In this video, you're going to learn exactly what to do to stay high value and maintain your dignity
when a man pulls away from you. So if you've been dating a man and he's starting to act distant,
then this is a video you don't wanna miss.
Hi there I'm psychologist and relationship coach Dr. Antonio Burlo. This channel is all about
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community and make your love life, the best part of your life. Okay. What to do when a man pulls
away, when a man you're dating, pulls away from you and starts to become distant, it can be very
disappointing and confusing, especially when you don't know why that's when you start questioning
everything and replaying your interactions over and over, trying to figure out what happened.
You want him to come back to. But you don't want to do anything that will cause you to lose
your value or dignity, and you don't want to come across as too desperate or needy,
but if you follow these seven steps, not only will your value remain high,
you'll be in the perfect position for him to come back to you stronger than ever.
And it all starts with number one. Number one, take some time to reflect before you do
anything before you say, or do. You must make sure that you fully understand the situation
and that you are certain he's actually pulling away. So make some mental notes
of the things that led you to believe that he has changed and check your assumptions,
make sure that you're going by the facts and not just by your feelings,
because you certainly don't want to overreact to something that isn't even true.
But when you are certain that he's pulled away,
take time to calm yourself and put yourself at ease. Before you say anything to. It,
you definitely don't want to react emotionally and say something that you later regret
reaching out when you're angry or disappointed is the fastest way to lose your status and value.
Don't do it instead, breathe and take some time. Number two, address the situation.
Once you're certain that he's pulled away or is acting distant. It's important that you
acknowledge and communicate what you've noticed, especially if you don't know why he's pulled away.
That's because if he was pulling away, because he didn't think that you were that interested in him
or some other misunderstanding, you can resolve the issue quickly and get back on track.
Also leaving issues, unresolved or ignoring. Will only bring the relationship to an end prematurely.
So ignoring the situation is not wise, and it's also not a move that a high value woman would
make. Instead, you want to address the situation from a position of confidence,
so be calm and direct, but not desperate about it.
And this is super important. You want him to know that you're open to hearing what he has to say
without. So be careful not to sound angry or disappointed because you don't want him
to become defensive and shut down. Now, the moment that he feels threatened or accused
his defenses will be up and you won't get an honest explanation.
So what do you say? Well, you could open the conversation with
📍 "I'm sensing some distance from you. Is everything okay?"
Now, if you can't see him in person or get him on the phone,
you might be having this conversation over text and it may be one that you
will have to initiate. In that case, you might say something like this,
📍 "I'm sensing some distance from you.
I understand if you need some space,
but let me know if you'd like to talk about it. "
And then wait for his. If he doesn't respond, don't double text him,
just continue to the fifth step number three, listen, without insisting or pleading. The purpose
of this communication is to understand what he's experiencing and to avoid any misunderstandings.
It's not to try to change his mind if he wants some space. As a high value woman, you will not
be insisting or trying to manipulate a different outcome. You are simply going to listen to
him and what he has to say. Obviously, if you have wronged him in some way, you're
going to apologize and explain. And if he has a solution you should entertain and think about it.
But if he tells you that he's unsure of the relationship or want space to take a break,
you must respect that. And let him know that you accept his request.
When you accept his request, without trying to convince him other.
You maintain your stance, your self-respect, and self-worth, if you request space, give it to him.
The moment you accept and agree to this without protest is the moment that he will begin to doubt
his decision. That alone could work like magic and change his mind. In other cases, it gives him
some time to miss you and appreciate you and the relationship. Number four, take your power back.
If he wants some space, that essentially means that he made a decision for both of you,
regardless of what you may have wanted.
And that results in a shift in the power balance, leaning in his direction. And when that happens,
it is important for you to take back your power so that you're on equal
footing. And one way to accomplish this is by letting him know that you will start dating.
This demonstrates your ability to own the situation that he created by withdrawing.
Of course, this only applies if you've been dating exclusively. If you had just been casually dating,
then obviously you don't want to mention anything about dating others because it would just
be assumed. So in the most direct, honest and respectful way, Let him know that you're going
to continue or start dating others and that you may not be available to date him again.
When he decides to come back, this conveys the message that you understand you're worth and how
you should be treated. And you're not going to be there anytime he decides he wants you.
Number five, don't reach out to him. I'm sure you'll get to urge to text him or reach out
one more time. Heck you probably even think of a good excuse to contact him that has nothing
to do with dating, but whatever the case, you must resist that urge and not do it.
He will see right through any excuse or reason that you have for contacting
him. And he will think that you are desperately needing him. Obviously,
this is not what a high value woman does. If he's made it clear that he wants some space,
you must be strong enough to respect that decision by respecting yourself.
So give him. Number six, use this opportunity to focus on your own personal growth and happiness.
So spend time with loved ones who make you happy, surround yourself with people
who make you feel good about yourself and do things that make you happy. This might include
taking up a new hobby or going on vacation or spending more time on your personal hobbies.
And. Doing things that make you happy will help improve your overall mood and outlook on life and
pursue your goals and dreams. This is actually the perfect time to focus on pursuing them.
Number seven, use social media wisely, despite the fact that you may be on a break,
it's very likely that he continues to look at what you are doing on social media.
He will be silently watching, trying to get a read on how you are. He wants to know if you're sad or
missing him, or if you're happy and have moved on. That's why it's super important that you
do not post anything related to your relationship. Just don't do it posting
about the relationship as an indirect way of sending him a particular message.
Doesn't look good to him or anyone else. This is not what a high value woman.
But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't post at all. I actually think that some
posts can be very helpful, just be sure that they're very positive, attractive,
and conveying that you are living your best life. Here's some things that are good to post first.
You can create uploads that convey your happiness and life satisfaction. You want to post photos or
videos of yourself, engage in activities with friends and. The purpose is simple, a photo
or video taken by someone other than yourself that conveys how happy you are and engaged in
some type of social interaction, he will see it and think, wow, she looks like she's so happy.
She looks like she's having the time of her life. And that will make him rethink his decision.
Second post photos, videos, or stories. Show that you are working towards an important goal. For
example, if you are a student, you could post a photo or a story or video that showcases the fact
that you are working on homework or studying for an exam or writing a thesis.
The purpose here again, you are showing him that you are prioritizing your life. And putting
yourself first look, it's easy to have your dignity shaken. When a man you're interested in
suddenly pulls away, it will make you second guess yourself, and wonder what you did wrong. But if
you use the steps that I just described, you will maintain your dignity and stay high value.
And it's very likely that he will be right back chasing after you.
But if that doesn't happen, you can click here to watch a video on getting over a breakup
or click here to watch the video that YouTube thinks that you. I'll see you in the next video.