Actually I was gonna tell you about the words like, um like you know, just like, would you
really want me to teach you like this in this manner using these words? Well it just seems
that I'm not very confident about what I'm teaching. So there are some words in English
that people tend to slip into their conversations and that just makes them sound less confident
and that's what we are gonna look at in this lesson today.
Hey friends, it's me Niharika,
well at times when we are having a conversation we tend to use certain words that make us
sound less confident. Well this happens unconsciously. We don't really mean to use these words but
they just pop out, out of our mouth. So we are gonna look at these words which we should
definitely avoid. People generally use these words to buy time to think to what they want
to say. But avoid them if you want to come out as a very confident person. What are these
words? Well that's what we are gonna look at.
The first word that I'm gonna help you with is ‘actually’. So when do we use the word
‘actually’ in English? Well when we have to emphasize our statements. Okay, so if you
want to emphasize on what you are saying, you can use the word ‘actually’. But,
if you end up using the word ‘actually’ every now and then, then people are not gonna
take you seriously. You would just sound very uninformed and pitiful. For example, this
is what people make a mistake with, for example they end saying that, “Actually I was about
to do this, but actually, I totally forgot, actually I was gonna come but I couldn't make
it.” Actually, that's the problem. You don't have to slip in this word in each and every
sentence that you say. If you tend to use this word as a filler you are not gonna sound
confident and people will not take you seriously. So I know it's difficult but try to delete
this word out of your vocabulary, okay? Please tend to avoid using, “actually this happened”
and “actually I went there” and “actually I couldn't move” well, actually you need
to take this word out of your vocabulary. Just use it when you have to emphasize a statement
of yours, okay?
Moving on to another word which is commonly used by many people, of course this word just
comes out unconsciously, even I tend to use the word ‘basically’ many at times but
yes, even I need to cut this down. So when do we use the word basically? Well we use
this word when we have to summarize on what we just said. So when you have to summarize
your conversation, you can end it by saying, “Basically this was the whole situation.”
or “Basically this was the reason why I could not go there.” But, many people use
this word as a filler. “Basically I just want to tell you that you need to work on
these sheets.” “Basically you will be late to work.” “Basically I will be out
of time.” Stop using the word ‘basically’, okay? It is also considered as very unprofessional
and people will not take you seriously if you use the word ‘basically’ way too much,
okay?
Moving on to another filler or the word that would make you sound less confident is the
word, ‘like’. Now in English we use the word like when we really like something, like
when we adore something or you also use the word ‘like’ when we find similarities
between two things, okay? Something common in two things, “Oh! This dress is just like
mine.” Okay? We end up using the word, ‘like’. But many people slip the word ‘like’ in
their conversation just like that. Like they end up saying, “Like you know what I was
trying to tell you,” “Like we had a great time,” “Like the movie was so amazing,
like it was just perfect.” Well why to add the word ‘like’? It's an extra word. Why
waste your time and energy using the word when it's not required. So again please take
out the word ‘like’ if you tend to use this involuntary in your sentences, okay?
Moving on to another one which is again just use the word like, ‘just’. “Just wanted
to talk to you.” “Just wanted to spend time with you.” “Just thought of calling
you.” “Just thought, catching up for a movie.” So why use the word ‘just’ at
the beginning of each and every sentence that you have to say, okay? It's again considered
as a very bad filler and if you tend to use the word just for everything then please stop
using it, okay? So no ‘just’. Just say, that “I would like to go for a movie.”
“I want to talk to you.” “I want to spend time with you.” Not using the word
‘just’, okay?
Moving on to another one, ‘kind of’, ‘sort of’. Now people use this, “The movie was
‘kind of’, ‘kind of’ weird.” The song is ‘sort of’, ‘sort of’ different.
Well ‘kind of’, ‘sort of’ is generally used by people who just seemed to be so confused.
It just seems that they cannot have a control over the situation. So when people, especially
who belong to the corporate world if they tend to use the words like ‘kind of’ and
‘sort of’, it will not make them sound professional. The boss is not going to appreciate
it, the clients are not gonna like it and the colleagues are definitely not gonna like
it. So using the word ‘kind of’ and ‘sort of’ just makes you sound less confident
and just makes you sound very unreliable. So stop using these words like ‘kind of’
and ‘sort of’ because these words may backfire upon you. So please don't use ‘kind
of’ or ‘sort of’ in your conversations.
The next one, ‘sorry’. Why do we use ‘sorry’? Well to apologize, right? But have you heard
people coming up to you and say, “sorry, I just wanted to talk to you.” “Sorry,
I just made a call but she hung up.” Sorry, I tried to make it.” Why use the word ‘sorry’,
when you are not here to apologize. Slipping in the word ‘sorry’ in each of your sentences,
in a conversation of course doesn't sound great. Now just use the word ‘sorry’ to
apologize, okay? But where apologies are not necessary why is the word ‘sorry’ unnecessarily,
right? So please delete the word ‘sorry’ if you have been using in your sentences.
Yes! If you make a mistake and you want to apologize then please do use the word ‘sorry’,
okay?
And then the last one which is commonly used by teenagers these days. Well the f-bomb.
Well I hope you got what I'm saying the f-word. Yes we have many curse words in English that
youngsters love to use in each and every sentence of theirs. Stop using it. It just comes out
in a very offensive manner, you do not sound great? What people think you sound cool? No!
People are not gonna appreciate you using the curse words. Using the F words like for
everything that you want to say that for example you get hurt and you say, “F***, I got hurt.”
“F***, I missed the movie.” “F***, we are late.” Why use the F word just say that
“we are late”. “Oops, I got hurt.” “Ouch, it hurts.” Right? So stop using
the offensive curse words in your sentences people are not gonna like having a conversation
with you and of course people are not gonna take you seriously, right?
So these are some fillers that people tend to use in their statements or in their conversations
if you are using it then please try to avoid using them I know it's quite a difficult task
because you've been doing this probably all your life but stop using it and come out as
a very confident person when you speak English and I'll be back with a new lesson soon till
then you take careActually I was gonna tell you about the words like, um like you know,
just like, would you really want me to teach you like this in this manner using these words?
Well it just seems that I'm not very confident about what I'm teaching. So there are some
words in English that people tend to slip into their conversations and that just makes
them sound less confident and that's what we are gonna look at in this lesson today.
Hey friends, it's me Niharika, well at times when we are having a conversation we tend
to use certain words that make us sound less confident. Well this happens unconsciously.
We don't really mean to use these words but they just pop out, out of our mouth. So we
are gonna look at these words which we should definitely avoid. People generally use these
words to buy time to think to what they want to say. But avoid them if you want to come
out as a very confident person. What are these words? Well that's what we are gonna look
at.
The first word that I'm gonna help you with is ‘actually’. So when do we use the word
‘actually’ in English? Well when we have to emphasize our statements. Okay, so if you
want to emphasize on what you are saying, you can use the word ‘actually’. But,
if you end up using the word ‘actually’ every now and then, then people are not gonna
take you seriously. You would just sound very uninformed and pitiful. For example, this
is what people make a mistake with, for example they end saying that, “Actually I was about
to do this, but actually, I totally forgot, actually I was gonna come but I couldn't make
it.” Actually, that's the problem. You don't have to slip in this word in each and every
sentence that you say. If you tend to use this word as a filler you are not gonna sound
confident and people will not take you seriously. So I know it's difficult but try to delete
this word out of your vocabulary, okay? Please tend to avoid using, “actually this happened”
and “actually I went there” and “actually I couldn't move” well, actually you need
to take this word out of your vocabulary. Just use it when you have to emphasize a statement
of yours, okay?
Moving on to another word which is commonly used by many people, of course this word just
comes out unconsciously, even I tend to use the word ‘basically’ many at times but
yes, even I need to cut this down. So when do we use the word basically? Well we use
this word when we have to summarize on what we just said. So when you have to summarize
your conversation, you can end it by saying, “Basically this was the whole situation.”
or “Basically this was the reason why I could not go there.” But, many people use
this word as a filler. “Basically I just want to tell you that you need to work on
these sheets.” “Basically you will be late to work.” “Basically I will be out
of time.” Stop using the word ‘basically’, okay? It is also considered as very unprofessional
and people will not take you seriously if you use the word ‘basically’ way too much,
okay?
Moving on to another filler or the word that would make you sound less confident is the
word, ‘like’. Now in English we use the word like when we really like something, like
when we adore something or you also use the word ‘like’ when we find similarities
between two things, okay? Something common in two things, “Oh! This dress is just like
mine.” Okay? We end up using the word, ‘like’. But many people slip the word ‘like’ in
their conversation just like that. Like they end up saying, “Like you know what I was
trying to tell you,” “Like we had a great time,” “Like the movie was so amazing,
like it was just perfect.” Well why to add the word ‘like’? It's an extra word. Why
waste your time and energy using the word when it's not required. So again please take
out the word ‘like’ if you tend to use this involuntary in your sentences, okay?
Moving on to another one which is again just use the word like, ‘just’. “Just wanted
to talk to you.” “Just wanted to spend time with you.” “Just thought of calling
you.” “Just thought, catching up for a movie.” So why use the word ‘just’ at
the beginning of each and every sentence that you have to say, okay? It's again considered
as a very bad filler and if you tend to use the word just for everything then please stop
using it, okay? So no ‘just’. Just say, that “I would like to go for a movie.”
“I want to talk to you.” “I want to spend time with you.” Not using the word
‘just’, okay?
Moving on to another one, ‘kind of’, ‘sort of’. Now people use this, “The movie was
‘kind of’, ‘kind of’ weird.” The song is ‘sort of’, ‘sort of’ different.
Well ‘kind of’, ‘sort of’ is generally used by people who just seemed to be so confused.
It just seems that they cannot have a control over the situation. So when people, especially
who belong to the corporate world if they tend to use the words like ‘kind of’ and
‘sort of’, it will not make them sound professional. The boss is not going to appreciate
it, the clients are not gonna like it and the colleagues are definitely not gonna like
it. So using the word ‘kind of’ and ‘sort of’ just makes you sound less confident
and just makes you sound very unreliable. So stop using these words like ‘kind of’
and ‘sort of’ because these words may backfire upon you. So please don't use ‘kind
of’ or ‘sort of’ in your conversations.
The next one, ‘sorry’. Why do we use ‘sorry’? Well to apologize, right? But have you heard
people coming up to you and say, “sorry, I just wanted to talk to you.” “Sorry,
I just made a call but she hung up.” Sorry, I tried to make it.” Why use the word ‘sorry’,
when you are not here to apologize. Slipping in the word ‘sorry’ in each of your sentences,
in a conversation of course doesn't sound great. Now just use the word ‘sorry’ to
apologize, okay? But where apologies are not necessary why is the word ‘sorry’ unnecessarily,
right? So please delete the word ‘sorry’ if you have been using in your sentences.
Yes! If you make a mistake and you want to apologize then please do use the word ‘sorry’,
okay?
And then the last one which is commonly used by teenagers these days. Well the f-bomb.
Well I hope you got what I'm saying the f-word. Yes we have many curse words in English that
youngsters love to use in each and every sentence of theirs. Stop using it. It just comes out
in a very offensive manner, you do not sound great? What people think you sound cool? No!
People are not gonna appreciate you using the curse words. Using the F words like for
everything that you want to say that for example you get hurt and you say, “F***, I got hurt.”
“F***, I missed the movie.” “F***, we are late.” Why use the F word just say that
“we are late”. “Oops, I got hurt.” “Ouch, it hurts.” Right? So stop using
the offensive curse words in your sentences people are not gonna like having a conversation
with you and of course people are not gonna take you seriously, right?
So these are some fillers that people tend to use in their statements or in their conversations
if you are using it then please try to avoid using them I know it's quite a difficult task
because you've been doing this probably all your life but stop using it and come out as
a very confident person when you speak English and I'll be back with a new lesson soon till
then you take care....