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married it's a pride month Q&A which was
the topic suggested by my responses in
the cupboard beside club and Cara's down
there she's gonna be checking in your
comment as you write them a sounding
utah sound and audio well that's the
same thing yeah yeah the audio visuals
okay yeah yeah yeah and also there's a
mirror just off camera so that I can
lip-read Claudia and know what's going
on yeah she's not just faking least oh
this is a webcam and normally we use our
camera which has which I can actually
see her and that's a it's very new it's
a new thing it's a new thing
yeah exciting mm-hmm say how do we start
Oh Anne describe your sexuality
oh I identify as a lesbian
although I do actually say gay don't day
yeah don't call me say my lesbian I just
say I'm gay and I have ever since I knew
what that was because I just had
feelings for girls always and I thought
everyone else had exactly the same
feelings and then someone tells me they
didn't notice my huh yeah you'd have a
very good coming-out story that's all
yes the world was boring coming out
there's only one explanation I just had
feelings for girls but everyone's like
how did you know that they were
different to your feelings about the
thing what I'm saying is that as a small
child
they were like special girls who I
really liked I thought that they were
just the feelings you get for a best
friend yeah because I was like god she's
amazing I just wish she was my I didn't
have a word for it so I just said best
friend and then the feelings I had for
boys were like yeah they're all right I
guess and my friends started be like oh
my god boys don't they just make
hearts kickin you feel all funny inside
MEMS like no but that does happen when I
see that girl again there's no because
you're like a really girly fan lesbian
who likes you no other quiet whereas
you're like I was like and I go my best
friends when I was little boys so I like
boys more like you know yeah I felt more
connected to boys it was until I got a
bit older that I had more internship was
with girls that's mainly cuz the boys
left our school and there was only girls
to play with during a girls school I
mixed up until the age of like middle
school and then the boyars door left and
then us girls were left they could go to
another school we should say like they
were left in the wilderness but you
dated boys yeah I did
yes leading this conversation and then I
yeah and then I'm updated boys made
friends with boys I get on better with
boys generally I don't have any
boyfriends anymore it's really sad she
keeps saying she needs more guy need
some more guy friends sorry we live in
Brighton yeah but now I would just say I
tend to identify as gay lesbian married
to a woman yeah I don't think it really
matters when you once you're married
yeah I think I always say I don't think
it matters at all what even if in 10
years time you go actually there is a
part of me that does still quite like
men because as long as there's a part of
you that likes me why should I care yeah
well identify as gay slash lesbian slash
marito women but that is your sexual
sexual but um I'd like I have said to
you like I still find men attractive
like it doesn't repulsive like it does
with you oh yeah sometimes I thank you
this last night was yeah sometimes I
like to test whether I'm still full of
lesbian just because I think it's really
important you should know [ __ ] about
using teenagers like you
I'm sorry oh I was just imagining
kissing those people on the TV and I was
like no sighs and definitely still gay
I'm like okay well that's good to know
darling I I see you know men on
television who are conventionally really
attractive or something and I'm like
imagine oh no I can't do it I can't do
it yeah so then I yeah still hello Tilly
you come to join him
what Tilly is just sleeping on my lap
just like so yeah with a revelation
moment there come on and yeah talking
about there's only one because that we
were thinking about how we're gonna
answer some questions and the main one
apparently we've never made a video
about my coming-out story no sorry I
have asked you but you said no I was
like nah she's mine now they shall share
with you all
well it's not that I don't personally
think it's I interesting it's not it's
like a fishy coming out there's other
people's know that oh I told my dad and
he cried and then like we hugged it out
it's not like I don't have anything like
that particularly I told my dad and he
was just like oh okay
and then that was it he was like oh but
you went out with your boyfriend for
five years and I was like yeah but now I
like girls and he's like oh so you like
babe when I was like I don't know I'm
just gonna go for the girls at the
moment and he's like oh and then he was
like I went for a phase when I was your
age and I quite liked men for a while
but I didn't go there and I was like all
right but I am gonna go there was one of
those you know what I was like anyway
and my oh the people answer with Anik
yeah I went through a phase way of
saying that's okay in a way and then
like yeah yeah
but now my um my realization moment I
don't know it must have site just um
well I was like I was in uni and I'd be
one of those like typical kind of
straight girls that you say pump and
like pull my girlfriend's out in a club
but not for man attention just because
we were drunk and we were really close
and we just wanted to kiss I don't we
don't know you used to do that you
but we didn't think anything of it it
was just like yeah we're drunk we're
having so much fun and let's kiss and
make out but like it wasn't really
making out it was just and then the next
day I would just be totally normal
like she talked about the guy she likes
and I talked about my boyfriend okay
yeah and then I never got to experience
no nnm and then I guess like but then
even then I didn't really feel anything
for it because it was just my friend so
he doesn't like sexually attracted to
her or anything and then my first thing
was I bought a book by Sarah waters
called Tipping the Velvet she's a
lesbian writer British writer who writes
loads of lesbian literally based yeah I
don't know what made me buy the book
like maybe I read a review of it or
something but it must subconsciously I
thought well I'm gonna like I'm gonna
read this book and then I got really
into the character like I really sort of
I don't know I just I like a real
emotional attachment to her even though
I life is nothing like her as she like
grew up and I can always to shed in like
Victorian times but anyway she was like
young and innocent and she moved to
London I guess maybe that's I had just
moved to London that may be the thing
you're young yeah it's like a
coming-of-age story and anyway I've got
really obsessed with this book like I
used to read it over and over and over
and then I found that I was a TV serial
on it so I got really into that
and then I watched that over and over
and at that point I wasn't like I just
wasn't keeping it a secret
I loved Tipping the Velvet am I so into
her head never almost all right you
didn't have to keep it a secret because
you didn't yes it was revealing and yeah
yeah exactly and and then as I kind of
got a bit more obsessed with it I was
like yeah maybe I should stop talking
about this because it's a little bit
weird and I was like why am I so weird
this is strange and then I got into you
after that then I watched like all the
lesbian based films I could find it's a
stream and then some of them I liked
someone evident I liked and I realised I
like the ones that have really strong
emotional connections not like all
they're really sexy or it's like
forbidden or has like some deaf at the
end it was like so I really liked
imagine me and you and I really liked
Oh today finding Annabelle was slightly
up there but that was mixed a bit weird
only because it was lesbian thing that
has like the teacher-student
relationship or like the bad girl and
the good girl
know how they just be two good girls
yeah why does there have to be an
element of rebellion and naughtiness in
this they're not being naughty it's just
normal
yeah we need more normal lesbian thumbs
and then I go into the l word so and
then the L words because it was so much
more this is a lesbian drama I kind of
hid it I hid the fact I watched it so I
streamed it in my room so I'd be like
humming oh it's gonna go to bed now I'm
retired but I'd actually go and watch
like episode after episode of all the
series and then I've watched the series
again and then I'm like wait collectors
I've ever watch that again I'd watch
that and I was like really into it and
then I knew once I was watching it I was
into it more than just a straight girl
fan like of the program and then I
remember going into HMV when HMV was
still a shop I really wanted to buy the
box set because I was I hated the fact
that it would pop up Bing you've watched
too many hours the street knows how much
anymore nothing good yeah they can--they
and I remember circling round and round
to the box set of MBL were thinking
should I buy actually bought it open and
look like people know I'm gay if I buy
this box set like as I do when I did it
on a weekly basis I go into HMP you see
that it was on sale well that they'd
have a few copies and I go oh and I just
didn't bikes I didn't want to like even
out myself to the cashier person because
premieres be outing yourself to yourself
yeah so I can't went through that for
quite a long time maybe about a year of
just like secretly watching the L words
and not having the courage to buy more
or less bein fiction or more lesbian
dramas from shops unless I could order
it from the Internet then I wasn't gonna
buy it
and so I not that many stuff you could
get from the internet then like lesbian
things I mean back in the day
and then I think then I just like yeah
so I think though I think I knew there
was something going on and then but my
actual coming out wasn't until after my
mum died so this was all happening just
before she got diagnosed counsellor
then she got diagnosed cancer which is
quite quick and I just kind of put my
whole sexuality thing on hold and
concentrated on my studies and my mum
yeah and then when my mum died I think I
dated like some guy and and I remember
being on the date with him like I mean I
date it like I went on like three or
four days and then I remember being on
the last date with him I just like
staring at him and I just thought I am
gay like it just came up to me like so
clearly yeah you know what this isn't
gonna work out he said well I thought we
having I thought this was going really
well I was like no I've just I've just
realised I just really don't fancy you
and I don't think I'm gonna fancy men
just don't for a while it's not like I
just need to lie and I'm like I just
think when I see you anymore he was like
oh okay but inside I was like I'm gay
I'm gay and it was so nice actually that
feeling and then I think it was because
most things are like Carl I think
because my mum had died and you know you
reassess your life and your priorities I
had to confront a lot of my own emotions
and I've heard a lot of friends around
you were there and no matter what and
things like that I just saw you know the
time is now like actually I need to just
be true to myself and live my life and
come with me because you know Jenna was
gonna happen so I was like I'm not gonna
be scared anymore not gonna circle
around
HMV 20 times simply too scared to buy
books there that may or may not say I'm
gay and then I just I was actually
really excited to tell all my friends
and family and they were just like yeah
and I was like oh and then up in your
room at the l-word
yeah and then they were and then they
pointed out you do realize you have
loads of posters and pictures of like
women on your wall like you have lots of
paintings of nudists nude women and you
do a lot of paintings of nude women and
you go to life during classes every week
and draw no Baroness until away for a
while yeah no yeah that is a baby that
is that is a tiny little lesbian
oh I'm shocked so for me anyway I was a
long long process and you know yeah I
think I had in the kind of realization
of gayness I had a bit of an unfair hand
up in that my family are very gay
friendly
I knew that my father's best friend was
my godfather he died before his one that
I knew he was gay I knew he died from
AIDS
I knew that my parents were huge lgbtq+
supporters and so I didn't never had any
questions about coming out to them and I
knew that my aunt was gay you know when
you're a small child and you just kind
of assume that the world is just the way
it is there was never been anything
before that's just this is it so I
always thought that my aunt had just
always been gay she'd always the
marriage this woman and they'd had these
children they'd always had these
children together like that was just it
that's it and so I thought well you see
everyone in the world just loves anyone
right whoever they like yeah there is my
brain like adult gays in my life yes my
parents my dad's was from a background
where I mean he was born I mean not even
born
like he was in his he was in his young
professional life as a doctor when it
was illegal to be publicly gay you know
like so it's completely different for
him and then and then my mother is from
Malaysia where again it's illegal to be
gay
so they were quite they're both not who
my favorite but they had never had gay
people around them
yeah there were those kind of figures
for you to look up to and know that this
is yeah they're from very conventional
backgrounds basically both of them my
parents were wishes like my parents like
the RTE you know left-wing liberals oh
yeah they love that gay they do so so
what happens all right um that's so
that's the come now that's a coming in
ring yeah any next question Clara hit us
I hope you guys are enjoying this he
found out some things about me I know I
didn't know used to kiss straight gals
in clubs hi my friends not just random
three girls it's still strength-building
Club okay I never got to do that
because I came out so early to my
friends and it has a bit more meaning
yeah I did kiss one of my friends my
first kiss was one of my friends mmm hi
you're watching and the rest of our
friends got really angry with her
because they were you're not allowed to
do this this means so much more than it
does to do it's not okay and then no
girl would kiss me I was a wasteland my
teenager yeah I secretly knew I was gay
all along I just wanted to I just say
all say that and whilst I was really
into Tipping the Velvet and during my
first through second year of uni I was
still going out with my boyfriend and I
told him and he knew I was obsessed with
it and I told him that I liked I was
like I think I might be into girls and
you thought okay but then I didn't even
think of it again that he's a pretty
cool guy there yeah he's a he's an actor
so he's surrounded by love everything
you need to know open people he's a
delight he does look scary like my dad
hey hey wait wait right Clara next
question a try
this one from Victoria about straight
and straight passing people being a
crime and being part of the community
okay if you didn't hear that the
question was are straight people and
straight passing people acceptable at
pride and summer Anika is one of my
favorite people you should go and watch
her youtube channel I think a Victoria
that was it okay I love that especially
great question and I think of course
that's it I think it's a bit ridiculous
the whole argument about our straight
passing people and straight people
allowed at pride because they might be
casting well there are just so many
reasons why like for instance I was
trying to explain the Sicari the other
day if there was a disabled pride and
you saw someone and they looked
able-bodied would you
chuck them out of the Pride Parade
surely not because they could be
disabled
they could be invisibly disabled there
are many types and invisible
disabilities as we know or like for Ann
and I think it's just about a like Pride
is just a support we ourselves and each
other and all different areas of
sexuality including straight people
probably you know tonight I don't see
why they can't accept I was announced a
and then the person there was a whole
I'll agree I was going somewhere with
this so the person could also be there
with their partner who is disabled or
with their child or their parent or
their friend or they could just be a
random person on the street who wants to
show some love yeah in the same way at
pride I think yes I want to show you
support or like women's rights marches
like I think it's great when there's men
there definitely know if it was just
women marching I wouldn't have such a
strong voice it's the fact that people
who don't have to fight for it is still
fighting for it I think the impact and
it's the same with straight people come
along to pride it's like they helped
pass those registrations that got us to
be able to marry you know because
they're the majority and they leave the
court to be allowed to come to exactly
events like right equality works well
for everyone a quality benefits
entire society like with women's marches
and if we're all on an equal footing
then it's good for all people so you
know men and non-binary people should be
included in these types of things and in
LGBT q past spaces everyone should get
involved yeah it's like when I was
before I had to come out one of my well
my and one of my ex-boyfriends is it was
gay and he wasn't gonna go and then I
was his last girlfriend and anyway I
went to heaven which is a big fame like
one of the most famous gay nightclubs in
London and I remember they let me in
because I was with him and but I still
felt like they were a bit like mmm you
know you put you like a girlfriend like
you know I kind of thing you get your
girl rate straight you straight go
straight from yeah and anyway when I was
I would move dancing and my my friend
was like dancing with a guy that he
fancied and so I was like okay well I'm
gonna leave him to it so I'm gonna just
dance over here and I said dancing this
other guy he was clearly gay like
because everyone in there was gay and
Louis was having a nice date time
dancing and then I just thought you know
we've been dancing for about a couple so
I was just like what's your name in his
ear he's like I'm gay love I know it's
what your name was oh no one he was
dancing with me like just to be nice
like he wasn't actually accepting of me
being in this space maybe he was
actually a bit pissed off I was even
here like that
I think since that experience because
I've had it from that side as well I
never want to make someone feel
uncomfortable in a space that is meant
to make people feel comfy and I I don't
know whether this goes completely again
no it doesn't but I one day I read it
like it's being hit on by straight men
and gay bars yeah you shouldn't Hill
people that
maybe rethink if you're straight but I
guess maybe that's why they're gay but I
think he thought I was hitting on him
when I also his name was yeah maybe he's
like just like gonna stop yeah hang on
now cuz I do that like if straight men
come up to me what's your name oh and
that neckla like hello I'm gay
yeah I don't do that like married yeah
well they like kind of like I hate the
way that lessons the worst thing has
ever happened to me at a gay bar
no don't share this is a family-friendly
channel it was a bad thing okay I was
sexually harassed in a gay bar where I
thought I was safe but I got the guy out
so it was fine that is good yeah I mean
not now out he was injured but nothing
he was saying and they're like he went
out of the club yes there was I just did
the sign asexuals which we all know now
don't we thanks to my video asexuals and
if you're a romantic
[Laughter]
let me have to do that face do you do
you know yeah it's very important it's
much than we like gender non-binary the
actual sign if I don't your face
that just means gender binary
yeah so to make it gender non-binary you
have to shave like okay my language it's
a beautiful thing so asexuals are they
welcome in their LGBT queue you see
because it's LGBTQ I A+ in long for the
plight huh what's the plus everyone else
it doesn't fall into those categories so
a is already established in it yeah a is
asexual right
yeah I'm right do you want to know what
you think but some people argue anything
that's very unpacks I think LGBTQ plus I
think this acronym I'm did I'm not good
I think it's just like its
it's just like any sexuality that isn't
the mainstream like even Adam is in my
opinion or whatever looks okay you just
even add in rather than other oh yeah
yeah yeah I think the pride and you know
we call it gay pride but that's just for
sure because that's much easier than say
gay and there's Ben I'm bisexual after I
remember that um I think it's just for
anyone who's not sis hat right yeah
exactly
welcome welcome
like she says like yeah that's why I
said it's Adam and Eve even haven't it's
like you're you know like the way the
Bible wrote it if you're not one if
you're not that then you're welcome to
the LGB QT a i PX c if you were in
adjusting gay still welcome yeah no
sorry I wasn't like anything and to be
fair if you're really religious you're
probably not gay we had a religious
wedding okay we're not ball religion
look great Karissa I mean we're not
really really religiously this is
different I mean this is a different
video my weight we're on Friday politics
religion or sex politics and religion my
mother said oh I love that my mother was
like no sex politics religion and then
dives right in
okay but there are those thrilling GCE
conversation topics I know I'm gonna
talk about Ireland question okay thank
you
I've strengthened time with Forrest's
dying where are those questions you get
when you come out to people and in
general that was weirdest question um a
question I feel like I think when you're
gay you come out once but it's not just
once you have to come out constantly
every day take a new person you meet um
does she
like you I get that because people seem
to think that I think most reality is
just yeah narcissism or I think they
mean is she vintage II like you okay oh
she garlic smile yeah girly um I already
think what's a weird question
yeah like weird annoying statements made
at you like oh so wasted Oh such a shame
well you're a [ __ ] to be gay or you're
too pretty to be disabled
Mike where'd you lose the man is the man
that's the funny one completely not why
we're gay no your bet you're missing a
basic tenement of lesbianism there um
now I've already had any like weird
questions I don't think cuz most them
are quite fair enough you know like how
did you know you're gay
what kind of girls do you like what to
come now thoroughly fine though their
second or maybe I used to farm when I
was teenager that when you come out
people some of the questions they ask
you are incredibly intrusive things that
they would never ask a straight person I
would okay yeah cuz I guess you went out
you went after the piano to you face
other teenagers and their stupid
questions and also things like how do
you know you're gay if you've never had
sex how do you know you're gay if you
never had sex with a girl I just be like
how do you know you're straight if
you've never had sex with a boy you just
know it's not necessarily about other
people it's about you and yes well most
people's dutchy that people did say that
to me like because I never said I'd had
sex with boys but I hadn't had sex with
a girl when I told my friends I was gay
and they were like oh have you like
slept with a girl now then to compare
and I'm like no I don't need to like I
know we're about having to sleep with a
girl
luckily when I did sleep with a girl it
compounded but not have it not been
great it could just have been that
specific girl yeah like one person
doesn't stand for an entire judge on not
works and yeah just constant very
intrusive sex questions that's why I
faced was a teenager he'll miss out I
was great
it's not great also I used to get asked
every single day by a small child energy
let's keep talking
yeah I'm just wait I'm sorry I'm waiting
for that we can't see what are you sayin
Jessica for you now question have you
ever had a kiddo that turned out to be
homophobic or have you encountered a
doctor that was homophobic what happened
how did you don't forget um I wouldn't
say I've had anyone that's been
homophobic because we live in England I
guess everyone was too polite to ever
think even if people are homophobic it's
a bit like well luckily he recently has
a lesbian doctor who well yeah
confession I started and the pill for my
migraine yeah that's a whole thing I'm
gonna make a video about the day
everything GP that we went to before was
a bit like why do you want contracept
and crunch a second because we went in
together
why do you want contraception well for
her my brains and she's like oh not
because you're like worried about
pregnancy right we're married
she's like yes but I thought I'd better
still ask him like what didn't we do I'm
just having sex on the side just in case
I mean I'm Trisha to us but it's yeah
and we do also know someone who was
denied contraception no was denied the
pill because it was 11 dreams of use yes
and but no this doctor was really nice
and gay no I mean yeah he's a bit of
very I don't say though I did have a
carer who I didn't come out to there in
white a while
because I knew she was very Catholic and
I didn't want to and I didn't have a
girlfriend so and I wasn't you know
dating or anything
no reason really come out and then when
I did I didn't until I had an actual
girlfriend and then had to be like
mm-hmm so you know that girl and she was
like oh right yes and she just kind of
skated over it looks like your your good
friend your I don't have like obviously
a carer and I don't really talk because
like ever but a similar sort of
relationship I guess would be because
I'm the dentist I don't tell my patients
I'm gay because unless it comes up
imitation but I don't go oh me and my
wife like I don't just drop it in like
you know like like I would perhaps more
comfortably drop in if I was married to
a man like oh my husband and I went this
weekend at the cinemas we can I just say
I I did this all weep I don't say like
my wife I don't specify my sexuality
because of there is still kind of a bit
of a fear from my part which role which
sometimes I'm a bit changeful that I
have even have that I should just leave
a crowd but like that my patient will
like feel uncomfortable like if but then
but that's that's me assuming that they
have slightly homophobic feelings
yeah which most of them probably Danes
but I don't want to put them in a
position where they feel uncomfortable
and then they can't say it's because
it'd be on PC you know like for equally
but no you want to be careful that
they're not aggressive towards your life
in a position that it's quite delicate
exactly and let's at the end of the day
my sexuality and my personal life is
nothing to do with my professional life
so I think just keep I just keep it
quiet but it can be a little bit
upsetting when like my colleagues are
just chatting away about their family
life and that builds rapport between
them and that patient which isn't easier
like icebreaker whereas I can't build
rapport in that way I have to just build
it for a one-way kind of conversation in
a way I talk about dogs a lot hahaha
they're a great yeah oh yeah there are
times when I think it's
it's for safety reasons as well it's not
worth coming out so I've been in taxis
before and like trash to taxi on because
I can't to everyone even if I can't hear
them I will chat to them tydomin you got
to hear them huh you talk more when you
hear them yes it's my nice defensive
mechanism don't leave me out I'll just
keep talking and eventually you'll let
me in anyway and they've kind of gone on
a bit of a homophobic rant I was started
being rude about me leaving Brighton
just known as the gay capital of the UK
and sometimes you know drive past a gay
club or they'll just be talking about
Brighton suddenly it's like oh well you
know I've been here since before the
gays came I think oh really
yes I'm they changed everything and then
suddenly it all pours out well and then
I just don't I'm not gonna go by the way
I am a gay please it's like I grow some
like that about brexit which is like
anyway but that's yeah that's a white
passing thing all right yeah just
because like what if they knew that you
were mixed they probably wouldn't say
things like that and I'm like yeah that
with more anger anyway next question
Clara's ready what can be LGBT community
to do to be more open and accepting what
can the LG okay what can the LGBTQ
community to be more accepting of gay
people
no just inclusive of disabled people
well fun fact one-third of people who
identify themselves as LGBTQ plus are in
fact disabled did you know so it's
definitely an area that they should be
what are you looking at that for no no
we had a reaction and um so I worked on
many levels partly like looting earlier
prepping for this that gay spaces have
often been underground they can't be
places
but I just on the house you literally
like underground like basements of your
attic where you so they're very hard to
access it's almost like physical
prohibition almost like oh yeah like the
gay go back into the back room well yeah
yeah we like hide stuff which is both
for the protection of LGBT plus people
themselves and also because you know the
straights didn't want to see and it was
illegal so no even when it wasn't
illegal it was just yeah not a
mainstream no like a subculture yeah
yeah but now because it's a lot more
open there are places that you can go
through that are wheelchair accessible
but still need to be way more like
Brighton I think only I remember vaguely
from when I was in a wheelchair and the
student I just only one venue oh god I
don't think there's one wheel tricks and
I think even in behind you I think even
if Brighton where it's like the gay
capital of Britain like there's still a
like a lot of things in our in our pop
culture kind of you know existence its
kind of cool to be in a subculture yeah
and and you'll find that with a lot of
gay people they like the exclusivity of
its and that unfortunately does mean
that it's not accessible always to
disabled people I think like for
instance that game night we go to you
right now if you think both revenge and
their names and places and brightest and
the club embrace yeah you have to go up
the stairs to get into the main room you
do
and then to get into the other room and
then like that they lift and then gal
pals which is held at commedia yes it's
always downstairs in the basement
yeah I'm to go downstairs and again
there's no lift so what are you gonna do
if you're like I mean I'm just this is
one disability area like I'm talking
about someone who can't manage stairs
you know there's obviously other issues
and I mean I don't even have any like
major like daytime events no I tweeted
there it's like I'm
really wish there were more daytime days
spaces that I could go to other than
just pride which is one we can be here
and there are two days that have daytime
activities as someone who has a lot of
energy difficulties there is a there is
a gay ping pong Club Table Tennis Club
like there's certain sporting groups and
as a gay badminton group
there's lots a sport and grit like if
you want something like you want to do a
gay thing of the day is only gonna be in
a part of the sport team because
obviously games like thanks for if
you're like you're obviously active and
sporty and then and if you're like a
nighttime person then you're obviously
seedy you want to there is nothing else
Rowan Ellis another youtuber and I think
she is doing something setting up an
LGBTQ space there's a daytime thing but
that's in London because every good
thing is in London obviously um in terms
of moving away from just physical
disabilities though and mental health is
obviously a massive issue within the
LGBTQ community because just the act the
act of being that used to be just being
the dull process and the whole process
of having a realization in yourself it
can be quite traumatized
yeah and we're more likely to face
harassment especially trans people if
you consider how much harassment they go
through my own daily race is that that's
going to have a big effect on your
mental well-being but how to combat how
to combat that I think it's I think with
mental health awareness being quite big
this year there was an you know whole
week on it recently in the UK and the
legalization of gay marriage across many
countries I think there is much more
awareness of both LGBTQ plus society in
groups and cultures and mental health
issues
yeah and as two separate things they're
both coming
more mainstreamed and you know promoted
so I think there will be enough yeah
yeah I'd like to see more in the media
more of an intersection between Gary
identities I say gay identities I
include trans people in a second people
as well sorry too
shortly and with disabilities and mental
health conditions and and I'd like to
see more characters on TV who are gay
and disabled or you know things like
that but I think that's going to happen
yeah I think yes I've noticed it more in
the media that has - shift definitely
there are I'm not a minor version it
gave us April youtubers hi
so that's good yeah sorry going man yes
is that going to be answered the
question busy yeah you have like Jesus
sentences from you sure I know you guys
mentioned yeah one number books on
celebrity car celebrity crushes faith
the second love of my life I mean to be
the longest love of my life secondly to
you I will be the longest oh no because
you'll always have less you our love of
her I hope true unless I pull out of
laughs at the mostest - well - then the
main two characters but obviously the
main character
Nancy King in Tipping the Velvet the one
I said I go then I like just felt really
connected to all of the cast of The L
Word
the original Lancaster's algorithm yeah
I just love all of them because they all
run Jenny yeah they all they're the
whole point of them is that they
represent I think a facet of each part
of someone's human-like psyche like so
they're like oh they're also they're
also quite like I won't go into an
indent noticing I think you can the
creator Ilene Chaiken when she say that
they are all representation of the car
yeah exactly
like because one person isn't TD and you
can view and
woman isn't just your Eva gay or you're
straight or you're a feminist or you're
not you know there's a you're many
things and that's what's so complicated
about sexuality and gender and so on and
I think the l word even though was quite
narrow in a way on sexuality and gender
and representation and it was actually
really it was the only thing around at
that time and I think it was I still
massively like like what sweat whose
massive pause oh oh oh my am coming out
and my self pride to you that show oh
that's lovely
um mine would be every character from
background person ha ha no specifically
facing Buffy they are they are my OTP
forever now here would be our icons now
because that's not many icons are all
like I still my eyes once you know them
forever breaks and loose imagine me in
you you're a gay icons see like she's
not gay but I really love Julianne Moore
no wait the type of straight women they
go to pride you know they're like the
ones that have rallied for women they've
rallied for game it right for equality
and they're like and that's why I think
and they were also really hot so M
Julianne was a redhead yeah Georgia has
a type and she stayed gay coaches oh
yeah yesterday um there are bad much
like game you keep this as well I really
like naming they really do need you to
say that naming my guy your Cooper's
which ones do you like um hi Shannon
Shannon yeah she's very cool she's
really cool yeah um I uh say well I'm
bisexual but Ashe hotel yeah
I'm gonna collab with next week oh it's
lighting at VidCon yeah I'm really
excited to meet them yeah that is very
exciting I only recently discovered I
didn't discover Jessica pointed me to
ashes videos and I was like ah I really
loves that stuff yeah I know
really aesthetic but also really real
and grace seems so lovely as well yeah
oh my god yeah we can high-five on the
marriage stuff oh my god I really like
my spender okay yeah Cody was just like
I love my you too if you get one you
gonna and you really obsessively know
the people but you know yeah and then
you meet someone else and they're like I
love these youtubers are you like wait
no I can use the same this yeah well I
think it's great how you stumble over
people like you have 20 million
followers hideaway and what's even more
interesting is when you watch that stuff
it's really grab sometimes so I'm pretty
boring anyway 45 minutes we're moving
our living on our being moving it's
maintaining intimacy and sex like
difficult for either one of you
maintaining intimate and sex life
difficult for us
I warned about this one you did warn
about this question that is true well in
terms of light because we're just
getting really ugh you know thank you so
long oh my god and at the end of this
month know at the end of next month it
would be the four year anniversary of
our meeting
okay we've only known each other for
years mates with raisi
I can't actually remember life without
you anymore
there's just a hole we got asked do you
know are like that same question but it
kind of
like a more full sighted kind of way by
a Quaker elder before our marriage so we
had to have things like marriage license
primero sessions and he asked us
so obviously you at the moment you're
young and in the frames of love and
passion but how are you going to
maintain that love and passion in
tonight thirty years down the line
doesn't it when the physical crap yeah
whenever visible attraction has gone or
might not be as it was I think I'm going
to fancy Claudia when she's 18
yeah and we just said that it's then you
kind of we well we have got that yet
that I said because love and attraction
isn't based on just physical like this
it's like a just a like a you know you
are just the other half of my so just a
deeper connection and you know we can
both be looking absolutely horrendous in
like the morning we've just been
drinking lens it all night and we decide
to get it on like yeah because it just
felt like we were having a nice cuddly
moment just like yeah it does sometimes
something's going somewhere and then my
hip pops out and it's what you has to
like put my head back in and then it
continues to go someone yeah
my disabilities don't really stop us
from I don't know I didn't think we can
really answer that yet if anything might
happen even zoom a few years I don't
know that the question I was actually
about the length of time we've been
together I think it's more about my
disabilities if I'm reading this
correctly someone correct me is that
what the questions about and he
literally read it that it was they know
so how do you maintain your like sex
life hmm I think it was probably to say
wherever you have answered us so we're
gonna move on did you ever get sex all
right yeah sorry did we get sex ed class
in school I repeat these in case you
can't hear class yeah yes we did well I
did I wasn't different school but a my
school really where we go to the same
school someone used to write that arm
fiction I've written it in my head
already fine continue yeah Oh a lot
having a bicycle yeah we had sex ed we
have sex anyone on my primary school
well watch like a weird video about
thank you people
our nudists there was like a video
educational and some people like to live
their lives completely naked because
that is absolutely fair and just look at
this man playing tennis
England's weird those are not the only
balls bouncing yeah like that and then
but yeah we did that condom on a banana
so yeah I was very useful because it was
like people like to live their life nude
and here's how you put a condom on a
banana and because you could get guys
but how that was it my sex ed class is
like but why do people have sex because
this does not sound great it's like you
have sex either you immediately become
pregnant or you get a host of diseases
and then your bits fall off and you
watch from the inside I do you think so
why does anyone do it this sounds
terrible now I think I was told like
from a young age that people have sex
for pleasure yeah like my mum told me my
school told me it's terrible and then
other educate to creycrey school for a
while and they were very different and
not their sex ed stuff was about
relationships as well which I really
appreciated
it's really nice so it was all about
like when you find that special person
and you build this bond of trust and
love and then you have sex with them and
it's an amazing beautiful experience and
it was like oh that's why people do it
yeah I think it's sex ed at school well
when I was at school was more a slight
fear mongering thing it was kind of
funny too it was kind of like you will
have a baby unless used contraception
like every time and if you're not using
contraception and you don't have a baby
then you might get an S I wasn't it
basically like that no it's like it was
great there wasn't a lot of gay sex you
can have a happy nude life
the cults I think is you might improve
sex a bit more like they should talk
about different types of sexuality
different cultures and religious
viewpoints on sex and gender to respect
each other sector and to respect each
other's like sexuality sexuality I
usually maybe talk about sexual kinks
that people are into and like maybe
consent basically they should hire us
we're going to rewrite the entire
program and operatin easy weekly lessons
and sign language okay it will be
assigned sex ed class as well employers
government question it's not really a
question but there is this lovely girl
who is like a shout out done autistic
crying Monday so that again oh it is
autistic pride on Monday I didn't know
anything
I didn't know that there was an artistic
pride well that's good to separate no
it's on a Monday not all prides have
parades this is true should have a
parade first thing everyone needs
is there a logo for autistic pride that
should be and should be like an aware to
be more of an awareness thing in like
someone please tweet me the logo of
autistic pride so I can tweet it on
Monday and if there is a well like
someone should design it put it over
yeah someone makeup a logo for artistic
pride and tweet it to me so I can tweet
it on Monday I like tweeting you can
follow me on Twitter at Jessica wrote II
see out of the closet yes it's pretty
like shorter than me next question this
is so much it's so quick car is having a
meltdown know what you're saying melting
down so many questions um this one is
cute
what is both of your favorite memory
each other crazy memory okay my favorite
memory was in the first 317 pheromones
but it's my bathroom in the first three
weeks of us dating
and we weren't at that time we live in
each other's pockets it must be in the
first two weeks you moved in there in
the first two weeks of us dating and I
had to go to work the next day and you
had work next day so you were sleeping
in her own flat uh-huh which was just
weird cuz I never after them and we were
texting each other and I was like oh
yeah getting ready for bed good night
good night and then you said up to your
front door you're just standing there I
need to walk the whole way like that and
then we just have this massive smooch on
the doorstep and then I said we were
texting and I said I wish I could give
you a goodnight kiss oh my I wish that
too and then I texted me said come to
your front door then and then you came
down in your hair is it works you just
can't the bath yeah and then I gave you
a kiss on a man like that was it by mr.
lipstick on your hurry
I love you yeah that was that was a
pretty yeah and I was a nice memory for
me as I do things I won't like lift up
what's the first moment I saw you know
that's pretty nice and I just looked at
into her face and I felt like oh but
that one yeah my I've got ladies as well
but not normally just like such a way
then or me like just like a few seconds
of like oh you know but mine is so it
was like a week after we've been dating
and it was gay pride like Brighton okay
pride and and she was on the floats
because for her TV company that she was
working with the time and presenting and
so on and I said I will meet me
afterwards on Sunday mystery where there
was a big street party and then you came
and met me
and we went to the dinner anybody made
on the beach yeah that was not that
happy memory haha no
I remember was we'd had a really nice
evening by the time I kind of saved up a
bit to be functioning and and then we
were like walking through the crowd so
everyone was like dancing everyone was
like yeah nobody knows a big like what's
it called well the first really eating
candy floss and couples and little fairy
lights just really nice and then Jessica
was in front of me holding my hand and
like leading me through the crowd and
then um and then you just like stopped
and turned around and like smiles at me
and then like but I was at Nina I know
so I just have got a really clear memory
of that I thinking like I was just
really I felt really happy and complete
and at how amazing it was it felt like a
hole of pride were celebrating us I just
remember on that way home and to this
gay couple stopped us and said that we
were in a miracle yeah and this was the
second time we'd ever met we all think
they were like yeah we were walking back
up the hill to yours oh man we were like
kissing and then these two guys have
hearts and they were like you make a
beautiful couple when we were like yeah
anyway maybe not sorry we will be here
all day I could just lift some
relationship last question we've got to
go out tonight okay
well one of the ones I have here
if you obviously you knew you were meant
for each other really quickly how did
your family and friends reacted to them
how did our family friends react to us
getting together so quickly oh yeah I've
got some fun I've got funny reactions oh
yeah it was much better than mine so my
mind it really great ideas minor basic a
my grandparents got married three weeks
to the day they met so no one in my
comedy cat they were like got married
got engaged for months in dragging your
heels mm-hmm willingly we we knew your
family be more accepting so we because
in Rome because I proposed the room so
we FaceTime into her brother's
girlfriends and we were like yes well
we're engaged and they were like what
amazing yeah when they quite instant
yeah and then I think we FaceTime your
parents and they were also like oh it's
wonderful doll my parents until Ariana
waiting
congratulations like so they were like
maybe it's almost like they were based
expecting it your brother and I heard my
mom and she was like yeah so then I was
like well I think my family so firstly
my sister had been going out with her
boyfriend for 10 years and she had been
waiting for the last two years for him
to basically propose and we were like
you know constantly waiting we're like
okay well he's gonna do it soon so they
felt a bit bad because she's older than
me and I and I know she really wanted to
get engaged first I guess you know what
she just didn't think I was gonna get
engaged oddly she just met her so when I
rang her she just finished a night shift
didn't she and she was in bed with her
iPad at you and I was like we've got
some really great news and she was like
uh-huh right we're getting married and
she was like well yeah okay all right
wow that's so amazing I'm so happy for
you guys but you could kind of tell that
she was a bit like damn it you know yeah
and I was like oh no I think I'm kind of
upset her a bit so that was that
eventually she was soon out of having
two sisters yeah I mean they got married
before us ironically because like I
think us getting engaged and his younger
brother getting engaged kind of you know
women the right first him in the right
direction
so anyway that was all fine and then my
dad was quite funny wasn't it yeah so he
then Skyped my dad and I didn't do it
till we got home because I'm not doing
it from Rome because I just I was
worried voice reaction would be to be
honest and um he was holding his iPad no
there's a red light
it's weird great outfit angel of him I'm
like yeah so I just gonna have something
like really big to tell you you're gonna
be happy for us and he was like yes and
then we're like
and we're in gate we got engaged and
then he was just like and I just looked
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and he was like sorry darling the line
just kind of cut out there oh yes you
can get married now going to its legal
is the unit gay marriage became legal in
the UK yeah and I was like yes it is and
he's like oh very good you have to have
only civil sorry baby things
like no and he's like very good yes okay
then and that was fine family laughs
yeah
and everyone loves called yeah so
everyone was happy everyone in my life
is like she's amazing
we love her I mean Jessica you can leave
sometimes but Claudia can say all the
time she's great yes don't you ever
mention yeah how could they not oh and
then I told my Asian family kind of I
think they kind of just her a big grape
vine and then we went out there and they
were in accepting about an engagement
party so it's all fine I was obviously
worried about telling them as well I
think I was very shocked for them and
then for quite a long time my dad
wouldn't tell our family friends and
relatives it was just a bit like house
cookie thing and yeah but he was like
he's right he's fine living now what
wouldn't ya know he is you said
yesterday you love my dad I think that
their dad I didn't know her dad I just
there's such a long pause every time we
[ __ ] he says my name yeah we got any
event he's like hey this is a this is
Julia and her husband Sam and this is
their order and and then Jessica I like
who is my wife and then they're like
alright and I just made it really
awkward if you just said and this is
Jessica Hawaii people just break open a
yeah yeah sometimes I feel like they
might think I'm his wife why because
he's like this is my daughter my
daughter's husband this is my other
daughter this is a lady like no this
lady I
we're officially wrapping this up yeah
we're very glad yeah yeah yeah let me
read you something that I just found
that okay what did you find
that was the nape of money and I know
it's possible to donate money my money
basically it was a and her man was keep
doing what you're doing you guys
inspired me day today and managed to
bring the smile to my face
and inspiring all that yeah oh that is
so lame I hate that we do sweetheart
thank you very much
she's amazing she lies My Chemical
Romance we've been talking about it
discussing my Chemical Romance
you are such an emo it was yesterday car
turns out with like a My Chemical
Romance t-shirt on and Jessica and I
when I slow dancing to some acoustic
version oh my chem some song if I
remember it was now I'm Sharon there was
no Sharon and and I had just met her
I've been on a pancakes and Connor was
like oh really out of place right now
guys you just go and buy you myself like
I saw you my hair darling Derrick
Williams also donated money wanted to
reward I need an animated series yes I
think such a good animated character yes
my habit have so much body
it already does know but more more Boise
well it might have miss me princess is
such good body my head Jessica's my
hair's messy though that's fine cuz I'm
a modern girl
Oh Clara and Karen and Cody rachel is
way out of context I do I like my hair
to follow a really neat pattern of curls
that's all yeah that's fine anyway thank
you very much for donating money that's
the sweet thing ever I have also just
discovered we're friends with Norwegian
into VidCon
they don't give you drinks Illinois no
buy them
lose that we're not paying for up light
so we can't really complain now I just
think you're in the air and a tin can
you have no choice they should just I
just always take a big bottle of Evian
or some kind of water with me anyway
because it's like you really need to
stay hydrated I love it oh you do even
if they give you free drinks like let me
say with BA like they give you as much
water as you like but it's like tiny
cups and you're like yeah yeah and I
finish the back Diet Coke
because why not also I need Diet Coke to
keep going through those you just get to
the point I make that is like you there
so everyone here has donated money to
the coffee link which is in the
description down below
okay um that non-compressible hmm I
think back to the thank yous though
thank you yeah that's good money will be
used to buy drinks on the plane and in
LA because I don't cook for life tragic
but true where are you my pots friends
say hi um okay
is that sorry I'm sue black baby right
they will know if you know panic under
these car yes we know you're panic oh
yeah in band yeah this song you asked me
about the other day I write
oh my god I was I was I'm like why is
that what's that main famous woman's
like dress something dress a dress
taking her dress off
you think you've earned five no sing a
song I have no song right from years ago
their main like their main single so I
write sins not tragedies the one that
doesn't have a so anyway and he's like
please shut the goddamn door yeah yeah
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self-power do you know who All American
Rejects are yes I've seen them live I
think if anything there was a gala
remember I know who Jimmy wells are I
know who whatever like free money most
are as you did you actually haven't in
my face yeah I know photo just have any
my face like everyone was a bit Amy it
was white and when everyone liked my
chemical romance and what's up a band
called I'm not even kidding when I say
this but when everyone else was having
my emo phase I was wearing pink twin
sets and cold I was a bit more into em
like Red Hot Chili Peppers they and
things allowed oh yeah ago they fancied
like them but that's basically my trap
my entire childhood oh yeah I go I
fancied like da da
now it's only you I'm delighted ishke
she's number two we should probably say
goodbye to these people can go home yes
they are home we need to go out oh yeah
we should think about so we can meet we
love you thank you so much for tuning in
I think that's like three more I hate
the audio is okay sorry about the little
mishap to start with yes I know we're
gonna let's take the bread come to LA
yeah and believe that let's live stream
in LA we can live stream I don't really
ever expected
we may be onto live stream from my cell
because that's all like top secret but
well we're allowed to live stream from
the collab yeah room okay there's like a
special room where we can go and wash
them or if they've got Wi-Fi out and a
bow or just like yeah yeah and from the
actual convention itself because I know
that there are loads of people who find
events like that impossible to go to not
only for monetary reasons but also for
accessibility because they don't have
the energy
well nevermind friends take you with me
probably through Instagram I think yeah
you could give the tour of it come yeah
yes I'm really excited it was a kind of
scared I'm giving a talk to 500 people
I'm gonna be really great thank you baby
I love how you always believed in me
yeah I'll be sitting there sobbing like
that's my girl Oh anyway we're gonna
gonna yeah bye bye we gonna go make out
okay