Arianna I wanted to open up by talking a little bit about the introduction to your book.
So you write about this collapse that you suffered that really made you reevaluate your
life, your priorities.
And I’m curious how mindfulness came out of that because you write a lot about health,
sleep, exercise and you could have very well, you know, taken a vacation, gotten some sleep
and then moved on.
Why did you decide to stop and focus on mindfulness as well?
For me this collapse eight years ago when I collapsed literally from burnout, sleep
deprivation, exhaustion – hit my head on my desk, broke my cheekbone and found myself
coming to in a pool of blood of my own.
That moment really made me reevaluate a lot of my life and in the course of my life I
had always been interested in mindfulness, in meditation.
My mother taught me to meditate when I was 13 living in Athens, Greece.
That was quite exceptional at the time.
I went to India and studied comparative religion before I went to college.
I’ve meditated on and off all my life so I’ve always been drawn to that aspect of
life.
What changed eight years ago is that I realized that I didn’t want this to be sort of episodic
journeys but to integrate them into my life on a daily basis.
And I studied the science which is pretty incontrovertible.
And then I became fascinated with how despite all that we know scientifically, behaviorally,
how hard it is for us to still change.
And that’s really a big part of Thrive that how can we move from knowing what is best
for us to actually doing what is best for us.
And to realize there are no tradeoffs between leading an effective life that will produce
results and get stuff done and also being mindful and taking care of that deeper dimension
of ourselves.
So when we talk about mindfulness today how would you describe its main tenants?
So what do we mean when we say we need our lives to be more mindful?
I love actually what John Kabat-Zinn has said about mindfulness which is that it’s really
heartfulness as well as mindfulness.
It’s really being fully present each moment of our lives, mind and heart and body of course.
And what follows is the recognition that thoughts are going to come, you know.
We’re not going to stop our thoughts but we don’t really have to follow them wherever
they go.
And that’s where, for me, breathing and consciously inhaling and exhaling is such
an essential part of mindfulness.
Because I use my breath to return to that centered place in us and let the thoughts
come and go instead of following every thought sort of slavishly wherever it wants to go.
And the other thing is that there has been as you know this avalanche of new scientific
discoveries that have validated ancient wisdom.
So philosophers as spiritual teachers have always known these things but now we have
modern science validating them.
For me some of the most important work is by Richard Davidson at the University of Wisconsin
who has actually used modern methods like MRIs and lasers on the brains of Buddhist
monks who’ve meditated for years to see some incredible results on the brain itself,
you know, in gamma waves that show how that the plasticity of the brain is extraordinary.
And we can actually affect how our brain functions and by being more mindful and taking time
to meditate and doing all these things.
In your book you refer a lot to Steve Jobs as kind of someone who really took this to
heart and managed to put things like mindfulness ahead of other things that people normally
link to success and ended up succeeding more so than almost anyone else.
In your mind is it possible to achieve that kind of success we can call Jobs a genius
if we want without mindfulness.
Is it actually an essential component or is it something that you can take or leave?
I think geniuses are so rare that I’m sure there are many ways to be a genius, you know.
By definition it does not conform to a standard deviation.
So I’m talking about all of us, you know, the rest of us who are not certified geniuses.
What makes for a life that is both more meaningful and more effective.
I like to use that word because we all want to be effective at whatever we are doing.
For the vast majority of people we know for certain that mindfulness enhances everything.
It enhances performance.
There is no tradeoff between being mindful and being effective.
It also enhances our own experience of life because if we just define life purely in terms
of success reduced to these two metrics of money and power, we are missing out on what,
for me, is the essence of life which you cannot really experience without that third metric
which is like the third leg of the stool.
In Thrive I define it as consisting of these four pillars – wellbeing, wisdom, wonder
and giving.
And that’s really what a complete life is.
And very often we’ve seen people who reach a level of success and then begin to integrate
giving or wonder.
By then it may be too late to integrate wellbeing because we now know that the toll that our
own health and immune system take if we live in ways that are consistently stressful.
And wisdom which has to do with decision making – again I quote a lot of people in the book
acknowledging like Bill Clinton who said that the most important mistakes I made, I made
when I was tired.
So the connection between exhaustion, sleep deprivation, et cetera, and bad decisions
is huge.