- Heya playa.
Nobody wants to be labeled the annoying kid in school,
but if you do happen to get that title,
I wanna give you a few tips on what you can do
to shake it off and get people to respect you again.
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When it comes to not being annoying, the main requirement
above all else, is to develop a strong sense of self.
This is something you can work on
without even having to interact with other people.
Understanding who you are, what you like,
and what you believe is important to know,
because it'll help you
not get easily swayed by other people.
Have you ever heard someone be called fake before?
This is usually a title given to someone
who isn't being honest with other people.
And if there's anything that's gonna come off as annoying,
it's being fake with the people around you.
And while it may be annoying, I totally get it.
Sometimes people will do anything they have to
just to feel accepted, and that road can take
a lot of dark turns.
It can cause us to join in on making fun
of a random kid that everyone calls a loser
just because everyone's doing it.
And it may even lead us to pretend like we like something
just so we can hang out with a certain group of kids
who are really into that.
But if you aren't being true to your self
and true to your values, and you're simply pretending
just to fit in with others, it's gonna be easy for them
to sniff out what you're doing and that will be super
annoying to them, even if they're the ones
doing the thing that's wrong.
It's not just about your friends at school, though.
It's also about the people that you have crushes on, too.
Respecting the boundaries of other people is crucial here.
Sometimes you may have this overwhelming desire
to want to message or talk to your crush
without realizing that you might be coming off as too much.
If your crush tells you that they don't like you
or they're mad at you, or whatever the situation is,
and you feel the need to keep messaging them
and talking to them, just because you wanna do it,
then you're totally not taking them into consideration.
Plus, it won't help them see you as less annoying
if you're sending them constant messages
like hey, hey, how's it going?
How's your day?
Why aren't you responding?
Hey, why are you ignoring me?
Hey hey hey hey hey hey hey!
And it's not just in messaging though.
Sometimes you may invade their personal conversations
with their friends and just ask a lot of questions
like hey, what're you guys talkin' about?
What's goin' on?
What's happening?
And that might just come off as a bit nosy.
Balancing between too much and too little
can be kind of tricky though.
So a good rule of thumb is, if you walk up to someone
and start talking to them and everyone immediately
stops talking and spends the entirety of the conversation
just looking at each other awkwardly,
that might be a sign that you're starting to annoy them.
Another annoying behavior that people tend to do in school
without even thinking about it is showing off.
People try to show off when they do things,
like try to one-up your story by saying,
well I did something cooler or better than that,
or they might downplay that person's story
by saying that's not that exciting,
or that's not that cool.
Nobody likes a Debbie Downer, or a person that's just
so full of themselves.
So if you're trying not to be annoying,
you should avoid those behaviors.
And oddly enough, sometimes doing the opposite
can be annoying too.
If a person is a pushover or is just too quiet about things,
it can really get under someone's skin.
And that's not to say that if you're quiet or shy
that you are intentionally being annoying,
but that the other person doesn't know how to handle
those situations and may get annoyed.
In school, there's always a lot of things going on.
People are stressing out over schoolwork,
people are gossiping about other kids,
or people are just filling each other in
on what's going on in their day.
That's why if you wanna avoid being annoying,
it's essential that you learn to be mindful.
Being open and listening to what other people have to say
will make them feel valued and will prevent them
from feeling annoyed by you.
Honestly, everyone enjoys being around someone
that they can open up to.
It's usually the cases where the people talk over them
or try to undermine what they're saying
that they find those people annoying.
So, if there's someone in your school
that is annoyed by you, try to first give them
a little bit of space to process their feelings.
And then when you finally re-approach them to talk,
be purely open to listening to what it is
that annoyed them about you in the first place.
What do you think though?
Have you ever been called annoying in school before?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
Sometimes though, people just find you annoying
because of their own insecurities and discomfort.
And that's okay.
They may not know how to act or what to do
in certain situations, and that can lead them
to call you annoying, when it's really something
that they need to work on.
So don't always take it personal
when someone labels you as annoying.
If you work on the tips that I mentioned,
and you work towards building a strong sense of self
who's open to listening to other people
and is mindful of their actions,
pretty sure you'll be able to drop that title real quick.
As always guys, love and peace.