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- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2go-ers, before we begin,
we would like to thank you all so much
for your love and support for our channel.
Psycho2go's mission is to make psychology and mental health
knowledge more accessible to everyone,
and we hope we've helped you along the way.
Now, let's begin.
As a child, I loved to be the center of attention.
I wasn't afraid to introduce myself or speak up,
but now there are days when I find it difficult
just to look someone in the eye.
It was frustrating to watch my peers build relationships
with ease while I struggled
just to make a connection at all.
For years, I blamed shyness and lack of self-esteem
for these changes.
But it wasn't until college
that I truly learned about social anxiety.
Just as with any mental illness,
social anxiety affects everyone differently.
For me, it even changes from moment to moment.
Sometimes my nervousness reveals itself in stuttering
or repetitive speech.
Other times I freeze.
I've learned a myriad of coping mechanisms,
some more helpful than others,
and techniques to understand the root of my anxiety,
but none have been more beneficial than therapy.
Finding communities such as Psych2go,
where I have a voice as well as the support system
to reach out and relate to, also help me
practicing using my voice with confidence.
Even when I feel so fragile that I could shatter.
It's okay if you don't feel ready to join a community
or speak up about your experiences,
but the team at Psych2go wants you to know
that we are here.
Here are seven things
people with social anxiety will understand.
Number one, being social can be draining.
While not everyone with social anxiety is an introvert,
many people can feel exhausted after a social event.
Worrying can be tiring and trying hard
to keep your anxiety under control
while interacting with others
can be enough for you to require time to recharge
for the rest of the day.
It's okay to push yourself to be social,
but be sure to know your limits and respect them.
Pushing yourself too far may end in more anxiety
and exhaustion than you began with.
And it's important to take care of yourself
and your needs first.
Two, you prefer texting over calling.
Do you relate to the dread that comes
when you receive a phone call?
For some, they fear that calling someone
will bother the other person.
For others, they may not know who is calling
or know what to say when they pick up the phone.
Calls can be sudden, disruptive, and unpredictable,
so you may worry about what the other person
is going to tell you.
Number three, you feel anxious without direct interaction.
Sometimes you might feel anxious without directly talking
or interacting with someone.
Just being aware that someone is watching you
can be difficult.
For some, that occurs when they're eating
or doing other simple tasks.
The fear can stem from judgment
for doing something wrong or differently,
but, more often than not, people don't pay attention
as closely as you think.
Number four, when it comes to friends,
quality is greater than quantity.
Not everyone's idea of fun includes hanging out
with a huge group of people or going to a party.
It can be intimidating to be around
a lot of people you don't know.
And you'd much rather prefer to spend time
with a few close friends.
The beauty of life is that no two experiences are the same.
So there's a friend out there for everyone.
Even if you may be socially anxious.
Five, it's not all in your head.
Social anxiety can manifest as physical sensations
for a lot of people.
These symptoms are similar to feeling embarrassed:
sweaty hands, blushing, hyperventilating,
but can feel more intense, and last longer.
In fact, facing social situations can potentially lead
to panic attacks for some people,
while others feel physically ill or faint.
These physical symptoms may be scary,
but they rarely are threatening to one's immediate health.
Number six, you feel like everyone is judging you.
When you're socially anxious,
it can feel like you're under a magnifying glass
all the time.
You feel overly conscious about yourself,
and project those worries onto other people
about their perceptions of you,
but just because you're monitoring every detail
about yourself, doesn't mean everyone else is too.
In reality, people aren't as focused on you as you think,
and they likely have their own worries too.
And number seven, you are your harshest judge.
When you're socially anxious,
you might find yourself comparing how you think,
act, or look to others.
This self-criticism can seriously hurt your mental
and emotional health, and it's important
to treat yourself more kindly.
While it might feel like others make connections
more easily or have it so well,
it's important to remember that everyone
is going through their own things,
and they have worries and concerns just like you do.
When it comes to social anxiety,
it can be hard to interact with people
or make friends when you're overly worried.
The truth is though, there is no normal
when it comes to being social.
Everyone has their own way of socializing with others.
And you'll find someone who you connect with
on the same level.
In fact, there's nothing wrong with leaving early
or spending another night at home with your dog.
We hope you enjoyed this and found some comfort.
What have your experiences been with social anxiety?
Leave a comment down below to share your thoughts.
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