a book?
"You're just trying to make me feel stupid?
"Oh my gosh, how did you do that?"
It may not sound like a productivity conversation
right at the start, but when it comes down to it,
it's all about time management.
And the way that I'm able to get a lot of things done
that I've always wanted to do,
is by making time for it.
So I thought today we could talk about
some of those things, those tactics,
those ideas, the mentalities that I have
that might help you make time
to do everything that you'd ever want to do.
Before we jump in, if you're thinking
that video is one of those things
you want to make time for, make sure you check
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The first recommendation I have
for making time to do everything you want to do
is probably the most important one.
And that is recognizing that no one is going
to just give you permission to be awesome
until you have given it to yourself.
You can wait for someone to tell you it's time,
you can wait for someone to say you're qualified,
you can wait and wait and wait.
But until you actually do it for yourself
and say to yourself like, you know what?
No time like the present.
Whether you feel prepared or not,
you've got to do this.
Until you do that for yourself,
everyone else's permission is never going to matter.
Like I always say, everyone's on your team
when they feel like being on your team.
Until you are like that cool rock star in their eyes
because they can understand it,
know what to say to their friends about you
and feel excited for you, until you get there,
it's probably not going to happen,
you have to do the work first.
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I want you to make a list of things
that you've always wanted to do.
Make a list, write it all up,
put it together, look at it, analyze it and go,
that would be awesome!
Now, check that list and see,
is binge watching every single series ever created
on Netflix, front to back, and over and over again
on your list?
If it's not, you might want to reanalyze
some of that time you're spending on the binge watching.
Now listen, I love binge watching TV,
my husband and I do it all the time, I promise.
But, it's a treat when we get to do it
because of all the time we spend
going after the life we want.
The tough things we have to do,
the homework you had to do before you do the fun stuff.
I was in denial for so long about
how much TV I was watching and how bad it was.
I thought it was my habit,
I thought it was like my treat.
Every night after work I would come home
and watch my favorite shows.
And I remember sitting down as I was just getting started
in this industry, I sat down for lunch
with my friend Anthony Iannarino and he was like,
"Girl, you watch too much TV."
And I was like, I don't know if I do,
I mean like, I feel like I'm really productive,
even though I watch TV.
He really opened my eyes to a lot of things
because once you recognize how much time
is being spent there, you start to recognize
what you could be spending that time on.
Maybe it's not TV, maybe it's just going
to happy hour all the time because you have
nothing else better to do.
Or maybe you over-commit yourself
to a lot of events, things to go to
that you only kind of like some of the time.
It really isn't doing much for you.
Look at the list of things you want to do
and look at the list of the things
that you're actually doing by checking out your calendar,
or reminiscing about some of the stuff
you've been up to lately and say, is it aligned?
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Next I want you to identify your habit building personality.
I love Gretchen Rubin for bringing this to light for me.
She wrote a book called The Four Tendencies
and she has The Four Tendencies Quiz.
Basically, you take this really short quiz
and it tells you how you think
and how you interact with people
and how tasks come into your life.
When you do them, when you choose not to do them,
what type of habit-builder that you are.
When I found out I was a questioner,
my entire life changed.
I made a video about it immediately,
it's called Take This Quiz and Change Your Habits.
I highly recommend you watch that video
and take the quiz to find out, who are you?
And stop trying to change it.
Just lean into that, get used to it,
do some research around it and say,
how do I work with that
to get something cool done in my life.
If I stop trying to say I should be like Suzie,
or be this type of person, if I just say,
this is who I am and this is how I act
and this is how I make good on promises that I keep,
then lean into that.
Do those things, make yourself promises that
really match up with that list of things
you want to do, golden.
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Okay, now I want you to stop trying
to become a morning person,
because nobody wants to become a morning person.
But I do want you to start becoming
a person who appreciates your alone time.
Think, I mean, you may not even be able to remember
the last time you had alone time.
That's really unfortunate, because if you actually sat
with your thoughts for just a minute
and thought about things,
you might actually have quite an eye-opening experience.
The reason why people tell you to wake up early
is because those first hours of the day
are truly your best.
Whether it's working out, thinking, writing,
any of those things, you are your clearest
and ready for the day at the beginning of the day.
So let's say you sleep in a couple of extra hours,
no big deal, you wake up with the family.
Suddenly the kids, your significant other,
your boss, traffic, the news,
everything is taking your attention.
Social media comes into play and those best hours
that you have are completely stripped from you.
So instead of thinking of it as,
I have to wake up early if I'm ever going
to do anything with my life,
think about it as like, you really do have those hours
you could be getting back if you just moved
a couple of things around
and they would be the most productive hours of your day
and they would be all yours.
Would that make you rethink it?
That might turn you into a morning person real quick.
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if you want to make time for everything you want to do,
you need to pay attention to your calendar
and time and start talking it out.
For the time you're spending on things you actually do.
I made a video called, How to Plan Your Day.
It's a really great way to kind of walk through
how you prioritize and use things like calendar blocking,
which is a tactic that I absolutely love
to figure out how could make the most
of all the hours of the day.
But even if at a minimum you started tracking
what you do on your calendar, like you literally put
on your calendar, it took me an hour to cook dinner,
it took me a half an hour to eat dinner,
and then after that, we watched an hour of TV.
What if you just marked those times on your calendar
so you can really get a feel
for how much of that time was taken away from your day.
Not the dinner and TV as always taking away,
but you really start to understand
the equation of time and how much goes away so quickly
and all of a sudden, it's time for bed.
And then you've got to wake up the next day
and did you get that time for yourself
or did you just go straight to work?
Calendar blocking will make you really see
those moments that you can move some things around
and get a lot of time back into your life.
I highly recommend you check out that video
so you can get a much better description
of what calendar blocking is.
I'll even show you what my global calendar looks like
so you can start to apply it for yourself.
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Keep in mind, there is always, always something to do,
even if it feels like there's nothing to do.
You might have made that list and said,
okay I want to do all these things, great,
I have no idea how to start.
But that's okay, now's the time to start getting educated,
look into things, start getting an understanding
of what you need to do, what do you need to know?
As soon as I found out that video and social media
was exciting to me, I wanted to know everything about it.
I looked up every detail, I got educated on every front,
I knew every feature, how it changed,
and why it mattered.
And I started to become an expert in it.
The other thing is getting to know
the people you need to know.
Who do you need to get introduced to?
You can spend your morning hours
trying to find out who should I be reaching out to
that can make me closer to my goal?
Maybe I can have coffee with them,
maybe I can have a virtual coffee with them.
What can you be doing?
How can you get yourself educated now?
Because it may feel like you don't have anything to do
because you haven't gotten that far yet,
but there's a ton that needs to be researched
for you to move forward.
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Stop telling yourself you're a multi-tasker,
you're not a multi-tasker, there's no such thing
as multi-tasking, okay?
No matter what you're doing while you're watching TV
or you have a movie on in the background
or there's something going on.
You're having a conversation with somebody
while you're writing emails, don't worry,
I'm doing both at the same time,
I can totally multi-task, you're not.
Something is suffering, it is not going to pan out
for one of those things, okay?
Especially for those of you who try to do
like three things at once and I'm talking
to the parents out there.
I understand.
I mean, I don't understand because I'm not a parent,
but I understand why you think ...
If you're truly doing something effective
that is for that list of things
that you want to accomplish in your life,
give yourself the focus time.
If you do not focus at any point in this process,
you'll never get done, you will never finish.
I promise you, the process is going to suck.
Focusing on the things that are not fun
is going to suck.
Writing a book sucked for me,
I was not excited about it, it was very difficult.
Having a book, being able to sell it
and hold it in selfies and take pictures of people,
that's pretty fun.
But if I would not have focused and gotten it done,
it never would have happened.
I definitely was not multi-tasking
with other things going on when I was writing a book,
I can tell you that.
That didn't work, I definitely tried.
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Finally, I want you to keep in mind
you need to push through and just know
that the process is going to work out the way it does.
No need to complain, no need to stress out,
nobody else's timeline is yours,
everybody else's social media platforms look amazing,
because they are making the most of the moment
that they are in right now.
You can use that to stress yourself out
or you could do the same thing and be really appreciative
of where you are at this moment.
Don't complain, push through, keep doing the work,
stay focused, make the time.
Find it and make it, you have it.
You know what you and I have in common?
The exact same time in the day every day.
Exactly the same.
So if I have done anything that you've seen,
that you wish you would've done,
even if it was simply put this video,
I made time for this video and you didn't
and you were thinking, "Man, I wish I would have made
"a video about this, I think I could have done it too."
You could have.
When did you make time to strategize the video?
When did you make time to research it?
When did you make time to sit down and film?
When did you make time to curl your hair?
When did you make time?
Make the time.
Alright, it's time for you to go and do that.
Make the time for the things that you want to do.
But first, the question I want to ask you is what is it?
What is like the big thing that you want to do in your life?
It doesn't have to be this crazy bucket list thing
like go skydiving.
What is something you've always wanted
to accomplish in your life that you're now going
to start to work toward because we had
this conversation today?
Leave that in the comments below.
I want us all to rally each other on this thing.
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you want to make time for,
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That's all for today, socials.
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Cheers!