Dating can be swingy business.
It can leave you feeling on top of the world one minute and down in the dumps the next.
Something I have to deal with a lot with my clients is burnout.
Emotional burnout from dating too much dating or getting a restring of bad results in dating.
So today, I'm giving you a four step process to handle emotional burnout in dating.
Stay tuned.
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All right. Burnout, emotional burnout, dating burnout, how to handle burnout in dating.
That's the topic we're talking about today.
I'm giving you five steps that I use with clients, so that they can handle emotional
burnout.
Now, my clients, before I get into that, my clients get a premium service called Voxer.
And I wanted to tell you a little story.
Voxer is a voicemail service.
So you know me, I hate text messaging and I want to connect with my clients on a much
more personal level.
So we leave each other voicemails in between our Skype sessions.
And I've got a Voxer from a client of mine recently and it basically said, Hey Mark,
I'm feeling on top of the world.
I was having a bad week of my dating, but things are going so well because I met a guy
on Friday night and it just went fantastically.
I'm so happy. And I was pretty concerned because I knew at that stage, even though my client
was riding a high right now, that she was still riding her results and at some point
was going to come crashing back down.
She was feeling good to take more action because she was feeling good right there.
But the problem is she was relying on that good feeling to take action rather than just
taking that action in her dating life consistently.
But one of the problems when you take action consistently is inevitably you have a bad
run for a while and you have a guy that plays you or you have a date or a series of dates
that doesn't go so well, and lo and behold, two to three days later, I got a message from
the same client saying, look, that guy didn't call back from Friday night.
I'm burnt out.
I'm not sure I can do this for a while.
I feel like I need to take a break and I knew it was going to happen because she was riding
her results.
You see in any area of life, you have to be able to not just take action.
Yes, taking action is important, but anyone can get a boost of motivation, feel great
and take lots of action for a little while.
The key is in consistent action-taking or if you stop taking action to be able to bounce
back and have that resilience really quickly so you can take action again.
And this is the gift that my clients get from the 12 week program.
So what I used is the strategy that I'm going to tell you now to handle emotional burnout,
dating burnout in five steps.
So the first thing that I get my clients to do is to check in their mood that day, that
minute and ask themselves five very important questions.
The first one is how much sleep have I had?
The second one is how has my diet been?
The third one is how hydrated am I, how much have I been drinking?
The fourth one is how burnt out am I from other areas of life, whether it's work, socializing,
whatever, and the fifth is how is my general mood and demeanor with everything.
Take a step back when you're feeling burnt out and look at the immediate, because a lot
of times when you're feeling burnt out, you're overwhelmed in the minute you're overwhelmed
on that day and the next day you're actually going to feel a lot better.
You haven't eaten properly.
You haven't slept, you haven't drank some.
You've overexerted yourself in another area of life, and these are the first things that
I have my client look at anytime they tell me they're burnt out.
Number two, correct those deficits over 48 hours, so when a client's feeling burnt out,
I'll have her take 24 to 72 hours to just correct all the things that I just talked
about.
Make sure she's well slept.
Make sure she's drinking well, water not alcohol, make sure she's eating, make sure that she's,
if there's another area of life that she's struggling in, that she handles that and just
gets on top of the burnout in that area and has an overall number five good demeanor again.
She has to correct these deficits over that short period of time and it's amazing what
48 hours of good drinking, good sleep and good eating will do for you.
Number three, reinvigorate your feminine energy.
So once you're on a good plane, once you're taking care of yourself, looking after your
body, then it's time to do things that make you feel happy and make you feel like a woman.
So the second part of that week, perhaps another 72 hours, I'll have my client do things for
her around self care, around spending time with friends, reinvigorating her feminine
energy.
We recently did a video on that that went really, really well.
So make sure you watch that video for step number three, make yourself feel good as a
woman again.
And I'll give my clients again 24 to 72 hours to do that.
Number four, restore the foundation.
So the foundation is a concept that I talk about a lot with new clients on this channel,
which is your life support system.
It's your friends, it's your career, it's your health and fitness.
It's everything else that you're doing in your life that means the swings of dating
rather than picking you up and throwing you down are just more like little ebbs because
you have so many other good things happening.
You've got so much other positivity going on in your life that the results of your dating
don't swing you around too much.
I have my clients take four to six days to work on their foundation, whatever it is,
whether it's getting, taking an extra work, goal, taking up a new hobby or restoring a
previous one that they haven't made the time for or, and this is one of my favorite things
to do, is to tackle that one thing, that one thing in your life that you're tolerating
or have been tolerating for way too long and stop tolerating it.
Take one really positive action step over those four to six days on something you're
tolerating and you're going to feel great, and step number five is get back out there
into dating.
So you've now looked after your immediate health.
You've restored your feminine energy and you've rebuilt your foundation.
The biggest gift I can give to my clients is resilience and resilience means being able
to get back up again.
It means not just taking action, but it means being able to get back up when you get knocked
down to take action again.
Let's face it, anyone can go to the gym.
Anyone can get motivated, sharp for two weeks, and lots of us do that.
But the real test of whether you get the body you want, the real test of whether you meet
your health goals is the resilience to keep showing up when nothing's changed after eight
weeks.
It's that resilience to keep taking action.
And the same applies to dating.
This particular client, when she used to have a bad run in dating, she told me she'd be
out for two to three months.
Men would frustrate her, she'd be, she'd be feeling played.
And then two to three months, no dating, I'm sick of it.
Now, she's bouncing back in a week and a half, two weeks at a max.
The faster you can bounce back, keep taking action in your dating life, getting out there
to meet men, meet people, the sooner you're going to find love and get the man you want
in your life.
So that's the five step process I use when you get back out into dating, it's also important
you have the right mindset.
So make sure you check out the video on seven mindsets to get back into dating.
I'll pop the link up here.
Overall, that's the process.
You want to look after yourself in the immediate, you want to restore your feminine energy and
you want to restore that foundation and be back at dating quicker than you think.
That's the video.
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Burnout's really important to handle.
Resilience is the biggest gift I think I can give my clients.
And it's the biggest thing, not just in dating, but in any area of life that you can possibly
build for yourself.
You can keep taking action and you can keep taking positive action.
Most importantly, you are going to meet the one who's right for you.
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