- In this video,
I'm gonna share with you magnetic secrets
that make empaths energetically irresistible.
These are things that will increase your level
of magnetism in your body.
These are also things that will help you feel more safe
in your own body, safe in your own frame,
so that when you're dating,
when you're out there in the world,
you feel your most attractive and magnetic self.
Now, the first thing to understand about being an empath
is first off, what is an empath?
An empath is somebody that can feel
and empathize with other people
because they can really feel
and tap into what other people are thinking and feeling.
And with empaths, they very much are tuned to other people.
They can tune to other people's thoughts, feelings, emotions
and really feel into that.
Now sometimes what happens with empaths is they believe
that being an empath is a problem,
or they believe that it is like bad,
or it's something like they almost feel
like, "I'm too sensitive, I can feel too much
and that makes me less attractive."
Now, one of the things you want to understand about this
is when we have an insecurity
and we feel insecure about something,
because we feel insecure about it,
we project that energy out
and then sometimes, we may even attract people
that will manipulate that energy.
Because they will know that someone else tunes
to someone else so they may use that
and it might be manipulative.
That's why sometimes empaths attract narcissists.
Because that energy dynamic is playing off of the narcissism
that likes to control,
the empaths find value in other people's frame.
And that can be why that energy is attracted.
Now, one of the things though
about this to understand when it comes to empaths
is one of the most powerful things you can do
with being an empath
is to first off reframe what it means to be an empath
and to know that if you own it, it will transform it.
So if we feel guilty or we feel like,
it's almost like if we had like a mole
or we had something on our face
that's like a physical thing,
it's like imagine being shy
and someone that's shy feels guilty for being shy.
They feel like they shouldn't be shy.
Then they're out in public
and they're worried they're not saying enough or something.
And then someone else says, "Why are you so quiet?"
And they're literally reflecting back the insecurity
about being shy.
But if somebody were to own being shy
and not care and not be attached
to like what someone else thinks because they own it
like, "I'm not loud as hell, bro.
It's not that big of a deal."
Then that energy being emanated off of that person
because they own it,
it's very less likely
that someone's gonna say something like that.
Or even if they do say it,
it's not gonna affect you.
Now, whether it's a freckle, whether it's your height,
whether it's your eye, whatever it is,
whatever that is, if you own it,
it completely changes the level of magnetism.
So one of the things I recommend you do
is own this degree of empathy that you have
and use it and think of it as a benefit.
Think of it as like a superpower.
Now in a in a certain way though,
I don't wanna take this too far
because I do believe there's things to learn
from being an empath.
And we'll talk about that in this video for sure.
And I'm not saying it's a problem.
At the same time,
I'm not saying that it is the most powerful,
like it's not something to get too tied to
as far as the identity goes.
Because sometimes what happens
is we're then tied to the identity of being an empath
and we stay tied to that
and we have this like identity with being very sensitive
and feeling everyone's else's emotions.
And that can sometimes work against us
because then we feel like we're a victim of our environment
or a victim of other people.
But if you were to own being an empath
and just own that you may be more sensitive
and not feel guilty or self-conscious or insecure about it,
it will make your energy way more magnetic.
This works for everything, by the way,
not just being an empath.
This works for your height.
It works for if you have freckles
or something with your appearance or your personality.
You just own it.
And if you own it, other people feel that you own it
and they respect that.
And the insecurity is just not feeling certain
or not feeling like you're gonna be accepted,
but you can accept yourself.
You can own it and that changes everything.
Now, the second thing for empaths
that make them irresistible
has to do with learning how to hold your own frame.
This is probably the most magnetic thing you can do
because you already have a part
that a lot of people lack when it comes to relationships
and dating and dynamics in general.
And that is empaths
are normally, generally very good at listening.
They're very good at holding space
and listening and tapping into what someone else is feeling
and that can be very attractive.
Now, the thing to be careful not to get caught up in though
is tuning to someone else to please them,
and changing your own sense of gravity
and who you're projecting out
because you want someone else to like you or approve of you.
So one of the most powerful things you can do
is actually to feel safe in your own frame
and to not tune to someone else to get,
that's called people pleasing.
People pleasing is not attractive
because it's doing something to get a result.
I'm gonna please you to get you to like me.
I'm gonna please you to get your validation
or your approval.
And that literally implies a lack of value.
You don't have to please anybody
for you to feel and to be attractive
or for you to be and to feel enough.
You can give yourself that emotions and the validation
and the approval that you're craving in somebody else.
But with empaths, if they tune too much to the other person,
then the energy's being projected at them.
And when the energy's being projected at somebody else,
it repels them.
You don't wanna put all of your attention on somebody else.
I've shared this before in like five or six other videos
so I'm sorry if it's repetitive.
But at this life transformation spot
or this place I was at in Costa Rica,
there was like this training.
We were going through this energetic training
with this lady that gave a TED Talk.
And she did this thing where she's like,
"Everyone send energy to me right now."
And everyone was sending her energy
and it was making her back up and she's like,
"I can feel this."
And it was like repelling her.
"So now, everyone, bring the energy back into your bodies.
Bring it into your bodies.
Feel inside your bodies.
Bring it back to you.
Bring it back to you."
And she says that energetically it has a gravity,
has gravitation.
I have an empath video by the way
that will completely change, it's gone viral recently.
It'll completely change your perspective on empaths
and being in empath
and help you heal aspects of yourself
that are trying to find validation approval in other.
I'll link that at the end of this video.
But basically what happens is if we tune too much to others,
we are then diffusing our energy.
It's diluting it.
But when we bring the energy back to self
and we're saying things that we think is funny
and we're being in our own frame,
it is so magnetic and it changes everything.
It is so gravitate.
The frame technique
is something I've shared many times before.
And it is the one thing that changes everything
when it comes to magnetic energy for people.
Feel inside your hands.
Feel inside your feet.
Feel the separation between you and someone else.
And know that if they,
really what it is by the way,
if we're afraid of rejection
or afraid of someone else rejecting us,
it's an abandonment wound
that we normally got from childhood.
And we're trying to change ourselves to not be abandoned.
The challenge is that we've already abandoned ourselves
to do that.
We're abandoning ourselves
to like get someone else's approval
or to project something else out to other people.
So one of the most magnetic things you can possibly do
is to bring your energy back into your body
to feel safe inside of your own body.
And to understand that as you do that,
you are emanating off an energy that says,
"I'm safe and I feel present."
And present energy is one of the most attractive things
that there is.
Now when we talk about owning it,
and the third magnetic secret that I wanna share
when it comes to empaths
that will make you so much more magnetic,
it has to do with listening
and feeling inside of your body as you're listening.
So listening is already a benefit.
I know I talked that apart a little bit about number two,
but listening to someone else is very attractive.
It's holding energy.
A lot of times in today's society
if you're dating someone,
they just talk about themselves nonstop.
So when you're actually able to listen,
that's very powerful,
but at the same time,
you wanna also be able to hold your own frame.
So it's similar to the second secret,
but it really has to do with in your side of your body,
feeling the separation between you
and the person you're talking to.
And notice that if you say something like,
I'd really encourage what the third secret
is to really be vulnerable,
because that's actually more of the third secret,
to be vulnerable.
A lot of times as empaths, we feel other people's emotions
so we're afraid of being vulnerable
because we don't wanna get rejected.
We don't wanna be abandoned.
But being vulnerable was the key to me really embodying
the most magnetic version of me and attracting love;
sharing the real me.
And there's three different types of vulnerability.
There's social vulnerability.
There's emotional vulnerability.
And there's physical vulnerability.
And for me, what that meant is being vulnerable
in all three of those places.
So when I was dating someone,
I'd be physically vulnerable too.
I was always afraid to like be flirty
or touchy feely with people
because I was afraid of rejection.
I started doing that. It changed everything.
And it does put yourself out there
where you could get rejected.
But guess what?
It's something that then you realize
that even if you get rejected,
it's almost like you're saving time.
And if you get rejected,
it's not because you're not good enough.
It's just 'cause maybe it didn't resonate.
At the same time, what is social vulnerability?
That's the ability to walk up to someone
and introduce yourself,
not being afraid of other people like judging you.
And emotional vulnerability is actually being able
to express your real emotions, how you feel.
And one thing that I learned to do is to really express
like when I have emotions for someone
or I feel attracted to someone to express that.
Because as an empath or a people pleaser back in the day,
I would date someone for like for like a month or two.
And sometimes they would wonder
like I wouldn't either make a move
or I wouldn't emotionally be vulnerable.
And they'd be like,
they would like me but they wouldn't know
like where does he stand with me?
Does he like me?
And then eventually I started expressing that.
As I started expressing that, it was very clear,
totally different level of attraction.
So as an empath, realize you can own it,
but don't get too attached to the identity.
Let go of the people pleasing mentality
by realizing that that's just a coping mechanism
to try to get validation and approval from other people
and start to feel safe in your own body.
Start to bring the energy back.
Because as you bring the energy back,
you will be more magnetic.
You will be more attractive.
And you will notice
that as you feel safe inside of your own body,
it changes absolutely everything.
Now, if you have questions and you wanna ask me questions
or you want me to text you my top epiphanies,
the current books I'm reading,
and like powerful high vibe thought of the day,
I do this three times a week,
and all you gotta do is text me your question.
And I'll be answering these questions
in YouTube videos and stuff.
And you text me at 424-304-0104
or you can click the link on the top of my description box.
Text me your questions
and I'll be either replying to them,
answering them in YouTube videos,
and I'll send you two or three
of those top epiphanies things every week.
Now, as I mentioned earlier in the video,
there's an empath video that's going viral
that will change your life if you're an empath.
I swear it's one of the most powerful videos I have
on being an empath and how to transform it.
Watch this video right here.
What I share with you in this video I believe
is one of the most profound ideas
that has changed my life
when it comes to understanding
what it means to be an empath.
And recently I was in a live Q and A I was doing
for one of my groups
and I shared this idea and I could tell that it was like.