Hello my wonderful friend! In today's video we're going to be discussing how
to flirt with women why mind games don't work. If you've ever
found yourself wondering why women play mind games or why women play hard-to-get,
then you may have felt like maybe you have to play mind games to attract a
woman. However, the secret to flirting with women and finding your dream
relationship is actually to avoid them. The truth is, mind games don't work and
today I'm going to explain why. Before we get to that though if this is your first
time watching be sure to subscribe and bring that notification bell. My name is
Melannie, I am a dating and relationship coach for Christian men. I help you find
and attract the girl of your dreams and I'm known for my no mind games,
no tricks approach to dating and relationships. I only share with you
actual tools that actually work. Now I know I just said that playing mind games
doesn't work, but in reality it can work if you are looking for a quick fix
to a relationship that is unfulfilling, unhealthy, full of drama, and unsatisfying.
If that's the kind of relationship you are looking for, then yes, they can work,
but I'm pretty sure my channel is not for you. If instead you are looking for a
long-term relationship, the kind of relationship where you marry your very
best friend and you laugh together and you're still in love in your 90s and a
really happy and healthy relationship, if that's the kind of relationship you're
looking for then mind games will not work. And here are a few of the reasons
why. Playing mind games is actually a sign of a toxic girlfriend. A toxic
girlfriend is one of the very last things you want in your life.
Any kind of toxic relationship is very damaging, it's very hurtful and it does
not lead to happiness and it certainly will not leave you and love in
90s. Here's the reality of a woman who's willing to play games with you, if she is
willing to play games with you, she's willing to play games with you. This
means she is willing to make you uncomfortable or to make you feel upset
or feel pain or feel jealousy in order to get what she wants.
That doesn't sound particularly healthy to me. Honestly it's a sign of immaturity,
it's a sign of a woman who is completely addicted to drama and has to have her
drama fix and ultimately the sign of a toxic woman or toxic girlfriend. If you
want to learn more about some of the signs of a toxic girlfriend, be sure to
check out this video or be sure to check out this video as well. I've put links to
both of them in the description below. A second reason playing games does not
work to give you your dream relationship, and is really not what most people want,
is that it's exhausting. Who wants to have to go back to their cheat sheet
every time they need to know what to say to their girlfriend? Who wants to count
down the minutes or the hours before they can text them back? Who wants to do
that? It's absolutely exhausting. And in a real
relationship, you need to be able to lean on each other and rely on each other, and
if instead you have to think of something clever to say, how exhausting
is that really? I read a comment on somebody else's blog a little while ago,
and this person was encouraging using lots of games and playing with girls, and
this guy commented saying that his girlfriend, he started playing these
games with her and she started to really become interested in him again and it
started be fun again. But then he got tired so he stopped playing some of the
games and so she lost interest again. Again, sign of a toxic woman. But how
exhausting is that, to always have to play games to hold her attention? The
person you're in a relationship with, you should be able to rely on, they should
not exhaust you. If you're looking for the road
to complete and total burnout, then yes, playing games work. If you're not
looking for that, then they don't. Now the third reason why playing games doesn't
work is that it doesn't lead to a happy relationship or a
fulfilling relationship. There is no real connection, you never know when the tide
is going to turn and when you're gonna have to play another trick or another
game. You cannot be your real authentic self, and frankly she's not being her
real authentic self. It keeps the relationship very
artificial and you have to keep guessing and she has to keep guessing. A real
relationship, the happiest healthiest relationships, are two people who are
incredibly authentic with each other, and they know all there is to know about
each other, the good the bad and the ugly, and they love each other for that and
they help build each other up and support each other. You're not going to
have that in a relationship where you always have to play a game.
At our core as humans, what we're ultimately aching for and what we want in a
romantic relationship, is someone who knows everything about us and still
loves us. We want to be completely and totally accepted. And a relationship
where you can't even be a real self is not going to lead you to that acceptance
and that joy and that fulfillment and happiness. I hope you're starting to see
some of the benefits of not playing mind games. If you are, type of big "Amen!" in the
comments below. Now we're to number four which is a
relationship that is built on mind games will only last as long as the mind games do.
An interesting fact many people are unaware of, is that drama is actually
incredibly addicting. As a matter of fact, research shows it's as addicting as some
of the most addicting drugs. This is one of the reasons why a lot of women like
to play games, is because they are addicted to drama. Which means, as soon as
the games end, they're done. Or if something else comes along that feeds
that drama better, then they'll leave and they'll go
with them. So if you're looking for the kind of girl who will cheat, then
look for a girl who plays games. If instead you want that long-term happy
relationship, don't play games. Because the truth is,
that is going to scare a good healthy girl away so fast. She doesn't have time
for that, she expects more respect than that, she also wants to treat you with
more respect than that, and so if she sees games, she's gone. So again, a
relationship that is built on playing games will end as soon as the games end.
They will only continue as long as the games are there. And again, that's
exhausting, that's unfulfilling, who wants it? It ultimately takes a lot more work
and it's much more exhausting unfulfilling work to maintain an
unhealthy relationship than it is to create a happy beautiful relationship.
And we are to number five, which is, you deserve so much more than that. If you
are not interested in playing mind games, if you don't want a relationship based
on mind games and want to have to play with a girl to have her be
interested in you, then you deserve a lot more. There are way too many guys who
fall for girls who like to play games, who are those toxic girlfriends. The last
thing I want for you is to get mixed up with one of those, because then those
healthy good girls who are looking to treat you the way you deserve
will never be able to have you. So at the end of the day, if you don't want to play
games, you certainly don't deserve to be in a relationship where you feel like
you have to. If you want more help with some flirting tips that actually work, be
sure to check out this video which is How to Flirt with Women and Attract Them,
and this video which is How to Flirt with Women Over Text, and this video
which is How to Flirt with Women Without Being Creepy. The truth is, when you know
how to flirt the right way, you don't have to worry about playing mind games.
And if she's playing mind games, you don't want her. Now that you know that
playing mind games does not help you get your dream girl, how would you like to
know what does? I've put together some free training on
how to get the girl. All you have to do is check out the link in the description
below, it will ask you for your name and your email, as soon as you enter that
information I will send it your way. And you'll get a special bonus, 17 Traits
Christian Women want Most in a Man. Again, these are actual tools that actually
work, no mind games. So be sure to check out that link below. Thank you so much
again for watching my amazing friend! If you liked what you saw be sure to give
it a big thumbs up, subscribe and ring that notification bell. If you have a
friend who hates playing games and feels like maybe he needs to, be sure to share
this with him as well. Have you ever felt like you had to play mind games in order
to get the girl? I'd love to hear from you in the comments below. Also be sure
to leave any recommendations or suggestions for videos you would like me
to do in the future. If we're not yet friends on social media check out the
links for that down below as well. Thank you so much again and have an
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