- [Curly] Bigger muscles, bigger balls, bigger dick.
- That's how I imagine dudes talking, as well.
- That's what the inside of Curly's head sounds like.
- I know.
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- Hello, everybody!
Welcome to in the closet.
I'm Jen, that's Niki.
We bring people into this closet,
and they leave probably with some thigh sweat
because it's tight in here
and our thighs are going to be touching.
Today we're talking about body image
and to do that, I've invited my good friend, Curly,
to come into the closet, right about now.
Hi, Curly.
Come here.
- Just crawl? Okay.
- Get in here through the side door.
- [Niki] Yeah. Get in!
- Get in here.
We're going to have to get tight, so our thighs will touch.
Hey baby!
- Hello!
- Hi.
- Thank you, for having me in your closet.
- Thank you, for coming.
- This is so nice.
My name is Curly, my pronouns are "he, him."
- He and him? Okay, cool. Yeah.
- Deity?
- Nice.
So, today we're going to talk about body image,
which is a very big topic,
so we're going to tackle it as best we can, yeah.
- I think it's something that everybody can relate to,
no matter where you come from, no matter,
like what you identify as,
your body's kind of like the way
that you are represented in the world, right?
It's the way that people see you when they meet you
like they judge you.
They make ...
You're not blinking.
(laughs)
- How do you think your sexuality has shaped
the way you view your body?
- Being a gay man we kind of have to fit
certain stereotypes,
like whether we're super skinny or we have a lot of muscles,
or even if you're chubby and a like a bear or hairy,
and if we don't we're kind of like, "Shit, where do I go?"
Am I allowed to say poop? Shit?
- Yeah! Say whatever, yeah.
- Shit!
- When you were younger or even now,
how do they influence the way you see yourself?
- I think that in the gay community,
as far as like, men go, you get kind of lost as you think,
"Okay, if I'm a gay man, I know other gay men like biceps,"
right?
So, you want to get bigger arms.
And then you're like, "Okay, they also like asses,"
you're like, "I need to get a bigger ass."
You want to feel loved and accepted,
so you kind of fall into that kind of a category, you know?
- If you're young, and like queer,
or if your questioning your sexuality or your gender,
you're going to look at the communities around you
and be like,
"Okay, well if these are the people"
"that are going to accept me, like I have to fit in,"
because you already know
that you're not going to fit in to like ...
So, it creates this like extra pressure.
- Yeah, you have to fit in with the misfits.
- Yeah!
So, do you feel like when you're dating someone
you might compare your body to theirs?
- Yeah, I feel like it's different
than a heterosexual relationship,
because if you're a skinny dude dating a chubby girl,
you're like, "She's a thick woman, she's beautiful,"
"she's going to have meat in different places,"
"she has a different body."
Vice versa, too.
But, when you have the same body, it's kind of is like,
"I don't have fat in that area, I don't know why you do."
- It's hard not to be like,
"Oh, should I measure up?
Are we equal?" In that sense?
- Yeah, even my dick size, you know, you're like,
"I don't have that."
Cause, I get a lot of questions
about like how do you stay so confident, for me.
I think that to find your confidence
as far as what body you're working with
you kind of have to work with what you've got, right?
So, I know I've got bomb-ass legs,
so I wear like skinny jeans,
and I wear like my little shorts
because I know that I'm boom, banging.
But, that's why I like clothes so much,
because you get to cover up certain things
and you get to be confident
and it makes it seem like you've filled up all the spaces
of confidences with a really cool shirt
with embroidery on the sides.
- Curly and I, I'm going to Tweet,
hopefully people are fast on the Tweeters today.
- Oh, we're live Tweeting?
- [Niki] Yeah!
- Yeah, I just Tweeted ask us anything right now.
- Woo!
- Which, I hope they ask fun things.
"Can you yodel?"
- Yo-De-Lay-He-Hoo!
That was pretty good.
- [Niki] That was cute!
- That was great.
- Jen, you try.
- Ahhhh!
I also, like, cannot roll my 'r's so it's like,
whenever people ask me to do anything with my mouth,
I'm just well.
- Oh, can we see do this one?
That's the one that I was looking for.
- Oh, "Was the Gays Ask Bisexuals video scripted?
There was a lot of conflicting comments about it.
- So, that video we were asked to ask bisexuals questions,
and I have a relationship with Jordan and Kenny,
where I tease them all the time and they do the same.
We just, we're all friends, right?
I also was thinking,
"Wow, what are some of the dumbest questions"
"that they probably get all the time."
- Yeah.
- Then, I asked them.
It just liked backfired, because everybody was like,
"No! They weren't me asking them."
- Right.
- They were just like, "Okay,"
"How can we get these dumb questions out of the way?"
- I feel like part of the thing is there
isn't that much LGBT content in the media,
so part of it is like when stuff is made,
people get like,
"Oh, shit, I hope this comes out right,"
or it's like people get really hurt, understandably,
when it seems like we're fucking up.
- Oh my God, yeah.
That's why I was like,
"Oh, no!"
"Little babies, like, I'm here for you always."
- We are trying to make stuff,
that speaks to a community that isn't represented well.
Definitely like, call us out, talk to us if we fuck up,
we want to hear from you.
Everybody in this space, cares a lot,
- Yeah.
- about you and we want to do the best we can for you.
- Yeah.
- We're going to go out of the closet now,
but thank you for coming.
- Okay, we're ready for the world, Big World! Here we come!
- We're out!
- Gay, les-boon,
- It doesn't matter.
- and everyone else. Let's go.
- Let's glow.
Are we crawling out?
- Yeah, let's leave.
Side door!
Bye.
Get a shot of my lesbian boots too.
- [Niki] I see them.
Okay, bye.