man is a social animal anybody who
accomplishes anything in life is with
the help of others you are born from a
relationship you have to maintain
relationships and these relationships
are required yet they remain an enigma
throughout life all the tension that
people have is because of relationships
today we are going to figure out the
cause of these tensions and how to
negotiate our relationships in a divine
and equipoise attitude consider this
scenario in the mall is a mother with
her three-year-old daughter the daughter
walking by the side of the mother seems
like an angel on earth she's got a smile
on her face she looks around smiling
however when they reach the checkout
counter the situation changes the
daughter points to chocolate in the
trees there and says mommy I want this
if the mother concedes her demand all
will continue well just in case the
mother refuses now the transformation
will take place that little angel will
transform herself into little demons she
starts screaming at her money she starts
hitting her feet on the ground tugging
her
dress and shouting so loudly making her
mother's life so miserable that the
mother wonders why did I ever have a
child now how did this transformation
take place from a little angel to a
little demon the problem was the girl
had expectations from her mother the
moment those expectations were not met
the relationship developed a strain what
strained the child's relationship with
her mother her expectations not being
met simple the problem again is that we
people have not grown up from that
three-year-old stage when it comes to
this one point in all relationships we
have expectations this is what he should
do for me this is what she should not do
for me as long as the expectations are
met everything is fine my wife is very
good my husband is very good the moment
the expectation is not met that is where
the whole problem arises now the
expectations cannot always be met
because it is theoretically an
impossible equation supposing there is
this man his boss expects that he should
continue sitting in office till eight
o'clock to show that he's sincere and
dedicated to the corporation but the
wife has
set of expectations that my husband
should return by 6:00 p.m. in the
evening to show that he loves me now
this person is in a difficult situation
to fulfill the expectations of the boss
or to fulfill the expectations of the
wife all the stream that is getting
caused is by our own expectations any
relationship cannot survive through
expectations relationships survive
through sacrifice through understanding
through tolerance through patience and
these virtues go against our sole nature
in the Maya Dean state of being selfish