Hey, it's Mark here, founder of Make Him Yours and creator of the Find Love
in Five Steps system. Today, we're talking about mixed signals.
How do you handle them to find out what he's really thinking?
It's an area I've noticed a lot of women struggle with and if you don't get this right,
you can easily end up in the wrong relationship with the wrong guy.
So today, I'm clearing all the fog for you. Stay tuned.
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All right, so welcome. And today, we are talking mixed signals.
He's hot, then he's cold and he's hot again.
What are you supposed to do? Before we get into what exactly to do,
what exactly are mixed signals?
There is of course a lot of different situations where you might be
experiencing mixed signals.
For example, you could have met a guy say at work or out and about and you seem to click,
but his interest over text just seemed inconsistent.
Or perhaps you went on a great date with a guy, and the two of you got along, and you were
sure more was coming, but since then, he's just been really confusing.
A third situation I see a lot is where you've been seeing a guy for a little while casually,
probably sleeping together. You know going on dates,
but there is no official label there. There's nothing official.
He seems to act like your boyfriend when he's around, but then he disappears off
the face of the earth when he's not.
So situations like these can be really frustrating to deal with.
So what exactly are you supposed to do? Okay, so here is my two-step process.
Really simple to clarify exactly where a guy with mixed signals stands.
Step one, give the guy one clear positive indicator of your interest
and step two, do nothing. That's literally it. That's all you gotta do.
As long as you make sure that your signal is clear and positive, your job is done.
You want to see if your clear signal of interest gets a clear signal from him back
because otherwise, you consider him a 'No' and move the hell on to someone
who will appreciate you and appreciate a positive signal from you.
I mean think about it, when you like a guy and that guy gives you a clear, positive
signal, say asking you out, if you like that guy, are you ever going to let that drift?
Not a chance, right? You're going to respond because you're keen, and you want things to go
ahead, and if you're busy, you're going to suggest a different time. You're not going
to ignore him or give him half-ass answers. Well, the same applies in reverse. If you
invest in a man and give him a clear signal and you don't get one back,
you have your answer right there.
So you might be asking now what exactly constitutes a clear signal?
Well, it depends on the situation. It could be you asking him out for coffee.
Uh, it could be you texting him to hang out or down the line,
it could be you bringing up with him the conversation
that you'd like to be exclusive and see where things go. I suppose the point is that if
you raise things and he doesn't reciprocate, for example, you ask him out and he says he's
busy, or you say you want to be exclusive, and he says he'd rather keep it casual, you
have your answer, don't you?
A lot of women resist the idea of, you know, moving things forward themselves
because they're worried it will seem desperate. But I promise you, absolutely promise you
it's a great tool that every confident woman has in her arsenal. Men can be terrified of
rejection too. So sometimes you taking the first step for him is all he needs to just
take over momentum from there and get him over the line. A courageous woman, she can
chase a man once without feeling like she's needy. I also get asked, what if you do this
though and he keeps being flaky, like it gets you a day. But then he goes back to the
same old pattern? Consistency really matters with this stuff. So if he's only willing to
work for you in small bursts, my advice would be honestly, you can do better.
So look, in summary, you clarify mixed signals by clarifying your own signals first.
Give the guy one clear positive indicator of your interest. And if he isn't damn excited
to hang out with you after that, find another one who is. Don't keep chasing guys who won't
chase you. You'll end up with bad relationships if you try.
Thank you so much for watching today. I hope you enjoyed the video.
If you want more information on this topic, I actually have a five-part audio
series called How To Tell If A Guy Likes You. It's the complete guide to reading all
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So signals that are reliable, signals that aren't, signs of a player give
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to you again in another video very soon.