Heya playa, have you ever seen a picture of a girl on Instagram and left a comment only
to be called a... SIMP SIMP YOU'RE A SIMP, that? Does complimenting a girl make you a
simp? Well, I'm gonna give my honest opinion right after this. This is The Josh Speaks.
You're watching The Josh Speaks. For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh
and every single week I make videos sharing tips, ideas, and stories teaching you how
to be your best self. And the reason people might be calling you a simp is because they
don't really agree with the type of behavior that you're displaying towards this person
that you know online. This girl that you like, that you think about, that you dream about,
that you're commenting on her posts. Those people might call you a simp because they
feel like you just want attention from that girl. You want her to notice your posts, you
want her to just simply acknowledge you so by leaving compliments telling her she's beautiful,
telling her she's amazing, you're hoping that she'll do that. But let's be honest here.
Most of the time people call someone a simp, they're not really trying to call out a specific
type of behavior. They've broadened the word so much that it's just become an insult at
this point. "You told a girl she's beautiful? Simp!". "You confessed your feelings to someone
that you like? Simp!". "You paid money for a girls OnlyFans or Patreon to support them?
Simp!". In my opinion, I think the problem runs a whole lot deeper than guys just vying
for attention. I think there's actually an issue with toxic masculinity here. Now now,
buzzword. Sound the alarms, people are going to go crazy cause I said it. Let me explain
because this idea has existed in our culture for the longest time. If a guy isn't living
up to the standard of what a man "should" be, he's often viewed as lesser than. And
because of that, there are certain words that are attributed to him. He's a wimp, he's a
wuss, he's a sissy, he's a girl, he's a b*tch, he's gay. And now, simp is added to that list.
And if you really want to understand why people use these words, we need to do a bit of self-reflection.
A lot of times when people feel the need to insult others and bring them down, it's from
a place of insecurity. They feel like they're seeing someone do something that they would
never want to do themselves. That it makes them feel uncomfortable seeing someone else
in that position. So by insulting them, they feel powerful. They feel above that person,
they feel like "hey, he's this thing. I'm not that thing and therefore I'm not gonna
get judged in the same way that I'm judging him". But real masculinity is not about warding
off or pushing away any type of "sissy" feelings. It's about being a real leader, a real caretaker,
a real provider, a real person. And when I say real, I mean REAL. You're genuine and
honest about your feelings. Some days you're sad, some days you're angry, some days you're
happy and you're not afraid to express those emotions. There's no need to suppress how
you feel just to maintain this stoic male image. But that's not to say that simp behavior
isn't a real thing. There are guys that are willing to do anything just to get validation
and attention from a girl and I think that comes from a deep place of insecurity. They
don't feel secure with who they are so they think that by complimenting this person that
they have this type of parasocial relationship with and that girl acknowledging them by liking
their post or commenting back is gonna make them feel more fulfilled as a person. So when
it comes to complimenting a girl online, you need to ask yourself this deep question. Am
I doing this because I genuinely support this creator and this person or am I doing this
because I want that attention from them? If it's the first one, that's great. There are
tons of awesome female creators out there making amazing things. So if you wanna be
there to support their work, that's perfect. But, if you feel like you're in this parasocial
relationship where every time they post a picture you feel like it deeply speaks to
you and you'll do anything you can to get their attention, that's when it's probably
best for you to kind of take a step back. Re-evaluate your connection with that person
or maybe even just stop following them altogether. And for all the haters out there that are
just ragging on your every move, commenting on every compliment you put up or every post
you make. That deep level of insecurity is something that they need to work on. But that's
their problem to carry, not yours. I have way more opinions to share on simp culture
and behavior but first I wanna give a huge shout out to all my patrons and YouTube channel
members. These are the people that help the channel grow plus my Champion level members
are people I talk to on video chat one on one every single month. So if that's something
you're interested in doing, check out the link to Patreon down below, and let's talk.
Now what I want you to do is to check out the video link over there on the side. That's
going to go deeper into my opinions and thoughts on simp behavior. How to avoid doing it, how
to not get mixed up in just chasing girls that don't even maybe know who you are. Check
out those videos guys, I think they'll be super super helpful. On that note, I'll catch
you next time, as always love and peace.