Gentlemen, today, we’re showing you 10 ways to become the Alpha and how to stop being
a nice guy.
And because we want your move away from being Mr. Nice Guy to help your chances with a girl,
We’re also showing you one easily avoidable mistake most guys make when trying to be less
of a nice guy, that actually makes them come off like a jerk.
So... here are 10 ways to be an alpha and ditch the nice guy persona for good, and the
one mistake you don’t want to make after you do it.
10. Answer Small, Ask Big
Whether it’s: For here or to go?
Where do you want to eat?
Or what’s your favorite YouTube channel?
If you get asked any question at all, ...Always try to answer it with as few words
as possible.
The reason this is so helpful for nice guys Is because it gets them in the habit of thinking
about what they want, While also being more direct... and less accommodating.
Now of course, you don’t want to fall in the habit of only one-word answers,
But the more you can avoid rambling explanations, the more in command you’ll appear.
Being in command equals alpha and alpha equals not being a nice guy.
And if you’re looking for a protip to seriously boost the effectiveness of this one try to
contrast you short, concise answers... with genuine, thoughtful and kind-hearted
questions.
And watch as that nothing-but-a nice guy persona erodes away with girls.
9. Kill Your Expectations
Starting down the road toward alpha-dom and
away from niceguy-hood, begins ...by letting go of your expectations.
Here’s why: First, if you have no expectations, you’re more likely to relax and go with
the flow
What girl doesn’t like that.
But second, and more importantly, quieting your expectations is the key to letting
yourself gain the real kind of confidence, that guarantees you won’t get stuck as the
nice guy.
The quick and dirty way to do this is pretty straightforward:
Just find a girl you’re attracted to and approach her with zero expectation of
picking her up.
That’s all.
The reason this works is because more than they’re actually “nice,”
Nice guys are slaves to the expectation of getting a girl because of their niceness.
So in letting go of any expectations, The need for niceness is neutralized and they
can practice confidently talking from the alpha side of their personality.
8. Go Heavy
At its core, being a nice guy is due almost
entirely to a fundamental lack of confidence.
And what’s one of the best, most absolutely practical ways to gain REAL confidence that
girls can see?
By lifting weight.
Specifically, by lifting heavy weights.
Now, that doesn’t mean you need to devote your life to pumping iron
...or lift so heavy that you’ll hurt yourself.
But the benefits of a smart lifting regimen... Just can’t be understated.
Not only will it do wonders for your health, appearance and confidence...
But by focusing on lifting heavy weights specifically, you’ll boost your strength and baseline
testosterone...
Which are two things that when improved, are proven to make a guy look and feel more imposing...
Without having to be aggressive or mean to anyone which is the true hallmark of always
being alpha...
And never a nice guy.
7. Don’t Always Fold
As you probably know, being a pushover is
huge turn off for women.
And it’s one of the main characteristics of the nice guy.
You see, Another thing that nice guys tend to do a
lot that alpha-types don’t, Is to automatically side with the girl if
there’s ever a disagreement.
Most of the time, disagreements revolve around little things,
like choosing a movie or where to eat.
But it’s precisely the process of always making small concessions,
That plants the seeds of becoming nothing but a pushover who’s easy to get along with.
So what should you do instead?
First of all, don’t disagree just to disagree.
Because that’s lame.
But on the other hand, don’t agree, just to avoid conflict.
Instead, start “light” negotiations by comparing
what you both want to do, and take it from there.
You may be surprised to find that more often than not,
Girls will value your opinions, appreciate your resolve and most importantly, won’t
look at you like the nice guy.
Wondering what else are some huge turn-offs for women?
We did a whole video on it that you can see here.
6. Bro Down
Now, if you don’t have any friends who are
girls, this one may not be a problem.
But if you do, and you find yourself spending a lot of time with girls,
Not only is that a huge sign that you’re up to your eyeballs in the friend zone,
But also that you’re probably playing a losing card if your intention is to get girls.
So here’s what you do.
If you want to show girls you’re not just a nice guy,
spend some time with your boys.
It may not sound like much, but it will actually do a lot to change how
girls perceive you, and how you see girls...which might make all the difference.
Hey, if you watch Mantelligence every week, you know we’ve got something good at the
end of this video.
Not only do we have 5 more tips to bringing out your inner alpha and being less of a nice
guy, But we’re also showing you the one thing
guys do to mess that up quick.
So sit tight, because we’ve got some good stuff coming up.
5. FORGET THE SCORE
One glaring flaw that seems built in to just
about every typical nice guy out there, Is the tendency to keep score of the nice
things he does for girls he likes.
Where more confident, alpha-types don’t worry much about who did what and when, nice
guys can’t help but keep track of their good deeds,
And try to leverage them later for attention.
It’s sad, because it really doesn’t have to be that way.
But in the minds of nice guys, they’re doing girls a favor by being nice,
and in exchange for their good behavior: They expect favors in return.
The only problem is, All it really does... is set themselves up
for an endless loop of kindness favors that ultimately don’t get them anywhere.
So what can they do instead?
Our advice is simple: be nice just to be nice, and if a girl is
also nice to them, just appreciate it and move on.
4. Reset
Part of the reason why nice guys stand by
their niceness so firmly, is that they’re actually committed to a
failing strategy that they’re not quite ready to walk away from.
At least, not while anybody’s watching.
So if you think you might be a nice guy who needs to change, do this:
Instead of banging your head against the wall and waiting for your niceness to pay off,
Just try leaving for a while.
The reason why this might be your best bet is simple:
Girls will notice if you randomly adjust your behavior and try to be “less nice”...
But if it happens while you’re gone, not only will you have time to actually change
they’ll be excited to see you come back a new man that they can seem themselves with.
A classic case of simple, but effective.
3. Handle Your Own
If there’s one thing so-called “alpha”
types have that nice guys do not, It’s real, true independence.
And by the way, when we say alphas, we’re not talking about the basic chest-beating
tough guys, those dudes are just as guilty of letting
others shape who they are as nice guys.
What we’re talking about, are the kinds of guys who are self-sufficient, can handle
their own, And don’t depend on being nice to get what
they want.
Basically, these are the guys that nice guys and wannabe
alpha types wish they were...
And the kind of guy girls immediately go for.
So if you want to be less nice and more alpha, you’ve got to show you can take care of
yourself, first.
2. Set the Schedule
Nice guys all have this in common: They spend
all of their time...
On the schedule of the girl they like...no matter what they’ve got going on, they feel
like their time comes second.
The reason for this, Is because they think that if they’re not
always there with a girl, doing what she’s doing, they’ll miss their chance.
And the reason this happens is because they forget one hugely important detail:
Girl’s don’t want guys just because they’re convenient.
And being nearer, Doesn’t actually get them any closer.
See the difference?
And the worst part about it.
Is that if they just used that time on themselves, It’s virtually guaranteed they’d be more
attractive to the girl they want.
1. No FOMO
Fear of missing out.
Alphas don’t have it but it’s a feeling that lies at the heart of every nice guy,
The main reason why the justify their behavior to themselves.
They think “If I’m just there when she really needs
me, she’ll finally want me.”
And while that’s a nice thought Not only are the chances of that happening
extremely unlikely, But they’re also drastically overestimating
the impact simply “being nice” would have.
Why?
Because being nice is literally what a girl’s friends are for.
OK, so what should be done instead?
First, don’t plan on capitalizing on her needing a friend to get a foot in the door,
And after that, find another plan, move forward with yourself, and let her make the call if
she really needs help.
The 1 Mistake Ex-Nice Guys Make
Remember when we compared nice guys and those
alpha-bros when we talked about being self-sufficient a few minutes ago?
Well both groups are guys at opposite ends of the spectrum with the same problem:
Overcompensation.
Most nice guys eventually figure out they have a problem...
...And when the day finally comes for nice guys to declare their independence,
What usually ends up happening is they overshoot,
And abruptly become jerks to everyone.
As you might guess, ...that typically doesn’t work any better
than being overly nice.
So what can be done?
If you want to be more than a nice guy, do what we talked about today,
And just remember that real change takes time.
Guys, use these tips and stop being Mr. Nice Guy.
Okay?
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