Renee: Texting is one of the easiest ways to flirt do it right and you will have her
begging to get to know you more but if you send her one of these seven texts
which I'm about to tell you then you might as well kiss her goodbye because
any one of these seven texts are the biggest turnoff to any woman out there
every day I ask you for the attractive man and it's my job as your dating coach
to help you become the most confident and desirable man that you can possibly
be and one of the simplest ways to do that is know how to text a girl properly
but the problem is is a lot of you guys are sending the wrong text messages and
wondering why these women are going cold on you so let's jump into texting school
right now so that we can make sure that you don't send any of these seven text
messages number seven one word text there's nothing worse when you feel that
you're connecting with a guy or you're really attracted to him and you start a
conversation and then he responds with one word or one letter like K or Y or
WBU which stands for what about you guys if you can't put any effort into
actually responding with full sentences then algis is is that you're not really
interested in us or you're not very intelligent in fact I've even had
clients come to me with a series of text messages asking me to decipher all those
anagrams we aren't teenagers and just because we
have the convenience of being able to text someone it doesn't mean that we get
lazy with our conversational skills through that text if you can't actually
respond to our messages with proper sentences or more than one word instead
of just great thanks fine then what we're going to do is we're going to
actually assume that you're not really interested in us and we're going to
start to put our energy elsewhere now the last thing that you want to do is
start writing an essay and freak her out but if you want to come across as
somebody who is interested in her and you actually do want to get to know
about her then the best way to find that balance between writing enough and not
too much is essentially imagine you're actually having a face-to-face
conversation with her how would you speak to her
she was right there in front of you chances are you would ask questions you
wouldn't actually just do one-word answers you would make sure the
conversation was engaging and leading somewhere so that you had a really
positive result what you want to do is match her conversational style and
length in your own sort of way so that you can still remain you but communicate
to her that you are literally on the same page when it comes to talking now
if you want to know the next no-go zone text message is not to send her then I
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I'm about to reveal them right now number six boring tax now these the sort
of text messages that don't really excite us because they either go nowhere
or basically you're just kind of talking about stuff that really doesn't make you
come across as the most interesting sort of guy for example if she says to you hi
how you doing and you just write back on not much or she says to you so what are
your plans this weekend I've decided that I'm going to go to the festival
down the road is that something that you're interested in and you're just
like riding something like oh cool it sounds good
or if you open the conversation with hey what's up or cool or let's hang then
you're going to really come across as somebody that doesn't seem to have much
to say you see women are obviously attracted to your physical appearance
first just like you guys are attracted to our physical appearance first but the
difference is with women is they actually crave conversation they want to
know that they can actually build some sort of rapport with you and feel that
they can connect with you purely because you can have a really invigorating sort
of conversation now another example of a really boring text would be something
along the lines where you go to such intricate detail about nothing like I
bought some new shoelaces today in their blue shoelaces but they don't go with my
red shoes and that's why I decided to get blue shoelaces what do you think
about blue shoelaces oh by the way I think that green apples are really nice
you get the gist the texts that are boring either so
short that they're not really inviting any sort of conversation that is ongoing
or they're so long that there's absolutely no point to it at all and you
kind of just babbling along the trick is always to be hint
some sort of excitement and adventure so that you're avoiding some questions out
of here and making sure that the conversation that you have is
stimulating and flirtatious for example you could write hey I actually had a
great day I managed to rescue a kitten from a burning building you know just
casual sort of Friday how about you okay obviously that didn't happen and if it
did wow you're a hero but what it does is it actually shows that you're
creative your fun is going to get a giggle out of her and it's definitely
going to get a response.. number five: pics. Okay, let's just set the record
straight right now never in the history of phones and texting has a woman ever
wanted you to send her a picture of your unless she asked for it don't ever do it
it does not make us want to have with you and what it does is it sends
four messages one that that's all you want to that you have no respect for
women three that you have a massive ego and
you're trying to prove something and for that you've probably sent that picture
to every other person in fact I actually had a client to me who told me that she
was dating a guy and he sent her a picture of his the problem was is that
he actually also dated one of her friends that he didn't know about a
couple of months before and he actually sent the same picture to her as well if
you want to flirt and increase and escalate the chemistry via text then do
so with your words and questions and verbal banter rather than your appendage
a great way to send a sexy picture is with you working out or maybe showing
your muscles or maybe having a little bit of sweat or being in the water
unless she's asked to see a picture of you naked do not even entertain the
thought that she wants you to send her one if you want to get a woman attracted
to you via messaging then all you have to do is simply send her a simple
message saying that you are thinking about her and then add a compliment to
it on the end for example hey I was thinking about you today
I really missed your smile this is going to work way more better than sending her
a picture of your number for your life story texts guys a simple way to turn us
off is sending us your whole entire life story and history through a text if you
go to full-on too soon when you're still
getting to know us and you're still trying to win us over we're basically
going to think that you are not ready that you're going to be too clingy or
that you have too much baggage I always say to my female clients and my male
clients that is a kind of a no-go zone that you talk about your exes or your
full-on life history in the first couple of dates why because it's not necessary
you want to just cover the surface level things first before you get deep and
meaningful with somebody we want some mystery and chase when we're dating you
just like you guys do as well and if you start to over share the issues that are
going on in your world or in your path then it's going to make us feel that you
really have a lot of baggage that you haven't actually dealt with a good way
to be able to communicate that maybe you're having a rough sort of time is
simply texting something along the lines over hey yeah I had a little bit of a
rough day today but you know what I think I'll be okay especially now that
I've heard from you what that does is it communicates to her that maybe you're
not in the best spirit without actually going full-on into depth and you've
actually turned the conversation into a compliment towards her at the same time
now I'm not taking away from the fact that maybe you need help and it's okay
to talk about problems I think men and women should feel comfortable to be able
to be vulnerable with each other but there is a time and a place to be able
to do that in certain phases when you're dating somebody and the best way to do
it is actually face-to-face not actually through a text message number three
argumentative texts I once dated a guy and seriously it was like it was his
thing to always go opposite of whatever it is I was saying for example I would
say to him hey it's great weather today perfect for a swim and he would
immediately say no it's not it's going to rain I would never swim in this
weather or I would say things like Oh what do
you think about that band that played on Sunday night I thought they were really
great no they're not my type of bad I think this band is so much better
guys it's one thing to create verbal sort of banter which can be really kind
of fun because it shows that you know you are a little bit of a challenge and
you're able to offer some excitement but if you are constantly trying to disagree
with everything she says every single time it's going to become really
exhausting and we're basically going to see you as someone that either has some
sort of aggression problem or that you just aren't somebody who knows how to
create peace in your life I think it's great if you can state what your opinion
is and I don't believe that you have to agree with everything that she's saying
it's important to remain true to who you are but at the same time let's make sure
that any sort of texting between each other is full of positivity not
necessarily always full of conflict now if you want to create that balance
between causing a bit of a stir but at the same time not totally coming across
as a jerk then maybe use a text message along more
of the lines of hey I hope that you're not one of those cat people because I'm
not sure if we're going to be able to come to a compromise because my dog Fido
is my best mate as opposed to saying anyone that likes cats shouldn't be
allowed to be on the earth I'm a dog person and anybody that doesn't like
dogs doesn't fit into my life that's obviously going to get two different
types of reactions do you want a reaction that actually makes I think hey
I'm not going to go there or do you want a reaction that actually gets a laugh
out of here number two emoji overload texts alright I think emojis are a great
little thing that you can add into text to increase the amount of flirting for
example writing something along the lines of hey I was thinking about you
today full-stop as opposed to hey I was
thinking about you today winky face sends a completely different message the
second one is obviously a little bit more cheeky however the moment that you
start putting too many emojis into the conversation it comes across as a little
bit childish or that you're a little bit of a SAP this isn't a game of Pictionary
whilst a couple of mo G's in the right places are great having multiple colored
hearts and kisses and things that just aren't really kind of appropriate in
that moment isn't going to make us feel that you're actually ready to have a
serious dating relationship with us and remember if you get stuck in any point
when you're actually texting a girl and you're not sure if you should add an
emoji you shouldn't then what I suggest as I said in the other point is remember
that you're having a face-to-face conversation with there it's just
through a screen would you insert an emoji would you wink at her in this
moment if you're not sure then don't add any
and lastly number one black listed worded texts we need to talk about those
blacklisted words or phrases that you should never text a girl and I literally
tell my male clients this because sometimes they text their girls things
and it has a complete opposite response of what it is that they want to hear
they are right now calling a girl mate this is a sure way to make a woman feel
incredibly masculine and that she is being friend-zoned we are not your bros
we are women that you are wanting to date my friend unless you want a
friendzone yourself don't ever refer to a girl in a text message as your friend
hot stuff okay we're not 12 or 13 anymore and hot
stuff is so 90s and it's something that isn't really appropriate if you're
wanting to come across as a classy man who knows how to woo a woman because
you're a grown-up try to stick to words more like beautiful or lovely matures
sort of words and actually show that you're not really making it sexualized
which is what hot stuff comes across as but rather you're trying to give her a
compliment in a grown up sort of manner hangout
Mokey's hangout not guys who want to get the girl and I remember I had a client
and he used to text girls all the time do you want to hang out hang out and I
said to him that word is bad the moment that he bans that word from any of these
text messages or conversations with girls is the moment that his dating game
started to level up actually ask her out do you want to spend time with me I
would love to take you on a date the word hang out is bad short words like
Kay blow any of those sort of kind of anagram text which what I talked about
in the very first point really make you come across again a little bit immature
that you don't have any sort of meaningful conversation to add and that
you're kind of just not that serious again if you're not really sure what to
say then say it less otherwise use fully-formed words and sentences every
single time and lastly the word babe or gorgeous or sexy now there are
appropriate times to actually call a gal this and this is one of those kind of
in-between gray sort of blacklisted words I had a guy on
once from the moment he had a conversation with me he instantly called
me babe hey babe how you going you don't know me I don't know you and remember
you don't really come across too strong when you start to initiate a
conversation with a girl especially if she doesn't even know she wants to go on
a date with you make her feel safe right from the first couple of texts and the
way to do that is call her by her name say hey Stacey how was your day as
opposed to hey babe how are you going or hi Stacey hope you had a great Friday
were you up - as opposed to hey gorgeous hope that you had a great day what are
you up to we want to be complimented and we want to be called sexy gorgeous and
babe but at the right time once we've
actually gotten to know you a bit more and we've actually met you face-to-face
once again guys if you really struggle with texting and you're not really sure
what to say or what to do then imagine that you are having that face-to-face
conversation because it will help put you in that position of should I say
this what would her response be but if you really really struggle then what I
want you to do is to download our free texting cheat sheet it has 20 proven
texts to get the girl as well as an actual texting sort of I guess
conversation that we want you to follow so that you can ask her on a date and to
know what to text her when she doesn't respond back to get that free texting
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image on the screen all right guys now your homework for this week is I want
you to share one of those text messages in the comments down below that got the
right sort of response Sheree is caring and we're community
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