- This video, I'm gonna show you the three things
that kill magnetic energy.
I'm gonna show you how to activate irresistible
magnetic energy from the inside out,
why this changes everything,
and why it's actually good to actually repel certain people.
Because think about it.
A magnet has the ability to both attract
and repel based on its polarity.
And I would say that
if you really want to have that magnetic energy
it needs to be important
that it's okay to repel certain people.
You don't wanna become a magnet for everybody.
Do you wanna become a magnet for narcissist?
Do you wanna become magnetic to people
that are going to abuse your boundaries?
Or people that don't share the same values as you?
It's okay to be polarizing.
Now, the first thing that I wanna share with you
when it comes to having magnetic energy
that you might be doing
that if you let go of, changes everything,
is understanding this one concept right here
which is pull your energy back.
Now, what happens magnetically and energetically,
is when we are sending someone else energy
because we're thinking about them,
that is then having an effect on them
that they can feel sometimes even only subconsciously.
But what happens is when people are projecting their energy
at them, other people are feeling that
and their responding based on that energy.
Now, one of the most powerful, energetic, things you can do
is to actually pull your energy back into your own body.
To bring it back to self.
Because when you, think about it
like your energetic field,
the electromagnetic energy of your heart
is thousands of times more powerful than the head.
Now, what happens is when we're thinking of somebody else
we are projecting energy outside of ourselves.
Then what ends up happening,
is we are diluting our own energy.
And when you bring it inside of your body,
you are then also inside of your own frame.
Now for a long time in my life
I would project my energy at other people.
I would want something.
I would want their validation.
I would want their approval.
I would want that energy,
and I could tell so many times
that that neediness literally blocked
that love from coming into my life.
It was only once I started being present
and bringing the energy into my body,
that the energy dynamic began to change.
And I see this happen a lot.
Especially when people go through a breakup
or something and they want their, you know,
I get a lot of people that message me on my channel.
And they say, I wanna attract this person back.
How do I do that?
And some people don't like to hear it,
but, really the only thing that will act
that may actually work,
but also is the thing that energetically
puts the cards more in your favor,
is the one thing you don't wanna do.
Most people do not wanna let go.
But when you let go,
that's when you allow the energy to be free,
and that's when you allow, if it is meant to work out
for that energy to possibly come back.
But once again, it's not always guaranteed.
Because, non-attachment is one of the major keys
of having magnetic energy, not being attached to outcome.
Now think of this too when it comes to magnetic energy.
When we are focused on an outcome,
getting something from somebody else,
we want the result a certain way.
We want someone else's validation or approval.
We want 'em to text us back, whatever it is,
when we want that what ends up happening,
is that is a means to an end.
You might be going on that of a date
because you're hoping that they're gonna call you back,
give you validation, go out with you,
become your boyfriend or girlfriend or whatever.
And when things are a means to an end, people feel that.
People can feel that you want something from them.
That's what's called manipulative energy.
So the second thing to this process
the first one is to pull your energy back
into your own body,
doing something I call the frame technique.
It's one of the most powerful techniques
I've ever applied in my life.
It's so simple.
You put the awareness in your hands and your feet
and you actually focus on the separation between you
and the walls.
You feel the separation between you and wherever you are.
Maybe it's your computer,
maybe it's you and your phone right now
watching it on your phone
feel the separation.
As you do,
you start to feel safe in your own body.
And as you feel safe in your own body,
guess what ends up happening?
As you feel safe inside of your own body,
it's like the energy comes back to you
and that energy is in magnetized.
I would do this exercise after that
as I share this in many videos.
I'd go out in public,
and the response I'd get from other people was profound
because I was not attached to what they thought,
I was not energetically projecting energy
of wanting people to say hi to me
and all these needy things that back in the day
was a part of my reality.
So the second thing though, that's the first one.
The second thing is understanding the outcome
and how the energy of being present to the moment
is simply about understanding expression versus impression.
Expression is you express yourself 'cause it's who you are.
You go on a date because you're excited to go on a date.
You are maybe even like being playful on a date,
or being playful with dating,
or playful with your love life,
is much more in the present moment
than attached and trying to control things.
And I'll tell you from experience
and from thousands of people that I've seen go through
my 21 day challenges that I've done.
When people are attached, it messes up the energy.
And a lot of times the reason people are attached
by the way, you wanna know why people are attached?
Is because what is trying to be done
is we're trying to meet our unmet childhood needs.
So, if mom and dad were maybe, emotionally
or physically present when we're kids,
we are attracting people that maybe emotionally
or physically not really present,
and then we're trying to get them to meet our needs.
We're like, why don't you see my value?
Why don't you see that I'm worthy?
Because what we're trying to do is close the loop
from childhood.
And this is why it's important to realize
that a lot of times what happens
that I find with magnetic energy
is people are attached to other people
because what they've decided in the past,
is that I must abandon myself in order to make others happy.
I must change who I am and how I show up in the world
so that somebody else will validate and approve me.
So mom and dad won't be disapproving.
Mom and dad will think I'm perfect.
Maybe I need to be perfect in order to get love.
This is all based in the unmet childhood needs
of not feeling worthy, not feeling good enough.
So, one of the biggest changes for me
was when I stopped abandoning myself.
It made it easier for me to set boundaries
because then what happened is I would normally be like,
oh, I'll go do this.
I'll go do that.
I can't say no.
'Cause if I say, no,
they're gonna be disapproving,
and their emotions are my emotions.
But everything changed when I began to let that go.
And I realized that, that was their shit and not mine.
And when I stopped abandoning myself,
I started living by my own values.
I started living according to my own virtues.
I started living according to the values of vulnerability
and authenticity over the values of validation approval.
That changed everything.
I was in focused on doing what I'm passionate about.
Another huge part of attracting love and being magnetic
is are you doing what you love?
Because when you're doing what you love
there's an energy about you.
And when you're doing what you love
you're more likely to attract somebody else
that's doing what they love.
It's always a one-on-one reflection.
When I was working nine-to-five jobs I hated,
I only would synchronistically attract women
that were working nine-to-five jobs they hated.
And we were able to talk about it,
and vent about our days with each other.
Whereas now, that's not the case.
Now my girlfriend, she does what she loves.
And for me, that's been the pattern
since that shift in myself.
When I started doing what I love,
I would only date women that were doing what they love.
This is the more real me
than the other version of me was.
Where I was working a nine-to-five job I hated.
So, that's another important aspect of this
is really committing
to you becoming the best version of you
and even going out to your own passion
because as you do that,
it changes everything about the dynamic.
Now, I'm gonna also make sure,
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So with that being said,
the next one is,
the third thing that blocks having magnetic energy
that's very important to become aware of
is this one word right here.
It's not the most attractive word that people like to see
but the thing that changed everything for me
and made me more magnetic
and also allowed me to attract in love,
it was when I let go of shame.
Shame is the belief
and the emotion that says there's something wrong with me.
It's the anxiety that we may feel
that there's something wrong,
there's something off.
I should be different than I am.
And the shame that I felt,
I didn't realize came all the way from childhood.
From feeling abandoned growing up
and thinking there's something wrong with me.
From even when my ex-stepmom came into my life
when I was seven to 15 years old
until my dad divorced when I was 15,
she was so mentally and physically abusive
that I literally was like,
oh, there's something wrong with me.
And then the fact that my dad kinda let it happen
I was like, oh, there's something wrong with me.
We weren't worthy of being protected.
And that then wired into belief.
I said, there's something wrong with me.
So then I would date people that would also in a way
reflect that back to me.
Maybe not choose me, or maybe I would feel like,
I had to sacrifice myself in order to make them happy
because I felt a level of shame.
Now, the cure to shame is vulnerability.
It's when we have the ability to share
and show the real us.
To go into our heart, to open ourselves up.
And yes, it is true
that when you start being vulnerable, somebody...
It takes courage to be vulnerable.
When I started being vulnerable,
that meant that if I was attracted to somebody
I would express that to them.
If I had emotions for somebody
I would express that to them.
And as I started to do that,
I started to lay down a completely new way of being.
And that in a way you could get rejected.
Like you could show your heart to someone
and they could reject you.
There's actually something that did happen to me.
But I didn't internalize it.
And what ended up happening
is it became a new way of going about things,
where, when I was expressing that me,
it felt so much more free.
And I wasn't doing it because I was attached to outcome
of what it'll get me,
I was doing it because it's who I was,
and it was what was real for me.
That's why also letting go of the outcome is so magnetic
because then you're present to the moment.
You're in the moment.
Imagine you go on a date,
and instead of like, oh, is this person gonna like me?
Is everything gonna go well?
I hope they like me.
It's I wonder if we're gonna share similar values,
be curious.
I wonder if we're gonna have fun.
I wonder if I'm gonna enjoy my time with this person.
These are all different questions
that reframe your own level of worthiness.
And the big thing and the big aha moment
that comes to magnetic energy,
it's about being in your heart,
being present to the moment,
and activating that heart center
by choosing courage and vulnerability over the shame.
And it's really about feeling worthy from the inside out.
That's what really changes everything for this process.
Is realizing you are already whole and complete,
realizing there's nothing you really even need
to fix about yourself.
It's just about a game of awareness.
And as you do that, it changes everything about your energy.
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