How to make your partner miss you long distance. The previous video had such a wonderful response
that I knew I had to do a sequel giving you some practical strategies on how to make your
man miss you from all those miles away. Hey, we've got the sexting guide as well. Make
sure you download that. That can be a wonderful long distance gift for a partner as well.
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Okay, I love the first video on this. It's one of my favorite on the channel. Make sure
you check it out if you haven't already and you know I did some research on this topic
and found frankly the dumbest advice. Don't message him for a few days. Oh yeah, great
idea. Make sure you are always the first one to hang up. You can in fact in that last video
proves that you can in fact make your partner miss you long distance by being authentic,
high value, and your best self. By the way, if you were trying to be the first one to
hang up and he was also trying to be the first one to hang up, you'd just be in a big competition
to see who could hang up first. Anyway, this video is about making your long distance partner
miss you. It's usually because he's, you've been together and he's gone away.
It could also be because you've gone away. It could be because you met on a holiday and
you've both gone away, back home or it could even be because you met online and he's going
to visit soon for a long visit, so you've decided to commit in the, in the interim period.
Whatever your situation, these strategies will make him absolutely think about you and
miss you long distance. Number one, scheduled connection time. This is via video calls,
so you want to have absolute scheduled time at least once a week, maybe two or three times
for some couples, but scheduled hard time that you spend together on video calls. Must
be video calls. You want to make this a regular thing where you don't prioritize anything
else. It's always each other for at least an hour. Most couples, I've talked to, they're
successful at this have two or three hour regular scheduled dates at least once a week.
Number two, unscheduled connection time. That's voicemail or video mail. So if you're a regular
user of Facebook messenger and you're sending him texts, or even if there's another text
message service that you use, get on Facebook messenger and use the recorded voice feature
instead. Have little conversation throughout the day in one minute blocks about what's
going on. Let him hear your voice. Have those emotional sparks in his brain when he can
actually hear the sound of your voice and what's going on rather than reading an essay.
It's so much more powerful. The other great thing is video mail. The best way to do this
as Snapchat though, Instagram works as well, fantastic for long distance relationships.
He gets to see your face. He gets to see the burritos you made in the morning or you dressed
up going out with the girls, or just what's going on with your day and a wake up or good
night message.
It is beautiful for that and it's fantastic for long distance relationships. Just make
sure if you are sending him video mail that you don't put it on your story or if you do,
you send him a private one as it kind of takes away the specialness if everyone gets to see
it. Number three, five to one. So John Gottman has a relationship research Institute and
he found that couples who stay together have on average five positive interactions for
every one negative interaction. You want to make sure your calls, your video calls your,
your Skype calls are generally sources of positive emotions for your man just as you'd
want him to be doing for you. It's not to say you can't vent, it's not to say you can't
have a bad day. However, you don't want to get into the place where you cause a negative
victimization just generally not good. It's going to drain your partner and it's going
to drain your relationship. Aim to make your calls on average, five to one positive to
negative. Number four, snail mail. How often do regular couples send each other snail mail?
Never? Do it it. See, you don't have as much time together in the relationship. Obviously,
he's not around to hang out at nights and things with you, so why not use one of those
nights to write him a letter? It's a beautiful gift. It's a surprise and it's a little memento
that he can leave somewhere around his house. Number five, take advantage of timezones wanting
compatibility that regular couples have in real life is that people just don't go to
bed at the same time. That can become a source of contention when you live together. However,
when you don't because you're worlds apart, it can actually be an advantage.
Not only are you expecting to go to bed at different times so you don't get pissed off
over it. You can actually utilize the time zones to get more done in your day. For example,
the time that I've dated long distance, I knew she'd be awake for a couple of hours
in the morning when I was awake and then my entire workday, she was unconscious. And mind
for her, it actually worked out perfectly because we both had eight straight hours to
concentrate on our work throughout the day and then we had more quality time for video
calls outside those hours. Sometimes the different time zones can really work in your favor.
Number six, surprise visits, so if your partner is interstate or overseas and especially if
you know their family and friends, set up a surprise visit, I think there is no greater
gift for your long distance partner. The other way you can do it is you can plan something
for them.
You can say, Hey, I bought you this thing. Go to this place at this time and then show
up there yourself. Obviously you want to make sure you're an established partner to do this.
When you do though, it's going to be a fantastic surprise gift for them. Number seven is personalized
gifts, so there's a whole bunch of personalized gifts and you can really unleash your creativity
with this from going online and finding something like a double watch or a double clock that
tells your time zones. There's even pillows that actually glow when you're long distance
partner is lying on them right through to something more personal. I think a sext is
one of the most beautiful gifts you can send to a partner. A long well-written quality
sex just absolutely makes your partner's day whether you are long distance or not. Remember
hit the in the description above and below the video to get that sexting guide.
I've got more guides waiting for you below that as well. Open-when-envelopes are the
other beautiful gift, another beautiful gift that you can give to your long distance partner
open when you are sad, open when you miss me, open when you're scared. All really good
gifts that your partner can use and that you can use for each other to keep your long distance
relationship connected and intact. Number eight, shared experiences. One of the tough
things about long distance is that you don't really get to share experiences the way a
regular couple would. You're talking on the video call and it's more of the interview.
It's more of the date situation. It's not the shared experience situation that you really
bond over. So why not create some, you can watch a movie together, you can play an online
game together. You can cook and be a cook the same meal, get all the ingredients and
cook the same meal together for your dinner date or even go out.
You can go out in the city, walk around, he can be walking out in his city too and you
guys can share a date around your city. We're in an age of technology where there is no
better opportunity to have shared experiences from a distance, so make sure you make use
of it. Number nine, physical mementos. So we talked about letters a little bit earlier.
Any physical memento that each partner can have in their room is fantastic to make the
guy miss you and for you to miss him too. It could be something like these key pillars
that I found online or it could be something personal from when the two of you were together.
Have gifts, have significant objects that remind you of one another, remind you of those
shared experiences, and it's going to make the guy miss you. Finally, number 10, remember
it's a means to an end.
So anytime one of you is feeling the distance, it's the job of the other one to remind you
that, Hey, things are gonna work out just fine here. And Hey, we've got this pretty
cool because we get to explore our independence. We get to kind of live the single style life
without dating other people here to grow our confidence, grow independence, while still
knowing at the end of the day, we have that person who we're eventually going to be with.
That's pretty cool. And when you guys are feeling the distance, remember to remind each
other of that. Well, that's the video. Thank you for watching. Let me know your thoughts,
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button with the little bell and give the video a thumbs up as well. Share it around to your
long distance friends and I'll see you on the next video very soon.
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