Have you ever heard of "The Rock," Dwayne Johnson's charisma? I have and it's been
said that he makes you feel like you're the only one in the room when he's
talking to you, even if you're in a sea of people. A very powerful attribute to
be able to do that when you're communicating someone in this video I'm
gonna teach you how you can do it it's easier now than ever because of a few
changes that we've seen in culture and by the end of this video you're gonna
know how to create that little bubble so every time you talk to someone no matter
where you are they're gonna feel like it's just you and them now I want to
start this video out by giving you something you can implement immediately
it's very easy to do and then I'm gonna build on that for the more advanced
people that really want to step their game up so let's start by talking about
something that we see in public every day when you look around in public all
the time what do you see no matter where you are you could be in Jamaica New York
City Des Moines Iowa and you see people on their phones everywhere people in
conversation people talking to each other always just kind of tethered to
their phone but notice what extremely high value people have maybe the CEOs of
companies maybe celebrities people who really have their stuff together the
people with the highest demands on their time they don't have their phones out
off and they don't have their phones out at dinner like just a case of text comes
it's not like it's not important it's a standard they have in their life they've
realized that that decreases their efficiency you don't even realize how
much it detracts from the experience that you have when you're always ready
to respond to your phone what else does it do god it makes people feel like
they're not important trust me it does not make people think that you've got
some super cool dude hitting you up to go to a party or to go for drinks that's
that some time people I feel like they think they're like oh my phone now
people think I'm important people are texting me no it looks tacky and it
looks like you don't have the confidence to not immediately someone text you and
your spawn right back so I'm kind of like the whiplash thing that I talk
about when someone comes over if you're working on something they come and
talked and they say hey Baron you don't go what what what you know nice and calm
you finish up yeah hey what can I help you with versus your phone respond it
could be my mom she she wants me home for dinner
right so just by not being on your mobile device
you're gonna stand out from everyone else when you're talking to someone you
can be much more calm you're talking just like if I'm talking to you just to
them no distractions all right I wanted to take the first half of that video to
give you something that you could immediately implement no matter how far
along the path of charisma you are but in the back half of this video we're
gonna get into something that is very hard to master even if you're very
advanced this is something you can constantly strive to get better and
better at let's dive in now that's a very basic way to do it but what that
helps to breed and foster I start with that very easy one because anyone can do
that right anyone can not take their phone out in their conversation or at
dinner or in a meeting but what that helps foster is a higher level which is
what you're gonna need to really be the kind of magnetic personality that people
describe as charismatic and make you feel make them feel like they're in a
bubble with you and that's your presence and you hear it all the time and I feel
like when that words thrown around it's not explained very well it's just like
be very present what does that even mean dude I mean shut up and quit talking
about we're not gonna explain what it means so here's my attempt to explain
what it means it's not only not having other distractions like on you like your
phone or other people coming up to you or things like that it's there's no
mental distractions you always hear people talk about how
meditating helps presence because what it does is when you're talking to
someone like I'm talking to you right now and I've got a ton of other things
going on in my head I got to meet this guy for lunch what am i doing I haven't
respond to that email or we did this all I have ever smile back to that girl
what's she gonna say this is this oh she sent back in like four hours what am I
thinking and you're talking to this person that's exactly the same as you
talking to them hitting up and being on Spotify sending your little bumble
messages right it's exactly the same it's a distraction it removes you from
presence so start with the things you can control and then start on focusing
of clearing your mind you're gonna make people feel and this is not woohoo stuff
people will feel and they will describe the feeling of being closer with you and
you're feeling that you're more present and that they're the only person in the
room when you are more present when you can what
remove the other thoughts from your brain so when you are truly able to just
focus on the person in front of you and what they're saying nothing else in your
brain now what you're gonna say next just enjoying taking it in and being
there in the conversation not thinking about else not beast wracking but not
being distracting else that is where true presence come from and that is
where you are gonna be able to create the the aura you know that orange aura
he had rich James get that's where you're gonna be able to have people
start to describe you as someone when you talk to them they felt like they
were the only person in the room now when you're speaking to someone the
words actually coming out of your mouth you've heard the old adage 7% the words
and 38% the tone 55 your body language partner I would argue tonality has even
a bigger portion of that the way you say the words you say you hear the way I
speak if I was to say this entire talk with weak tonality you would have turned
it off minutes ago you wouldn't even be around to listen to this part I speak
with a strong and competent tonality because I understand how to leverage my
voice to speak with conviction and to speak with strength if that's something
that you're interested in improving I actually have a program called the vocal
power and tonality masterclass that's gonna walk you through everything you
need to know so the next time you step foot out of the house you know when you
go up and talk to somebody they're gonna commit you're gonna command respect and
attention you're not gonna go up to them you're like oh and walk away no when you
go up hey how's it going the tone of voice you use is gonna draw them in
because they're gonna think what hi trigger alarm all of a sudden this guy's
high-value I want to listen this guy's got something to say he's confident
right he's got high status listen to him just by saying hey how's your day going
they can feel that so that's something you learn improve on I'd suggest you
click right up here to check out the Volkl power and tonality masterclass if
you haven't seen this video right here click here to do so it's an awesome one
you really enjoy it I'll talk to you soon hey it's Baron welcome to the
charisma matrix listen I don't care if you were born with no charisma or feel
like you're awkward socially because it doesn't matter
here on this channel I'm going to teach you all the advanced social skills that
you need