Matt: Look man, when a girl first notices you, her brain is subconsciously screening
you. Her instincts want to see if you're a good fit. All in a matter of seconds.
One main thing she notices is your status, and essentially, whether your
higher status than her and other guys in her life. So how can you raise your
status without being rich or famous? Well my name is Matt artisan from The
Attractive Man, and these are my six rules to raise your status.
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There's a status ranking system
that all humans unconsciously run through their minds anytime they
encounter somebody new. We try to figure out where we personally fit on the
social ladder compared to other people around us in any given situation. About
ten years ago, when I used to play in a rock band, and
we started getting some success, I noticed that my results with women
improved. This is because my situational status on stage increased. But what if
you're not on stage? Well nowadays I'm a pretty regular guy, yet my results with
women are a lot better than they were back in the day. Because you don't need
to be on stage, or be rich, or famous, to convey high status. You can convey many
of the high status signals through your behavior and body language. You see, money
and fame are just situational status. If you want to be high status in virtually
every situation, then it has to be sub communicated in the following ways.
First, you need to understand that a woman will get a sense of your status
immediately just by the way that you carry yourself. If you seem nervous,
flustered, fidgety, or you can't hold the tension with an attractive woman, she
will instantly sense your fear and insecurity, and deem you lower status
than her. If you seem scared of her, then essentially you're putting her on a
pedestal above you. So how do you solve this? You must develop a calm, masculine
presence. Where you're secure and who you are. So that you can walk up to a woman,
look her deep in her eyes, and remain calm under the tension of that situation.
It doesn't even faze you. This is literally the number one quality in
attracting woman and being high status. Now, women will often test you in this
quality. She might poke you, and press some of your hot buttons to see if you
can handle that situation and stay calm and keep your cool. Because if she can
easily affect your emotions, then you can't possibly be the strong Rock of a
man that she wants. If you haven't taken one of our boot camps man, then
definitely check it out. Because that's exactly what we teach. How to have that
calm, masculine presence so that you can attract women, and overcome your
nervousness when it comes to approach anxiety. One way to have that calm,
masculine presence is by controlling your body language. Now you've probably
heard that body language is important, but you may not have heard that your
physiology affects your psychology and vice-versa.
So one thing that will help eliminate those nervous feelings in your body is
to walk, talk, and stand high-status. Most guys, when they walk into a new
venue, they walk in nervous. And they start looking around everywhere, as if
they're lost. And they start circling the place like a shark. Or they just stand in
the corner somewhere, watching everyone else have fun. When you walk into that
venue, especially like a bar or Club, walk in like you own the place. If there's two
doors, I like to push him open like I'm the f****** man and do the victory pose.
It sounds pretty lame on camera, but it actually looks pretty cool when you do
it. Have a slight grin on your face, like you're right at home. I even recommend as
soon as you enter start saying hi to people or high-five them. And if you're
dressed really well, and having a good time enjoying yourself, then people will
actually probably mistake you for the owner. When you stand,
not slouch. This will instantly lower your status. I know it's a bad habit for
most people, but start becoming aware of it so you can break that habit right now.
To know exactly how you should always be standing, go find a wall and stand
against it. Your ass, shoulder blades, and head should all be touching the wall. Now
take a step forward. This is how you should always be standing. There's no
exceptions. Next, I want you to focus on your movements. Don't fidget, or move
excessively. Move your body slow and with purpose. Ingrain this into your brain
because it's that important. Now this doesn't mean you have to be stoic and
motionless. It's OK to have fun and dance and jump up and down. Just eliminate
nervous gestures like scratching yourself, rubbing your fingers, playing
with your jewelry, and constantly shifting your eyes.
Speaking of eye contact if you are unable to hold eye contact with people
you will appear lower status. Strong eye contact is a sign of power. Now you can
take this even further if you want by blinking less. That can really convey
power and intensity. Now don't overdo it with a creepy stare down. Just make sure
you have strong, steady eye contact. And I recommend just focusing on one eye,
because if you shift from eye to eye, that will make you seem nervous. Next,
make sure to lead your group. If you're not currently the leader of your social
circle, then start taking the lead. And remember, good leaders tend to make
decisions quickly, and they change their mind slowly. Whereas followers or non
leaders tend to make decisions slowly, and they change their mind very easily
and quickly. So take charge. When you're out with your friends, be the first to
move. For example, if you're at dinner with your group of friends, be the first
to say: "Come on, let's get out of here!" When you do this, you're unconsciously
framing in their mind that you are the leader. That when you say go, everybody
goes. And remember this, a good leader is always a leader of self first. Another
way to lead is to bring people into your world, and this works really well for
example: let's say you have a favorite bar or club or restaurant that you
always go to, and everybody there knows you because you're a cool social guy, you
chat up the owner, the waitresses. You know the bouncers, etc. Well, when you
bring people into that world, and they see you
treated like a king, they will see you as a king. You should also become the leader
of leaders. When you're out socializing, befriend other men that are leaders of
their group. This will cause the women in that group to see you as a leader too,
and thus be more attracted to you. If you go out and you see a large mixed group
of guys and girls, determine who the leader is and befriend him. You can
usually tell who the leader is because a lot of times all the other people are
circled around him, and they all stop to listen when he speaks. And keep in mind
that status is not about out alpha-ing other guys. If other guys don't respect you,
then you've actually lost your status. By the way, if you're not already subscribed
to this channel, hit the subscribe button now, because I have a lot of awesome
videos coming up. And also hit the bell icon below to get notified of future
videos. Next, high status men tend to give value. They don't take value, they have so
much greatness in their life that they want to share it with everyone. They
don't try to make people feel bad about themselves, or put people down. They make
people feel good, inspired, proud, and beautiful. Give and you shall receive. You
may have heard of the concept of "negging" which is basically giving a negative
compliment to a woman. Such as: "So is this your natural hair color? So you changed
it to that?!" and it's designed to knock her down a few pegs. Essentially, bring
her down to the guy's lower status. Which if you think about, it is a really bad
mindset. Right, it's the mindset that she's above me, and I gotta say this
thing - basically insult her. And bring her down to my sh***y level. Instead, see
yourself as a 10, and bring her up to your awesome status. One surprising way
to bring someone up to your level is by challenging them, which I'm gonna talk
about in just a second. So instead of using manipulation to lower people, an
easy way to lift people up is to give them a genuine compliment. Now instead of
a generic compliment like, "Nice dress!" say, "You know this dress really suits you,
like it makes you look really elegant." do you see how that's a lot better? Now this
doesn't mean that you should suck up to people. Does a king suck up to people?
Definitely not. He might compliment someone, but he's not trying to seek
their approval. Another way you can give value is by remembering and using other
people's names. I personally noticed that a lot of
high-status people do this. People love the sound of their own name, so make it a
point to remember it. Now what does all this giving value actually do for you?
Well, when you walk into a party, for example, and everybody wants to come talk
to you, because everybody feels great when they're around you - that's when
women will really take notice. When people are fighting for your attention,
hot women will want it too. Next is "Command attention" want to shoot your
status through the roof? Quiet everyone in the room, and make a toast. A man that
can stop everyone and command them to listen to him, demonstrates status. And
make sure your toast is outstanding. After all, you have center stage. Whether
you're making a toast, or just commanding the attention of a room, or people nearby,
speak with conviction. If you hesitate, or stumble when you speak, most people
probably won't see you as a worthy leader. A high status man is decisive, and
he speaks as if he's sure of himself. Your voice should be loud, slow,
controlled, and projected so all can hear. A good rule of thumb when you're speaking
to someone or a group of people, a woman, or whatever, is to speak so even the
people behind them can hear. Even if there's no one behind them, imagine there
are people behind them, and speak loud enough so they can hear. Because if
you're only speaking loud enough for the people in your close vicinity to
hear you, then you're gonna be speaking very low, and it's gonna sound insecure
bottom line. So project your voice so all can hear, and don't worry if other people
around you can hear you. Who cares? This is your reality anyway. Another way to
command attention is by dressing really well. Studies have actually shown that
people who wear a suit are perceived as authority figures, versus people wearing
just normal clothes. Now I don't mean you have to wear a suit
wherever you go, although technically could do that.
Barney: Suit up! Suit up! Suit it up! Matt: However, dress sharp. Because if you look like a
powerful leader, not only will you feel like one but people will actually see
you as one. Last, and definitely one of the most important, is that high status
people tend to have very high standards for themselves, and also the people they
allow in their life. Be picky about the people that you let
in. Including the girls that you date. A king is not gonna just make anybody his
queen. He's gonna choose the absolute best. That's why it's so important to
qualify women. And when you do this, they will see you as high status. You can even
qualify men as well, before you bring them into your inner circle. Because high
status men have high standards for everybody that they bring in their life.
And they also challenge people to bring the best out of them. So for example, if I
give a seminar and somebody comes up to me afterwards, and they say "Hey I really
liked your talk!" Instead of just saying thank you, I might say "Hey thanks a lot,
which part did you like the best?" or "Thanks man, what did you like about it?"
Now I'm not being a d*** or anything. I'm showing appreciation, but I'm also being
a little challenging and making him think a little. So start doing this with
everyone in your life and you'll actually begin to notice that they're
treating you higher status. When you apply all of these things, not only will
you have more attractive women in your life,
but other aspects of your life. Such as your wealth, your career, other
relationships, and even your health will all improve. It's that powerful. Now if
you really want to boost your status, your confidence, and become fearless, I
created a free Confidence Cheat Sheet, that gives you 18 ways to increase your
confidence fast. These are methods based on science and psychology. This will help
you ease your nerves under stressful situations, like approaching beautiful
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boot camp schedule. I'm Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man, and i'll see you in
the next video.