hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 10 psychology tricks to build
unstoppable confidence now let's begin number one work in progress hey are you afraid to fail
you may think failure's a sign of weakness or inferiority you may be afraid of being wrong
or looking stupid because you're afraid of what might happen you rarely take risks you make safe
decisions inside your comfort zone because your comfort zone gives you confidence but what happens
when you rely solely on your comfort zone well you may be confident in your personal bubble but that
confidence is fragile and it's limited as soon as you leave your comfort zone your confidence
disappears leaving you uncertain and afraid so how do you build confidence that lasts in and out
of your comfort zone how do you adapt to a risky situation even if you don't know what you're doing
well to build unstoppable universal confidence you need to change your relationship with failure
you shouldn't be afraid to make mistakes and you shouldn't be afraid to admit when you're wrong
there's nothing weak or inferior about failure because failure helps you recognize
your shortcomings and that recognition helps you grow personally and professionally if you never
admit that you're wrong you'll never learn what's right so remember this you are a work in progress
yeah you may be wrong as often as you're right but you're trying to improve and that's something
to be proud of number two the power of experience when you leave your comfort zone you encounter new
and exciting opportunities some opportunities will take you places you never expected
others will transform your passions or shape your lifestyle but you can only encounter extraordinary
opportunities by exposing yourself to new experiences at the center of every confident
person is a lifetime of experiences confident people aren't fearless or invincible they're not
workhorses or social butterflies they're students of life who learn through diverse experiences
to believe in themselves all right let's say you're starting a new job in a field that you
know nothing about on your first day you're a nervous wreck but on your second day yeah you
feel a little bit better and on day three you're starting to feel at home that's how confidence
works before you experience something new it is intimidating but once you overcome that hurdle
your mindset changes and you realize hey nothing is as frightening as it seems so how do you build
unstoppable confidence experience and lots of it you chase as many opportunities as you can
you expose your life and your mind to new jobs new people and new schools of thought you don't have
to understand or master everything you don't have to encounter everything the world has in store
if you want to build unstoppable confidence then all you need is the courage to try something new
number three embracing change what are you tolerating in your life is there a person
a job or an activity that you're too afraid to let go insecurity controls the good and the bad
things in your life it keeps you from chasing the best opportunities but it also prevents
you from letting go of things that make you unhappy just think about the choices that
you make each and every day and the people that you care about are you happy with the direction
that your life is headed too many people willingly tolerate a lifetime of unhappiness
they have the ability to change but they choose not to why because change is terrifying
you never know what else is waiting around the corner so you cling to familiar things and people
even if they make you unhappy so to build your confidence believe in your ability to change
empower yourself to make your own decisions and challenge yourself to be the person you want to be
think about what that person looks like what kind of life do they live what kind of people do they
surround themselves with now with that vision in mind you can start making small simple changes you
can get rid of an ugly piece of furniture you can wear an outfit that you've never worn before you
can learn how to curb your bad habits change gives you the confidence to make your own decisions
and each one of those decisions makes your life a little bit happier number four practice goals
how do you accomplish lofty lifelong goals how do confident people motivate themselves to take
gigantic risks well the most confident people pursue and achieve their goals but that does
take years of practice all right let's say you want to build confidence in your career
you start by accomplishing something small you create a handful of manageable goals for yourself
now on their own these goals are simple and easy but that's where confidence begins you start small
and then you build toward bigger risks and loftier goals but what do these small goals look like well
you start by identifying one massive lifelong goal now you shrink that goal down as small as you can
if you'd like to start your own business then you read one book about entrepreneurship if you want
to create your own novel then you write one page or maybe even one paragraph hey it's okay if your
goals are tiny in the beginning there's no shame in building from the ground up everyone starts
somewhere even the most confident and successful people years ago they were standing in your shoes
they were setting miniature goals for themselves and slowly developing their confidence after
years of practice they developed the unstoppable confidence to achieve their dreams and you can too
number five follow your advice do you give good advice many people give their friends and family
great advice but they don't listen to their own words of wisdom so to build more confidence take
your own advice if you tell someone to believe in themselves then hear what you're saying there's a
reason you're telling other people to do something it's because it's the right thing to do and deep
down you know that but you're scared to capitalize on your own understanding so try this alright next
time you're feeling conflicted pretend your friend came to you with a problem and they're looking for
advice what do you tell them now stare into a mirror and tell yourself what you think
they should do because the advice you give to others may be the advice you need to hear
number six the hard road in life we're confronted with two choices the easy road and the hard road
now most people dream of rising to the occasion but in the heat of the moment they choose the
easier path the most confident people develop their confidence by overcoming challenge after
challenge confident people struggle and work while others rest and relax in the long run these people
develop strength ambition and confidence because they dared to walk the harder road
so the next time you're making a difficult choice just imagine those two roads one easy and one hard
one comfortable and one challenging and when it matters most ignore what's comfortable and rise
to the occasion number seven brutal honesty have you ever been 100 honest with yourself
many people struggle with confidence because they aren't willing to identify their problems
they claim other people are responsible for their failures but your failures are all your
own if you haven't accomplished something then don't pass the blame onto someone else
don't act like you're the victim of someone else's mistakes and even if you are passing the blame
doesn't help you build confidence or find success in fact passing the blame hinders your personal
growth instead be painfully honest with yourself if you're unwilling to address your weaknesses
then you'll never be able to improve the same goes for your strengths spend some time honestly
reflecting on where you're strong and where you're weak because the more you know about yourself the
more confident you'll feel in who you are number eight express yourself have you ever stifled a
thought because you didn't have the confidence to speak your mind many people are unwilling to
express themselves they rarely speak their minds because they're afraid of what others might think
self-expression is a fundamental piece of your inward and outward confidence by learning to
express yourself you discover and empower your voice your opinion and your perspective
so give yourself a boost of confidence by daring to express yourself number nine talk to a stranger
are you afraid of awkward moments many unconfident people have a low tolerance for discomfort the
smallest bits of uncertainty may send you running for the hills but you can increase your tolerance
by forcing yourself into awkward situations all you have to do is talk to a stranger
a stranger represents a common obstacle you don't know what they think you don't know how
they'll react you imagine worst case scenarios and most of the time you run away from all those
catastrophic possibilities 99 of the time talking to a stranger is a painless experience but it
teaches you to face your fears so even if you have a boring conversation it takes confidence
and courage to open your mouth and speak so talk to strangers survive those unbearably awkward
moments because that tolerance will make you a more confident person number 10 control self-doubt
self-doubt isn't always a bad thing even the most confident people doubt themselves before taking
a big risk you experience self-doubt because the challenge in front of you is important you want to
be successful you want to make a good impression so you worry about making the right choices
but those worries and fears can easily take over you might feel trapped by your own insecurities so
how do you manage and control your self-doubt so when your thoughts are spiraling out of control
just step back and think hey why am i doubting myself when you're too close to a problem you get
swept up in the small stuff you overthink hundreds of impossible scenarios and then you lose track of
the big picture so back away gain some perspective and take control of your fears hey thank you for
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