In this video, we're going to talk about how to tell if your ex is thinking about you.
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you can tell if your ex is thinking about you. So one of the ways that you can tell
if your ex is thinking about you is if they're reminiscing about periods of time in the past,
that maybe they were together with you, that overlapped with the time that you were together.
So they're not directly saying like, "Oh yeah, it was so great when I was with so and so."
I mean, obviously, that is a sign that they are thinking about you. But if they're talking
about like, "Oh yeah, I remember that one summer when we took a road trip down to LA."
Or something like that, and they were taking that road trip with you, that's really a sign
that they're thinking about you. Okay. So they're reminiscing about a period of their
life in which they overlapped that period of time with the two of you being together
or somehow significantly related to something that the two of you shared some sort of memory,
some sort of significant thing, like maybe when the two of you met each other or something
like that. Right? And they can be doing this either directly
with you or even just on social media or something like that. They're going back through old
photos or something and they're posting something, and they're like, "Oh yeah, I remember this
thing happened three years ago today." Or something like that. Just that's one way you
can know that they're thinking about you. Another thing is, if they bring up the past
in really a positive or even negative way with you. So the two of you are talking, and
just as a non-sequitur, they're just interjecting memories of the past, or memories of the time
that the two of you shared together. And it's not really coming from you prodding them with
your elbow or anything like that. It's just sort of like, "You know, I always liked that
about you." Or, "That's one reason why the two of us never worked. You always do this."
Or something like that. This is just a way that you can tell if you're on their mind,
and if they are thinking about you, and if you just are popping up into their awareness
when you don't need to be, basically. The third way that you can tell if your ex
is thinking about you, is if they start talking about a future, and they make it clear that
they either want to have you in it or that they maybe don't want to have you in it. Obviously,
if they are talking about a future, like, "Oh yeah. When this whole situation blows
over, I think that it'd be great if we went and visited the coast and did these nice things
together, or we went and tried something fun together, went to a winery or something."
Obviously, that is a sign that they're thinking about you.
But even if they're taking the opposite side of that conversation and they're like, "I
don't think that we should spend time together anymore." I mean, obviously, there's some
repair work that needs to be done in there, but it shows that they are thinking about
you. Okay? And so that is definitely something to keep in mind. That's definitely some indication
that you are on their mind and that they are thinking of you. So again, we're kind of painting
a picture beneath the surface and saying, okay, if they were thinking about you, what
are some things that they might be doing? And this is what we're talking about in this
video, things that they might be doing, if they were thinking about you, based off of
that underlying cause of, okay, you're on their mind, what are some things that they
might be compelled to do? Okay. Before we go on, though, I want to let
you know that we do have a video playlist on signs that your ex wants you back or signs
that they do not want you back. You may want to check that out, up there in the video card
there, if that's something that you're interested in. But that being said, let's go ahead and
continue on with our video here. Let's see. The fourth thing is that they keep
things around that are clearly linked to you. So again, maybe that's some sort of souvenir
or a gift or something like that. Maybe it's even songs. Maybe they listen to songs that
maybe you introduced them to that band or that artist, or maybe that song is somehow
linked to a certain time in your life together. Again, maybe it's one of those road trip songs
from that hypothetical road trip to LA that you took with your ex. But these are things
that they are emotionally attached to, and they're resurfacing those or keeping them
in their vicinity or experiential circle, to keep that emotional bond present with them.
And this is especially true for non-essential things. Like a little souvenir that the two
of you picked up is probably not any central thing, versus something that might be really
critical, like... I don't know what a critical thing would be. But something that's really
important, like, I don't know, maybe a blender or something like that. If that blender somehow
is associated with you, like maybe you bought it for them for some reason, that's one thing.
But if it's something that's non-practical, if it's just like, some nice photos from the
past, some songs that we used to listen to, some souvenir from a trip that we went on,
a gift that I got you that's just for your own personal enjoyment, it's not to help facilitate
the practical realities of your life, then that really shows that you are still on their
mind, that they're still keeping you in their circle of awareness, circle of thoughts.
Lastly, a way that you can tell if they are thinking about you, is if they do things that
were introduced to them by you. Again, this includes some of the things that we talked
about before, like, if you introduced them to a certain band or musical artist and they're
listening to that sort of music. Okay, sure, that shows that they're probably thinking
about you, especially if there's an intense memory associated with that, and it's not
just like, "Oh yeah, here's some songs I like." But it's like, "Oh yeah, this is the song
we listened to together when we first kissed." Or something like that. Obviously, that shows
that they are thinking about you when they're playing that song, most likely.
But also other things too, like if they were never really into graphic novels before they
met you, and then you introduced them to that world, and now they're into a certain graphic
novel, or something like that, then that just shows that they are thinking about you, and
that they're still associating that graphic novel thing with you, most likely, and that
they're experiencing being close to you through the act of indulging in that thing, whether
it's a graphic novel, whether it's a certain type of music, whether it's a certain video
game or genre of TV show that maybe they're watching on Netflix or something. These are
just little things that showcase that they might be thinking about you and that they're
keeping you in their thoughts. Okay. So once again, just to recap, at least
what we've talked about in this video, by no means an extensive list, but the reminiscing
about times in their life that may have overlapped with when they were together with you. Two,
they are bringing up either positive or negative experiences from the past with you, about
you, the relationship, your dynamic together, when they don't need to, they're just inserting
it into the conversation when it doesn't necessarily need to be there.
They also talk about a future with you in it, or without you in it, especially when
it's not brought up specifically, when they are going out and bringing it up themselves,
and you're not bringing it up specifically into the conversation.
We also have when they are keeping things around themselves that are clearly linked
to you, especially in non-practical ways. And then of course,, the last one that we're
going over is that they are doing things that were introduced to them by you, such as reading
the graphic novels, a certain genre of book, or music, or TV show or something like that,
or anything else that they may have been introduced to by you. You let them into your world, and
they kept a little piece of that world with them.
So anyway, those are some ways that you can tell if your ex is thinking about you. Once
again, if you want to take what we've talked about in this video and amp it up, you can
do that with the advanced relational skills that we talk about inside of our course called
The Ex Solution Program. You can learn more about that in the link below this video. You
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