- No.
(laughing)
I wasn't recording this whole time.
Oh, that's so stupid.
I imagine you're this guy
and you've been putting off writing
a thank you letter to your grandma.
She sent you socks or something for Christmas.
You even went and bought the stationery to do it.
You have the thank you letter,
nicely wrapped in, but what anyway.
So basically every time you think about doing it,
you start to feel this inner sense of resistance.
It's a resistance you can't seem to break past.
So instead of dealing with that resistance,
you go and do an escapist activity
like playing Apex Legends.
So let's continue this role play a little bit.
You're playing Apex Legends for a couple of hours
and things are going well and then it hits you.
It's an inner kind of disgusting, guilty feeling.
It says if the anxiety of the thing
that you're avoiding starts to pervade the activity
that you're using to escape the thing you're avoiding.
Congratulations, in this short little role-playing,
totally fictional experiment we just did.
You just experienced the two types of pain,
the pain of action and the pain of inaction.
The pain of action is something we can all identify with.
It's that discomfort we feel
before we do anything constructive.
Anytime you think about doing something that's constructive
and a little bit difficult, there's that inner sense
of resistance that seems to stop you from doing it.
And in order to actually accomplish that thing,
you have to break through that resistance
and then you get it done.
That inner sense of resistance is like
it's a paralyzing feeling.
Breaking through this resistance usually
takes some good old white knuckle willpower.
So while it's painful and uncomfortable up front,
if you just take it on the chin and deal with it,
you start to become stronger and more able to deal
with it in the future.
You start to become somebody who is okay with discomfort,
your confidence, your self efficacy,
and basically your whole life improves
because not only do you feel better about yourself,
usually doing something constructive
makes your life situation better anyways.
It's kind of like a lose, win.
The lose is eating the pain and the win is the redemption
that comes from that pain.
So that's the pain of action.
The pain of inaction is far more subtle
and it's a lot more sinister too.
And that's because it doesn't usually feel like pain at all.
When you choose to play Apex, instead of filing your taxes,
it may actually feel good for a while.
And it's a lot more fun to play Apex
than it is to file your taxes,
but kind of like binge drinking on a Friday night,
you're just stealing the happiness from Saturday morning.
And the debt you'll have to repay afterwards
is far more painful than just taking the initial pain
on the chin to begin with.
The pain of inaction is a slow burning, degenerative pain
that ruins every aspect of your life.
By choosing the inaction route, you become a softer person,
somebody who flinches at the site of discomfort,
somebody who can't get stuff done.
And the consequence of that on a long enough timeline
is you start to dislike yourself,
you start to not believe in your ability to get things done
and your life starts to fall apart around you.
You'll eventually dig yourself into a hole so deep
that it seems impossible to get out of
until you're pained by the misery of your own existence.
Obviously this is really morbid, but it's nonetheless true.
Nobody can avoid pain in day-to-day life.
Pain is just something that we all have to deal with,
but thankfully we can choose which pain we deal with.
If you choose not to fool yourself
and take the pain right up front,
battle through the discomfort of taking constructive action,
then you won't have this massive pain debt to pay.
And the pain debt is the pain of inaction,
which is a lot more crappy in general.
So yeah, that's all I got to say is choose wisely.
(chuckles)
I think that's pretty much all I'm gonna say.
It's good to be back.
I just wanted to throw...
I actually put a lot of thought into this video,
as short as it is.
I've been thinking about pain in general
and how sometimes life sucks,
but there's a lot of redemption to be found in this pain
as long as you're aware of it and make the right decisions.
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