does your child whine whining phrase on the nerves of any parent who has to deal with it
in this video i'm going to tell you exactly what you can do to teach and train your child
to stop the whining and start talking to you in a more respectful way by the end of this video
you will have a step-by-step plan to end the whining for good
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if you have a child who is constantly whining here's what you can do to help them learn to stop
that behavior and instead talk to you with respect number one build your relationship the first step
to just about any undesirable behavior in children is to build your relationship the most effective
way to get started improving in that area is to set aside five to ten minutes twice a day to do
eye to eye time this is uninterrupted time where you give your complete attention to your child
so they can talk to you about anything they want turn off your phone and computer or any other
distractions for that five to ten minutes and just listen best to do it once in the morning
and once before bed share their joys help them with their problems and build your relationship
number two have a conversation sit down with your child at a time of no conflict
and talk to them about whining do this in a humble and non-accusatory way letting them know that you
have noticed this behavior and want to help them overcome it ask them if they understand
what it means to whine and how it sounds number three lay out the plan tell them as their parent
you are going to start to help them by not allowing whining to happen without a consequence
there are two different things to do depending on their age level
the age levels will be four to seven and eight and up now if they're between four and seven years old
when they whine you will remind them that they are not to do this and they will have to sit
and cover their own mouth while they think about what they have just done when they
have recognized they were whining they can apologize and you will accept their apology
let them know additionally that if they whine the thing they wanted is no longer even a possibility
whining is a no-no so if they whine about something their desire is not going to be granted
if the whining was because of something they were told to do they will then have
to do it anyway so whining didn't do anything except cause this whole consequence to happen
remember this scenario is for a four to seven year old if they are eight years or older
sitting there and covering their mouth isn't really appropriate by that age they will need
to be handled differently instead have them go to their room or a private area and think about
what they just did and how they sounded then when they are ready they can come and apologize same
thing though they do not get what they desired if they whined about it and if they were whining over
something they were told to do they still have to do it so whining just wasted everyone's time
number four never reward whining it is very important that you catch the part that i just said
about not giving them what they desired if they are whining in even the least little bit
do not give them what they want if they wanted to get out of a chore you have asked them to do
make them do it and add something else to it if they want because they wanted a toy in the store
for instance let them know the whining means no if they ask politely and respectfully then you would
think about it and make a decision but whining crying or fussing in any way immediately means no
number five follow through the next time you hear a hint of a wine immediately think of this as an
opportunity to train your child don't get angry instead think this is the opportunity i have right
now as a parent to stop this whining problem for good i can do this it almost will make the
whining episode a little bit exciting because it can be the beginning of the end of this behavior
execute the plan all the way through until they have apologized and you have not allowed their
desire or have made them do what was required that started the whining when you follow through
you will start to feel you are accomplishing your goal for their good and for yours too number six
be consistent okay so the first whining episode after your conversation happened
you executed the plan good for you that's not the end be consistent
consistency is the key to effectiveness if you are consistent you can conquer this problem
behavior and both you and your child will feel better about your growing relationship
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