9 Things You Should NEVER Apologize For Skills Men Must Master
[0:00:00] So, I’m watching a debate the other day,
and there was a part in the exchange that I thought was absolutely amazing.
So, the person conducting the interview, whose values seem to line up with cancel culture
said this, “Why should your right of freedom of speech trump another person's right not
to be offended?” Immediately, the gentleman replied, “Because in order to be able to
think you have to risk being offensive.” Now, I’m sure some of you guys know what
interview I’m referencing, and I’ll reveal it here in a couple minutes. But, I want to
discuss in detail the point that he makes here. And that point is a man who has the
courage to think for himself and express his opinion risks offending those who hear it.
Now, a lot of people think that this is something new, that social media has brought about the
rise of this canceled culture. Now, the reality is this has been with us since human beings
had the ability to communicate. Seriously, just as Socrates, considered to
be one of the greatest thinkers of all time, who did wonders to help the youth of Athens,
yet he was put to death in his old age simply because he stated his opinion and made some
people look like fools. In today's video, gents, I’m listing out
things that a man should never have to apologize for.
[Music] Now, let me be clear on that first point,
yes, you should never have to apologize for an opinion that you strongly hold and you've
thought through and that others disagree with you. That being said, be ready for a storm,
because many people they don't like to be offended.
They don't like to have somebody point out that they could possibly be wrong and they
may come at you. So, just because you don't have to apologize doesn't mean that other
people aren't going to come after you. Next up, you shouldn't have to apologize for
success on the athletic field, in academics, in business. If you happen to make a lot of
money and you earn this ethically and following the laws, you shouldn't have to apologize
to anyone. It's not like you're taking. And so many people have this misconception of
how it works building value. Whenever you create a business, whenever you're
out there working and adding value to a company, you're increasing the size of the pie. It's
not like you're taking from others. And that's the key is to make sure that you do this ethically.
But, if you're just an amazing person at I don't know, polo. This is a sport that you've
trained for. You've put in the hours, so that you're amazing at football or soccer. Whatever
it may be, no apologies because you put in the work and now you're reaping the benefits
of that success. The same with business, the same with academics, never apologize for being
good. Next, you don't have to apologize for saying
no. You've got a limited amount of time a limited amount of resource. And people -- there's
a lot of people out there that ask for a lot, continuously try to take advantage of other
people. If you say, you know what? I just can't give
any more of your time of your resources and you just simply put a barrier. This is going
to be my boundary, do not cross this, I’ll give a bit, but I’m not going to give anything
more. You don't have to apologize for knowing your limits.
Next up, never apologize for taking care of yourself. Now, let me be clear, I’m not
talking about knocking kids out of the way, so you can be the first one to eat at the
buffet. Chris, yeah, I’m talking to you. Nope. What I’m talking about here is that
dreaded word self-care. But let me put it in these terms. You're on an airplane and
those oxygen masks come down, what do you do? You put yours on first and then you help
those around you. If you're not taking care of your body, if
you're not working on improving your mind, if you're not taking the time to exercise
and to improve this one body this one mind that you have, guys, you're really doing yourself
a disservice and those around you because you won't be able to pull your own way, let
alone help others. And, speaking of sharpening the mind, let's
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Go check them out, I highly recommend it. Next up, never apologize for asking questions,
for seeking clarification. Most people don't do this because they don't want to look stupid.
Don't be afraid to simply ask for more clarification, to be able to go into detail say, “Hey,
can you really explain to me?” You know, there's nothing wrong, you don't have to apologize
for this. It's not like you're stupid. You just simply
don't understand it. You don't get it and you would --here's the thing is there's a
lot of people probably in that classroom, a lot of people there at work that have the
same question as you, but they don't have the courage to ask. So, ask and don't apologize.
Now, some of you guys are probably thinking, “Antonio, you need to apologize for that
choice of shirt that you're wearing today.” Here's the thing, I'm never going to apologize
for my fashion choices. I'm having fun. I want to express myself. It's beautiful outside,
I'm like, “You know what? I'm going to bring a little bit of color to today's video.”
Point being, gents, is feel free. I mean, we're a style channel, feel free to use your
image and your presentation to send the message you want to send. That being said, yes, be,
you know, aware of dress codes, be aware of the message you're sending, and have the courage
though to wear which you want to wear. Next on this list, never apologize for failure.
Yes, you are going to fall on your face, your business may just not work out. You may let
the team down because you took that last shot and it didn't go in.
Here's the thing. You had the courage to try. You trained and you did what you could. It's
not like you wanted to miss. You didn't throw the game, you just simply missed the shot.
No need to apologize if you give your all whether it be your company whether it be simply
at work. And, yes, you get fired. You don't need to
apologize to your family. You're going to find a way to succeed. You are going to find
a way to get another chance and when you get that next chance, take it and never apologize.
Now, gents, if you've apologized or seen somebody apologized for something that was they probably
didn't need to was a bunch of BS, do me a favor smash that like button, so more men
can find this video and have the courage to simply not apologize to be themselves.
And I would love to hear from you guys down in the comments if you've got stories, if
you've got something to add to today's video, I want to hear you.
Next up, never apologize for telling the truth, especially when it needs to be said. And here's
the thing is the truth can hurt. And I'm not saying that you need to be blunt all the time
and that you need to say things when, yeah, nothing really needs to be said.
But, if the truth needs to be aired if somebody has to, you know, be honest with somebody
that's asking for feedback, never be afraid to tell the truth and never apologize for
it. Now, this point right here may be the most
important one in the video, but never apologize for who you love, for who you are, for where
you come from. Yes, you know, I know me, I'm a trailer park kid. There's a reason that
I can't pronounce a lot of things. I've got -- I used to have a really bad stutter when
I was a kid. I went through speech therapy and that's simply who I am.
I'm not going to apologize. I try to be better. I always try to learn. I try to improve myself
and I understand that there are limitations just simply of me being a human being, being
a father that tries to spend time with his kids, spend time with his wife.
I'm not going to apologize for not maybe putting out, you know, more content for not doing
maybe what some people think I should do and the way I should say things. This is me, this
is who I am. And understand, I don't care, you know, who you are and who you love, you
know, this is your life, live it for yourself. All right, gents, so what video to watch next?
How about eye contact skills that every man must master? Seriously, if you don't understand
eye contact, you're, you know, you can get through life, but it's so much better when
you master eye contact and you understand these rules that I cover in this video right
here. What are they? Find out, guys, the video is
right here. Yes, click on it. [0:09:35] End of audio