- I have a stubborn 19-year-old.
- [Steve] Yes ma'am.
- I think she picks the worst friends.
- She picks the worst friends.
Yes, she does. - Oh, okay.
- She picks friend that steals from her.
She had a friend that took her cell phone,
and another one that took her jacket
in the middle of winter.
Okay, so she doesn't listen, really, to me,
but I'm trying to tell her
that these are not her friends.
And it's kinda stressing me.
I'm to the point where I'm here for you to talk to her.
- That's a common problem.
Is she here?
- [Mother] Yes, Steve.
- Oh that's her?
Stand up a little, baby. - Yes, Steve.
- [Steve] Yeah, she a cutie pie, too.
- Very opinionated. - Thank you.
- [Mother] Very opinionated.
- [Steve] You 19, baby?
- Yes, sir.
- Yes, ma'am.
You think you know everything?
No, not really. - Huh?
- Not really.
- Yes you do.
(audience laughs)
All y'all think y'all know everything at 19.
I got a house full of them.
My youngest is 21, 19.
You know, I actually, from age 15 to 19
I really didn't even like my children.
(audience laughs)
That's the period in their life
where they really thought they knew the most,
when they were actually the dumbest they've ever been.
- Oh my God, yes.
- 15 to 19 are the dumbest years of your life.
- [Mother] Yes.
That's for all of us in here.
I had them.
You had them.
15 to 19.
It's them years where you's think,
You know, this is me.
This who I am.
You ain't even close to who you are.
Here's the deal.
Sometimes when the kids stop hearing the parents,
it's almost like.
It's okay to get a little help raising your kids sometime.
'Cause the kids have a tendency
to shut the parent out after awhile.
And so, she may have done that,
but I can tell you've done a great job
and she loves you 'cause she here with you.
When your kids don't care
(audience applaud) about you,
they don't come nowhere around you.
So y'all probably got a good relationship.
You just need her to understand
that she's picking bad friends.
The reason a person repeatedly keeps picking bad friends
is because your goal ain't to have a friend.
Your goal is to say you somebody friend.
Now if you wanna just walk around saying
you somebody friend, you can form relationships all day
and find out aint none of them friendly for you.
So if you got a friend that's stealing
from you, listen to me.
That's not your friend.
- Thank you.
- Why you hang with these people, baby?
- I don't go up to people and think they're bad,
so I don't know.
- Oh, so you see the good in everybody
soon as you meet them.
Hmm, how that's working?
(audience laughs)
- Not really good, so far.
- This the way I treat people.
When you come up to me, I'm automatically cool with you.
I mean, soon as we meet, we just okay.
We cool.
We not friends.
We ain't close.
We just okay.
If you cordial to me, I promise you
I'm going to be cordial right back to you.
Now if you're a little snippy with me, I try to move on.
But you only get two snips at the dog, now.
(audience laughs)
- You've got to be careful with selecting friends.
Before you start calling people your friend,
why don't you wait until you all are faced with a situation.
I started doing that lately - Uh-huh.
- with new people that come into my life.
I kind of look at the old friends I had and kind of compare
a little bit before. - Yeah.
- So I'm starting to work on it.
- Do you know you're actually fine by yourself?
- Yes.
(audience applaud)
- And your other problem is you're clearly following
when your mother raised you to lead.
(audience applaud)
That's a very, very real thing.
And I have to remind my children of that all the time.
You were not raised by me to follow.
You were raised to lead.
It's two people born in a hospital.
It's people that born in a hospital
that's going to need a job.
Somebody got to be in a hospital that's passing out jobs.
I try to raise my kids to get in the
pass out the job business.
'Cause that way, (audience applaud)
you'll always be working.
Now there's nothing wrong with you for having a job.
'Cause I have some great employees that if I didn't have,
I wouldn't be in this position today.
And a lot of them working in their gift.
If numbers is your gift and you my accountant,
if you love the legality and court system,
you my lawyer, you living in your gift.
But the problem I want you to do is
I want you to just think about yourself
before you think of everybody else.
It's okay.
Self-preservation is one of the keys to survival,
And if you don't start looking at yourself first before
these people can come in and get a chance
to take advantage of you 'cause you a really nice person.
That's just the father in me talking.
(audience applaud)
So slow down a little bit.
Watch how you choose your friends.
Start practicing the leadership
that your mother been putting into you
and get out the follow lane.
'Cause following, you're going to follow
the wrong people, all right?
(audience applaud)
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