Hey, what's up, gentlemen? Today we're going
to talk about how the meaning of hypergamy
will get you out of the friendzone.
So my name is Mossab Alsadig.
I am dating relationships coach.
I've been with many women and I'm happily
married. And I'd like to help you do the
exact same thing.
And by the end of this video, I'm going to
give you a bunch of ways that hypergamy will
get you out of the friendzone. I'll teach
you what women actually want, what you think
they want, and why it's wrong and what they
actually want, and how you can take steps to
actually make yourself attractive enough so
that women take you out of the friendzone
into dating you and getting into
relationships with you. All right.
Stay tuned.
So let's start off with explaining why you're
in the friendzone. What possible reasons
could there be for being in the friendzone?
And we'll talk about how to get out of it
using the definition of hypergamy and female
nature in general. So first of all, the only
reasons you would be in the friendzone is
one if you're not attractive enough and you
might think, duh, but I'm going to expand on
that in great detail.
Or you're just too timid to make a move.
So the first one, you are not attractive
enough to the woman. Or you started off by
doing too much comfort building and not
enough attraction building. So in courtship
and seduction, in the courtship process,
there's a specific set of things that you
have to do in a specific order in order to
get the girl in bed with you.
Right. It's the same thing as looking at a
bird that has this dance, a particular dance
or specific song sequence that they do.
Right. They sing a specific thing and that's
what gets the female birds attracted.
Apes and chimps have a specific mating
sequence that they do, and humans have it,
too. So what you need to do at the beginning
is generate enough attraction so that she
actually wants to stay in conversation with
you. She's intrigued by you, she's sexually
attracted to you, and only then do you skip
into comfort.
And what comfort is, is getting to know
them, building rapport, building that
connection, telling stories about each
other, getting to know their interests and
mutual commonalities and all that.
But the problem is, a lot of guys jumped
straight into this comfort building without
spending enough time in the attraction
building. So guys are really good at asking
girls questions, being there for her,
actively listening, all this sort of stuff.
But guys are not good at attraction building
meaning teasing, meaning breaking rapport,
meaning cracking jokes at her expense,
right? In a funny way.
In a provocative way. Guys don't know how to
tell good stories that makes them seem
attractive. Guys don't even know what
attractive qualities they need to show.
Right? It's not just about being nice.
It's about being a leader, being
pre-selected by other women, showing the
other women like you, all this sort of stuff
that I talk about continually on my channel.
Guys do not do this.
And so when you jump straight into comfort,
this girl thinks, Oh, he's a nice guy, he
seems cool. You know, he's he's comfortable,
he's nice. But they're not attracted to you,
right? They're not sexually attracted to
you. And you need to have that first before
you jump into comfort.
And because when you jump into comfort after
you have attraction, then she thinks he's an
attractive guy and he likes me.
Right. And that's a very powerful
combination that will get them into bed with
you. But if you don't do that, if you jump
straight into comfort and you try to have
this connection building and being the nice
guy and being, you know, just safe and
comfortable, she's not attracted, not
attracted enough, and you're not attractive
enough to her to for her to want to get into
bed with you so you'll be stuck in the
friendzone. She'll think you're cool and she
wants to keep you around, but she doesn't
want to actually jump into bed with you.
The other reason is that you're too timid,
so maybe you didn't do it enough.
Attraction building, you crack jokes, you
tease, and then you get into comfort.
You figure out her story, you tell her your
life story, and you guys are bonding.
But at some point you need to seduce, right?
So it's attraction, comfort, and then
seduction. And if you don't seduce at some
point, if you don't actually pull the
trigger, if you don't sexually escalate,
physically escalate, nothing will actually
happen. And a lot of times not a lot of
times, but a good amount of times women will
say, hey, I mean, this guy was into me.
I was into him.
But I mean, things just kind of fizzled out.
I don't know why he didn't make a move.
And it's because the guy is too timid to
actually take that chance. Right?
He risks being rejected.
And guys don't know how to get over that
hurdle of just, you know, physically
escalating, grabbing her, bringing her in
close and escalating to the point of sex and
beyond. And so if you don't do that, she'll
eventually get impatient or she'll just
think you don't like her or she'll think
you're gay, whatever the case may be, and
she'll get turned off and then she'll seek
somebody else and she'll put you in the
friendzone afterwards, because, again,
you're too timid, right? And guys don't want
a guy that's timid. They want a guy that's a
go getter that knows how to take risks and
takes chances to get what he wants.
So if you're not that type of guy, you need
to figure out how you can build up that
muscle of being a risk taker, of not being
so risk averse. Right.
If you're not able to just touch and risk
her being turned off and if she does get
turned off, you can say, oh, sorry, I didn't
mean to like whatever and you continue the
conversation, right? But if you're not able
to do that, if you're not able to pull her
in for a hug or do whatever you need to to
physically escalate towards sex, then you're
not going to actually get out of the
friendzone no matter how much attraction you
actually have. So it's one of those two
things. What you need to understand is that
when you get put into the friend zone, when
you get put in that box, you're categorized
and women, when they categorize you, it's
very hard for you to leave that box.
It also works the opposite, right?
Once a woman thinks you're a fuck boy and
you're a player, and that you don't have a
future like relationship, like a solid thing
together, she will never want to get in a
relationship with you. Right? It's very hard
for you to change that around and convince
her that you're actually a stable, cool guy
that wants a relationship. Right.
And anybody that gets laid a lot and is
having trouble with relationships knows
exactly what I'm talking about. So when you
get categorized, it's very difficult to come
out of it. There are a few things that you
can do when you get put into the friend zone
that you can use to get out of it, right?
So one of them is just telling better
stories. So once you learn game and you're
able to tell better stories, if you're able
to crack jokes, if you're able to free
associate meaning talk off the top of your
head, crack funny things, say funny things
and so on. You can make yourself an
attractive enough so that you leave the
friendzone. That's often it often takes a
lot of work, though. Like I said, once you
get put in that category is very difficult
to take it out. But there's one very easy
way and very effective way to get out of the
friendzone that I'm going to share with you
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So the thing that you can do that really
gets you out of the friendzone most
effectively, most often is to simply one
learn game, to use that game to get other
women. So say you really want to get with
this girl. You have one itis, which means
like your tunnel vision for this girl.
What you should do.
The best way to get out of the friendzone
with her says you put you in there is to go
find other women, befriend them.
You don't even have to sleep with them.
Get them attracted so that she sees you.
And then bring. Bring them all out or bring
them. Bring them into your life at the same
time at an activity or whatever the case may
be. And show her that other women like you
and you might think that this will turn them
off, that women don't like this when it's
the exact opposite.
Women like guys that other women like.
So if you can show that these girls are
laughing at your jokes, that they're
touching you, that they're hugging you, all
this sort of stuff, the girl that you're
after, the girl that you want to see with
you will like you more.
And even if she thought you were friendzone
material, if you were just a friend, you
were not that attractive beforehand.
Pre-selection is the most reliable way to
remove yourself from that situation and get
rebranded in her mind.
Recategorized as a guy with options, as a
guy who's attractive that other women want
and therefore she will want you to.
And it was just down to biology, right?
When you were when we were all cavemen,
women could try to figure out who you were
and what you're about if you're cool or not.
If your genes were worth mating with, what
they could do is just observe other women.
And if other women thought you were cool,
and if other women did that legwork of
figuring you out, then she could take their
word at it. So this is an evolutionarily
adapted thing where women can just take all
the women's word that you're an attractive
guy and this switches so powerfully in their
brain that you're attractive even if you
weren't before. It goes to such a large
degree, such a large degree that if you just
go into a bar or an event with women on your
arms, it's like you're a much more
attractive guy than if you just went there
by yourself, all else being equal, right?
They don't know a thing about you, your
personality or anything. Just having women
around you in your life will make you more
attractive to any women that look at you.
So this is just like having bigger boobs or
a bigger butt or slimmer waist if you were a
girl. Having women around you makes you more
attractive as a guy. So the best way is to
learn game, follow, listen to the videos on
my channel, follow what I'm saying, and then
apply that to get other women attracted to
you. Bring them out and you'll get out of
the friendzone with this one particular
girl. This is not an overnight thing and
anybody that tells you that you can say one
or two lines or whatever the case may be to
this girl, to get her out of the friendzone,
to get yourself out of the friendzone with
her is lying to you. So this takes work.
It takes getting other women around you,
getting them attracted, first of all, and
then just bring them around. You can all
say, you can just say, hey, let's all go
grab drinks sometime, bring the other women
out again. You don't have to sleep with
them, but you have to get them attracted to
you and get them wanting to be around you.
Bring the other women that you are
interested in and have her see that you're a
cool guy based on what the other girls do
and say around you. So remember that
pre-selection is the most powerful
attraction switch that you can hit to get
women attracted to you and out of the
friendzone. Now the second big thing is that
you can become more respected by the men
around you as well. So just like
pre-selection is powerful, you can have
social proof. So if you bring her around to,
for example, a bar that you always go to,
any place where people will recognize you.
Maybe it's a restaurant where whatever the
case may be and these people say, Hey,
what's up? Hey, Mossab, how you doing?
Good to see you again.
It's been a while. And they show you respect
and they show that they look up to you, that
they're deferential to you, they revere you.
That makes you look good in her eyes and
makes you more of a leader to the other men
that are around you. And this is a very,
very attractive thing. So it's either that
you can show that other women like you or
that other men respect you and are would be
followers of you. They don't have to
necessarily be followers, but they should
show that you have a leadership capacity.
If you said, hey, guys, let's all do this
thing. Women, the people around you, the men
around you should say optimally say, Hey,
that's awesome, let's do that. So they
should want to lead or follow in your
footsteps. And the best way, the easiest way
to do this, honestly, is to go to a bar a
bunch of times, become a regular, get to
know the staff, the bartenders and the
bouncers, and then bring the girl along to
whichever bar that is. And the bouncers and
staff will will say hi to you, that you'll
you'll dap them up and you'll shake their
hand and all that. And this will turn her
on, right? She will be more attracted to you
as a result of simply seeing this, what's
called social proof. It's proof that your
social is proof that you have good standing
with people. They have a solid network.
And this is attractive to women because this
shows that you have higher survival value.
If you have a good network of people, if you
have a solid tribe that are dependent on you
or that look up to you, this is very good
for you. Because if things go south, you can
call on that tribe to help her, her
offspring and yourself survive.
So that's a very, very attractive and
powerful attraction switch as well.
So either pre-selection or social proof.
Now the last sort of way and again, these
all take a good amount of work, the social
proof takes that is the easiest and
preselection. The third way is to disappear
from her life for a couple of months, say 3
to 6 months, and then resurface as a new
person. And that will re categorize you,
right? So maybe you had this one perception
of you and then you disappear for a while
and we call this monk mode, right?
So this monk mode is where you take time to
yourself and then work on yourself and
emerge the other side, a completely changed
person. So what are some things you can do
in monk mode? One is a lot of fitness,
right? Hit the gym for 3 to 6 months.
You'll change the way your body looks,
especially if you're not lifting already.
If you're already an advanced lifter,
obviously this one will not be as great of a
change. But just even taking time away and
disappearing and being mysterious will have
some effect on other things.
You do is read a lot of books, get to know
more, learn more things, acquire more,
wisdom three is just go and do game on other
women out away from her for a while.
And again, this will better your game,
better your social skills, better your
skills with women in particular.
And you can work on personal projects, work
on your career, work on your business,
whatever the case may be, and build up that
aspect to financial aspect of your life,
too. So if you build all that up for three,
six months. And really level up in different
areas and then come back and talk to her
fresh. She will see you as a different guy
than the one that left three, three or six
months ago. She won't remember as much.
The connection won't be there, and then
you'll have to rebuild that, but with a
solid base of more attractive features to
show and display. So I hope this help these
a bunch of different ways to get out of the
friendzone with women. If you want help in
getting out the friendzone, if you want help
and becoming a more attractive guy.
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