- Welcome to Just Between Us... - Extended
- Three point oh - Extended version
- What? - Added bonus footage
- Look - Added material
- Things are about to change big time - But in a good way, not in a bad way, not
in a "Is This What You Want" way -
a... am.. a more content way don't freak 'em out
- oh yeah sorry, hope your not freaking out here's the thing, a couple of things
are happening, one: Gaby is writing a book - I am, I'm writing a new book that's
coming out, yes - Yeah everyone knows
- Okay - I'm also working on a variety of things
- Yeah, we both are - And um and basically what's happened is
we don't have time to make sketches anymore
- Yeah - At least for now
- Yeah, we have other things that you guys will see that are coming out
- Well I wouldn't go that far
- Oh yeah - My thing's coming out
- Oh yeah - Our stuff is gonna be for consumption
- I... at least half of our stuff will eventually be for consumption
- Reach your ears and your eyeballs
that we really only have time to do the couch show,
- Yeah - We kind of like talked about what will
the couch show be, mostly because this one girl left a really mean comment
- It wasn't mean - It was pretty mean at one point she says
Maybe try being friendly to your fans instead of condescending and insulting as
F**k at pretty much every opportunity never mind the fact that Allison is
becoming unlikable in my opinion. - Oh that part was not nice
- So you don't think that's mean? - That part wasn't nice, there was some
genuine...
and then that part was just mean. What do you mean you can't read a comment isn't
that the whole reason they write comments? It feels like you have stopped caring
about the quality of your content. The half a**ing thing was endearing at first
and much less so now. I used to love this show so much, then she kind of bashes me a
bit more. A.. all of the criticism is just directed towards me.
- Yeah I guess that's why I didn't think it was mean
- It ends with her knowing, I'm unsubscribing but I love this show and
felt like I wanted to say something because I'm so disappointed and still
somewhat hopeful, not really if you unsubscribed. My first reaction to that
quit... - Quit the show?
- Quit everything
- No I do like nice things I'm just saying - I don't want you guys to think we don't
hear your nice comments we definitely do - Of course there are nice things that's
why I'm still here - No because there are people who
genuinely are like this show helps me I love it I wake up and watch you know what I mean
- Well so that's why I'm not giving up and - Right
-instead we're going to become more of your generic channel
-pff, I'll, no Allison all we're doing is making the videos longer
- No that's not all were doing you think that that's somehow all we're, we're not
answering advice questions anymore - Oh yeah
- Wer'e picking topics instead of questions - Oh yeah
- We're going to be more real and less jokey so what are you talking about that
it's just longer? - I think we'll still be jokey
theme music plays
- Welcome back to JBU three point oh -
- so since we're not going to have advice questions, at least for right now
-mmhhmm - You know give us the room to grow and to
change and to revert umm - Revert, go back?
- Yeah we could revert who knows? - Go back to how you were?
- Maybe, maybe we'll get really unbusy and then we'll have a sketch every week.
- I see yeah because everything could just plummet - Yes
- All of our other projects could die - Right
- When planning this episode.. - Uhuh
- Rigorously - Sure yeah I saw...
- And without, and without arrogance, I was like what topics do I wanna talk about
and it's something that's... this feels so weird - no tell me
- This new, okay, oh my god - This is like we're having a conversation
Tell me - Okay, so weird we haven't talked in years um
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-uh huh - maybe forever but lately for real
is my weight - Really?
- Yes - Really?
- So I don't know if you've noticed - But you work out so much
- Well here's what's interesting, I'm, I'm currently the heaviest I've ever been.
- What? - I'm also probably the strongest I've ever been
- Yeah you work out so much, you think that's why - It's because of my medication
- Ohhh - So after my breakup in April
- Mmhmm - I spiraled real bad to be fair
the spiral was coming - Yeah
- It wasn't like oh and then that happened and then I was suicidal it was like oh
and then I just became suicidal, what? - Yeah no I know what you're saying
- Okay yeah - I've done the same thing
- Yeah w.. tip of the iceberg anyway, after years of not being on medication
since I was twenty-one - mmhmm
- I, I needed to go on it, and I listened to myself and my therapist
-
- Yeah which is what I'm on - Still, your'e supposed to be off of that
- I'm on Zoloft and the other thing - Okay
- I'm on two things - Me too, so I'm on Zoloft and I'm also on
Bis.. I don't know anyway I think it's caused me to gain weight. Probably also my
eating habits. I've had a couple people mention to me that I should go off, people
very close in my life, said that I should go off of the medicine
-
- No - And switch, and switch medicines and try
to find a different medicine in order to lose weight
- But that's not there, there not prioritizing your mental health which is
the most important thing. - Right
- 'Cause finding one, a medication that works for you is so hard
- But I know it's so that's what's been this interesting thing where I'm like
unfortunately my bathroom is full of mirrors, every single day when I shower
I'm, I stare at my body and my body has very much changed and I have...
Sugar barks
Allison attempting to make dog noises
after she barks at that?
- No they just leave. Everyday in my bathroom...
- Yeah - I have to look at my body and how it's
changed and then I have to prioritize what's more important because it's not
like oh there isn't a different medication and that won't also work and I won't gain
weight on
like the most obligations and the most responsibilities
- And changing meds is like you might get nauseous it might not work It's like...
- Right - You might start crying randomly you
don't know - 'Cause I'm on the meds, the weight gain
doesn't affect me that much
- Like 'cause I'm like so fu**in' chill now that I'm like yeah I'm fat
both laughing
- I mean - You're also very in shape though
- Well that's what's interesting is that I'm by, I'm by far the strongest I've ever
been and probably in the best shape I've ever been in
- You have a trainer - Yeah
- You've like... - I can do a lot of push-ups
- Your mental health matters more than any weight gain also this idea that a certain
weight is better than another weight - When it happened, I went to John, my
boyfriend and he was like well I just think that people have different healthy
weights and I'm like I think that you look healthy
- Yeah - Like I think that it looked, you know
what I mean and that like I'm not a stick and also like my sister, her, it's like
taking me a really long time to just like realize that my body shape is never
gonna be her body shape. - Certain people like being a different
size, certain people's partners like them being a different size like it's not like
this one si.. I mean other than the media being insane but there's like not this one
size that is like attractive like I've been attracted to people of all kinds of
body sizes, people are happy at all different sizes like it doesn't matter
- Yeah, yeah and it definitely helps to have a partner who is so supportive and so
- mmhmm - and so, and so like um, what's it called
like if you say nice things? Complementary - Complementary. Well you say this all the
time. It doesn't matter what it actually is, it matters what you think of it.
- mmhmm - So it doesn't matter what your weight is
it matters how you feel about it. - Yeah and so right now I'm.. I'm.. I mean
am I thrilled when I see myself in the mirrors, uh, no but I am thrilled that I'm
doing better and that I'm like happier because a lot of times I've been much
skinnier and miserable. - You also have no concept of what's the
best part of you, like you're like when people are like Allison's thick...
- But in my defense - You're like eww
- In my defense - And like they love it, thick
is a complement - I did not think I was getting fat until
it was pointed out to me so it's not like oh this is all my internal things
- You're also not.. you're also not at all like the stereotypical definition of fat.
- Yeah but if you go to any of our videos there's at least one or two comments
recently that's Allison's getting fat. Allison's getting fat
- Oh people say that about me all the time - Yeah but I'm just saying it's not like
it's an interesting thing to have it come from an external source.
- mmhmm - Where like for the first time I wasn't..
- You were happy - Yeah I wasn't bringing it on myself and
then to have other people do that was like it was kind of devastating
- Awe - Anyway, real talk with JBU
- I also think that people that come at us and be like Gaby's getting fat or
Allison's getting fat are um misguided in what is an insult.
- I find that comments from other women are so much more hurtful to me than
comments from men. - Oh me too
- Like I had a Instagram photo recently and this girl just like ripped into me and
like make me so sad that like that's how she talks about other women.
- Yeah I always think about that. - It.. It like.. it was.. I was like so..
I like.. I almost wanted to like find her mom and be like...
- Are you okay? - Hi like your daughter is speaking to
other women like this. - They're viewing it as if you should be
like Kendall Jenner, do you know what I mean?
- mmh - But they are not Kendall Jenner
- I think this girl thought she was. - Do you know...
- Her bio was "I'm doing better than you are."
- What!? The fact that like anyone would think that you would be upset to gain
weight too, implies that gaining weight is bad or that being a certain body size is
bad which is like, if you're happy, not true
- And I also think it's we're not quite there yet where that's not still an insult
- Of course! - It's still.. like in our current society
it's intended to be an insult - I know
- And I think it's hard for it not to be taken as such
- Like the best thing that's attractive is like confidence and happiness and then
when someone comes onto a video and is like "Gaby's getting fat" I'm like
oh they're sad - Oh absolutely but I think it's also like
for me it's.. it's comparing what I used to be like, it's comparing.. it's not like
oh I've never been skinny and I'm just like obsessed with the idea, it's like
I have been significantly skinnier. - But you're skinny now.
- Am I? - I mean I just think it's with age
like as I've gotten older, I look completely different and I.. and I was
like "oh why don't I look like I did when I was a teenager?' and it's like of course
you're not going to, and I also like part of me, I like have a lot of problems with
my weight too and like with my body and part of me is just like you know what like
no one's gonna be like I don't want to have sex with that girl. Like.. like I'm
nit picking these things that like I have to just realize that no one else cares
about - mmhmm. I'm just happy that I'm in a
place where someone can say that to me and it doesn't ruin my day. Someone could tell
me oh I should get off my meds and to.. and to lose weight. And that's how fat I
am that I need to change my meds - Just f*ck up
- And for me to just say no I'm going to stay on my meds, I'd rather be happy like
being in that place is so much better that being skinnier.
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- 'Cause you have nice perky boobs, my girlfriend has perky boobs, so it's like
what am I even doing over here - You have big boobs
- I know but, I feel like the.. all the women you see in like magazines and stuff
have these like perky, little titties. - What magazines are you getting?
- Just perky titties magazine.
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