what's up everybody welcome back to the
Frank James channel today we're talking
about the iniya gram of personality you
might have heard about these nine types
the type one the type two is he's just
gonna say one through nine what is he
doing if you're looking for a video to
give you the basics that Enneagram 101
you're on the right video
the inia gram is a tool to help you
understand yourself better to understand
what's going on underneath the surface
so that you can then find the best path
forward for self development self growth
becoming a better person by the end of
this video you'll have a pretty good
grasp on what the Enneagram is and be
ready to learn more dig deeper before we
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the inia gram has nine different types
in fact that's what the word Enneagram
means it means nine figure nine pointed
figure because you'll see the the
picture of the a Nia gram is a circle
with a little drawing inside of nine
points the nine types each type centers
around a struggle that they have and
these are universal human struggles so
you're going to relate a little bit to
all of the types we have a little bit of
each type in us but there's gonna be one
type in particular whose struggle the
central problem in their life is yours
and that is your type Enneagram teachers
theorize that our personality type in
the india gram comes about during
childhood because of some kind of trauma
and so we spend the rest of our lives
implementing certain behaviors that are
supposed to protect us from that thing
we're afraid of we also have a central
desire that we're always trying to move
towards the best way to figure out what
your type is is to just learn about the
types don't take a test just learn about
the types it's not it doesn't take long
and you're gonna find as you're going
through the types you're going to get
embarrassed really embarrassed about one
of them that's probably your type right
now I'm gonna go through a rundown of
all the types it's not going to be
comprehensive enough for you to really
know what your type is based on that but
it's going to give you some ideas you're
gonna be like mm I'm feeling suspicious
about one or two or three of these types
and that'll give you a starting point
all right so before we get into it as I
arranged my notes on here and as you get
a glass of water or something and strap
yourself in for the roller coaster ride
that lies before you
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the perfectionist also called the
reformer imagine the person in your life
who is sort of like a goody two-shoes
they've got it all together why are they
so perfect they always follow the rules
they're always they always got
everything straight in an order their
house is always perfect I can't they
just show some kind of weakness and
that's because that's what they're all
about they want to be good people ones
are orderly practical they want to
follow the rules
they're very ethical but the thing is
the other side of that is they can be
judgmental and intolerant if you violate
their ethics this comes from the fear of
being a bad person so they make their
lives miserable holding themselves to
impossibly high standards type two is
the helper or the giver imagine for the
two the ideal parent someone who's
always there for you someone who swoops
in takes care of you they got the food
for you the casserole they're there to
listen to you make sure you feel
understood the wipe away your tears
they're compassionate and giving but
they can go too far and be like overly
involved in your life and even
manipulative and sometimes ironically
selfish this is because the 2-sphere is
that no one will love them or need them
if they're not constantly giving of
themselves type-3 is the performer or
the achiever all right imagine if you
will that guy back in high school who
was super popular he was the president
he was the quarterback he was the lead
in the fall musical twenty years later
he's at the high school reunion
babies shakin hands everyone still loves
them they are driven by success
validation attention people slapping
them on the back saying good job as well
as status symbols they want to make sure
everyone knows they're successful and
that's because they're afraid they're
just worthless without any of that they
want and need the attention and
validation because without it who are
they then we move on to type four my
type yeh the artist the romantic imagine
a poet a guy a guy dressed in black
sitting off by himself in the farthest
corner of the coffee shop brooding
melancholy writing something in a
leather-bound journal the fours are
driven to demonstrate that they are
unique and different from other people
through using their talents fours don't
have to be artists but they often are
and they have some unique thing that
they're trying to do in the world to
show that they're different and that's
because they think they are uniquely
different in a disadvantaged way as well
they feel like they're broken in a way
that no one else is they feel that they
don't have an identity and so they need
to create something else that people can
interact with as a stand-in for their
identity number five type five is the
thinker or the investigator think of the
eccentric nerd the absent-minded
professor maybe not so much the Nutty
Professor
maybe fives are driven to understand the
world like intimately they want to
understand how everything works
why is everything happening they want to
ask a bunch of questions and pull things
apart
fives often prefer to understand the
world in a conceptual way rather than a
practical like hands-on experiential way
the five sphere is that they are useless
in just day-to-day life so that's why
they're overcompensating they want to
know all of these obscure things they
feel confident in their ability to like
talk about quantum physics but normal
stuff like holding down a job or having
a relationship they might feel like the
they're useless they can't do it the
type 6 is the Loyalists or the skeptic
some people say that that six is the
most common of the India Graham types
like maybe as much as half of the world
or sixes I don't know how do they arrive
at that figure all I can say is that 75%
of statistics are made up off the top of
people's heads the six is what you might
call a riot or die someone who will
stick with you through thick and thin
they're always there you know you can
count on them they're not gonna back
down they're not gonna abandon you sixes
are very likeable but they also kind of
keep their distance from people they
keep their guard up but once you get to
know them they're very loyal this so
they're like hard to know but once you
know them they'll never leave your side
sixes are also very anxious and they
want security that's why they latch on
to people because they don't trust their
own inner guidance and they're they're
afraid they're gonna get abandoned and
be left to their own devices and their
own inner guidance which they don't
trust next we get to type seven called
the enthusiast or the optimist imagine a
cheerful life of the party kind of
person the kind of person you just want
to be around because they they lift you
up they're so fun sevens are quick
learners they are excited about new
things
they're very bold as well the bad side
of this is that they will overdo
everything because they're really afraid
of missing out of not getting enough of
being limited of being pinned in so they
go overdrive all the time
we move on to type eight the Challenger
or the leader imagine like a drill
sergeant it's the kind of guy who comes
through the door you know that he's
gonna start telling everyone what to do
they're full of energy
they're willful they can be combative
they're not afraid to wrestle verbally
it's like they expect you to want to
jump in too and you know get into a
verbal sparring match they're so quick
to jump in and control people though
because they're afraid of being
controlled themselves to an eight it's
like everything is about power every
relationship every
interaction all about power and they can
get carried away by that then we come to
the nine called the peacemaker or the
mediator the nines man they go with the
flow
they're easygoing they're down to earth
they're the kind of person that when you
ask hey what do you want to do it
they'll be like I don't know what do you
want to do because in some ways they
honestly don't have an opinion they're
reassuring they're good at seeing
different perspectives hence their
moniker of peacemaker but the problem is
they're out of touch with themselves and
they really don't like conflict they
will really do everything they can to
avoid it interestingly if you look at
the NEA Graham shape the nine is at the
top which sort of symbolizes how the
nine tries to be all of the other
energies they try to let everything else
influence them flow through them without
asserting their own individuality their
own personality and this is because of
their central fear which is being
separated from others
losing relationships because of conflict
if you want to learn more here's a
couple books that you are gonna want to
check out first of all we have the road
back to you by Ian Morgan cron and
Susanne stabile this one is a pretty
easy read it's a good rundown of all the
types when you're ready for something
meteor or fake meet if you're a
vegetarian
we have personality types by Don Richard
Reese so this goes really in-depth this
has got some great stuff about all the
types I highly recommend this I have
links to both of these books down below
in the description
but hey you could get one of these for
free cuz they're both on audible just go
to audibletrial.com/preneurcast a there
he's got a lot of great information
about the types let me know in the
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Enneagram do you think it's more useful
than myers-briggs if you know both
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