and you definitely don't want that to happen... right?!! I mean that's crazy!!!
hi everyone and welcome back to my channel if you're new at my name is Mary
Kay and I'm a mindset coach manifesting expert and founder of MKmagicmindset
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today's video is all about what you should not do when trying to manifest a
specific person or your ex I find that the two most popular things that people
are trying to manifest when using the law of attraction are relationships and
money the reason why things like money and relationships are so popular is
because we have such a strong emotional attachment to them having or not having
money affects the way we feel it affects the way we operate it affects the way we
live having a certain relationship or not having a certain relationship or
happy just being broken up with or breaking up with someone that all
affects us on such a strong emotional level so because these are such
emotionally charged topics there tends to be a little bit more resistance I
want to start off this video with a technique to get you into the energy of
consciously creating what you want so be sure to pause this video really quick
and grab a paper and pen and we can get started now that you have your pen and
paper let's jump into it first I want you to just close your eyes quiet your
mind and just kind of allow your mind and thoughts to simply slow down now I
want you to focus on the essence of the relationship that you wish to attract
into your life how does it make you feel what does it look like what do you do on
Friday nights what feels fulfilling about this relationship does this person
support your dreams does this person build you up what is the essence of this
specific person that makes you want them in your life what do they provide for
you what feelings do they provide for you just sit in that for a moment and
when you're ready open your eyes now I want you to write down what that person
provides for you what feelings came up when you thought about that specific
person or that that you're thinking about what came up
for you what do they provide for you what feelings in essence and how do they
enrich your life and make it better what do they provide for you take a minute
and write it down take as long as you need just pause this video
so what you have on paper right in front of you is exactly what you intend to
create when we manifest things what you really want to focus on is the essence
of what that would bring to you what feeling would it bring to you if you
manifested that specific than you want it is never about the thing it's always
about the feeling that thing would provide for you when you're joining a
man of us money you're not just trying to manifest pieces of paper that's
constantly being printed by your bank so it's not we are trying to manifest you
are trying to manifest the freedom to spend as you want to provide for your
kids to provide for yourself to buy food by hotels by vacations you're you're
trying to create a feeling with the money so when you're focused on a
relationship you want to focus on the essence of what that relationship would
provide to you what you think that person will provide to you and now you
have that on paper and you felt it so now you're on the path to becoming an
energetic match to bring that relationship into your life there is
such a thing as timing I'm not gonna go too deep into that today if that's
something you want me to do another video on leave me a comment below and
let me know but today I just want to focus on manifesting a specific person
or your acts so we're just gonna stay with that now what I'm about to tell you
might actually be a little bit unpopular because I'm sure you came here for a
reason to manifest that specific person or your ex and I know you're there's
probably a million law of attraction videos you could look up right now with
people telling you exactly step by step how you can manifest your acts or how
you can manifest that specific person but what I'm about to tell you goes
against that so listen closely don't try to manifest that specific
person or your acts don't ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever do it so why am
I saying that because there is a huge concept that you need to understand and
this will change your life and make it so much better so you're just gonna have
to go with me on this one here is the concept you need to understand you don't
know what you don't know what do I mean by that obviously you don't know what
you don't know I sounds like kind of like an oxymoron but that's not where
we're going with it you don't know what you don't know so
what I mean by that is you don't know if that specific person is right for you
you don't know if that specific person is meant for your highest potential you
don't know if that specific person is going to enrich your life and help you
follow your dreams and be there as you build up your life the way you want it
you don't know if that person is meant to be a part of your life and you don't
know if you are meant to be part of their specific journey so first off
let's talk about how everybody has their own journey I get asked all the time if
you can manifest things for somebody else but I don't like to think of it
that way because every single person is on their own journey so you can't
manifest something for someone else unless they want it to you can't try and
take control of somebody else's journey focus on your journey focus on the
essence of what you want in a relationship and stop focusing on that
specific person or your ex because they're on their own journey and maybe
your journeys line up but maybe they don't you don't know what you don't know
you don't know if there's someone way better out there for you and I know
that's kind of a hard thing to wrap your head around when you're so emotionally
attached to that specific person or to that X I get it because I'm a very
stubborn person one of my favorite mantras is I can have whatever I want
and I do truly believe that you can have whatever you want but when it comes to
other people and affecting other people and other people's journeys I think it's
best to focus on the essence of what you want and if it's if that person's meant
to be in your life the universal make it happen the universe is always working
behind the scenes doing things that we can't necessarily see and we don't know
what's going on but there has to be some level of trust and focusing on the
energy that you wish to attract into your life and letting the universe do
its thing the right person will come at the right time into your life and it
might be even better than what you thought you wanted I tell everybody I
tell all of my clients I've said it in other videos always ask for this or
better so if you are so emotionally attached and so emotionally charged to
this ethic person then find why don't you ask
for that person or better because what you're doing is you're focusing on the
essence of what you want what that perverse the person provides for you
whatever you wrote down in that exercise is what you want to call into your life
so instead of trying to control it which in fact the locks things are coming to
you instead of trying to make that happen or make that person once you or
get that relationship back because you thought it was right for you let go of
the reins and surrender surrendering is such a huge part of the law of
attraction without surrendering you can't be open to receiving if you're
holding on so tight and grasping on to something how do you expect to let
anything come into your life you have to let the energy flow and you have to be
free and you have to be open to receiving what's meant to be in your
life but as long as you're putting out the energetic frequency of the feeling
and the essence of what that thing would provide to you you will always attract
what you want or better so my point of this video is to let go let go right now
stop obsessing stop thinking about stop trying to force that specific person or
that X into your life because that might have an opposite effect that might lead
you down a path you weren't meant to go that might alter the course of both of
your lives and you might not end up happy and what we want out of life is to
reach our highest potential and accomplished all of our goals and dreams
so you want someone who is going to build you up and be on that path with
you to create the lives you want on our journey people come in and out of our
lives and I believe that each relationship each person that you meet
every day everybody plays a role in your life everybody came into your life for a
reason for a purpose there was a lesson so even if you've had negative
relationships in the past or even if you haven't had much luck in dating and even
if you haven't had the best examples of what a partner could be it doesn't mean
that it's not going to happen for you it just means that you need to tap into the
essence of what you want and release control and allow it to come to you
I said there is the aspect of timing that goes into a whole nother realm but
for now you just need to surrender and focus on the essence of what you want
and stop focusing on that specific person or that X I mean you wouldn't
want this person to come into your life if they weren't meant to be there I mean
that's crazy right you wouldn't want that to happen so focus on the feelings
that you want and live in the fact that it's on its way to you and just be
present moment to moment and just be happy in the moment now and the more
gratitude you can express the more things to be grateful for will come into
your life so you don't know what you don't know let go of that person don't
try and manifest your X or specific person don't do it because you're
limiting yourself you always want what you want or better and there might be
some one way way way way better and you never know so let it happen and just
relax a little and release that grip because the more you grip on to it the
harder it's gonna be to be open to receiving it and I get it like I said I
know it's hard when you're really emotionally charged about something if
it's a fresh breakup if you just went through something and you aren't
together anymore or if you really have just been looking for a relation for a
relationship for a long time I understand the frustration and the
emotional attachment to it and the feeling is surrounding it but the more
you can clear out those feelings and identify what those feelings are that
you have about relationships anything that's blocking it from coming to you
try and switch those and get into a place of ease and flow and allow
relationships to be easy and be optimistic about what can happen and
everything could change in a minute so it's time to surrender right now choose
to surrender and remind yourself I attract this or better if you agree with
me leave me a comment below I attract this or better because it's true when
you open yourself up for better the universe can exceed your wildest dreams
trust me I am proof of it it's happened to me a million times so you just have
to let go and trust a little bit I really hope you enjoy this video if you
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