- Hello, lovely people.
I know, I got out of bed for the last video,
but that hurt, so today we are crafting in bed.
Because hey, the world's a scary place.
But it's still Pride month!
So we're going to lesbian-craft our way
through the fear for another Skill Share sponsored video.
Yes, that is an adjective, lesbian-craft.
Look it up in the dictionary
and you'll find our smiling faces.
We're cute like that.
Today, we are going to be making some beautiful,
rainbow felt flowers from this felt flower making kit
which I purchased from Etsy,
I will leave a link to it in the description
should you also like to partake in some lesbian-crafting.
And once we're finished with these lovely little flowers,
we're going to put them onto a big wreath
and then hang them in our window
and our neighbors can wonder whether
we just love the NHS or, we're gay.
Both, it's both.
Also I feel like our neighbors should know that we're gay,
but we are two young women who apparently
occasionally pass as sisters.
So, maybe they just haven't clued in yet.
Hopefully this will help.
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(she laughs) Sorry, everyone is in the crafting area.
Everyone's involved.
Okay, so, I have this little crafting kit
and we're gonna work out how to do it.
I mean, I say work out,
I did look at the instructions online.
It's basically work from the outside in.
- I don't really like,
- [Both] Crafting.
- Yeah. (Jessica laughs)
What do you think the definition of crafting is?
Compared to, say, yeah. - Art.
Snobbery.
(Claudia laughs)
- No!
I means, I don't know.
I just think of crafting as a bit more textile-y.
You know?
- Yeah. - More textiles involved.
My friends were telling me that they've been listening
to a sewing podcast, I was like.
- Well, that is a bit much.
But no, I'm gonna sit here
with my lashings of ginger beer
and bring out my sewing kit,
because today, we're sewing.
It does say that you can do it
with a hot glue gun.
But,
that's somewhere in the garage.
- I could get it, I could do it with a glue gun
and you could do it by sewing
and we'll compare them at the end.
- You wanna go in that garage
and try and dig it out from behind
all of the builders' mess and rubble?
- Fair enough. - And our floorboards
that haven't yet been laid down?
- Yeah, I forgot to tell you, actually
that when I went to get my toolbox,
I had to literally lever myself up
these massive plaster boards onto my waist
and then stretch across. - What?
- Like a banana.
- Alright, we're gonna sew.
I'm not having you endangering yourself in the garage.
Here is your needle and your bright yellow thread.
- Thank you. - Walter!
- Walter's just lying across our work here.
- Sorry, sorry!
- He's in a mood today. - Sorry.
- Don't touch the beast.
- No, the other day, Jilly got ill,
she vomited on the bed, right next to Walter.
- This is why dogs should not sleep in the bed,
I mean, on, they don't sleep in the bed,
they sleep on the bed, but still.
- And he refused to move.
I was like, Walter, if you don't move
this is gonna spread to your bum.
He did not care. - I ran off
to get cleaning products, - So I just had to use my hand
to push his bum away.
- He was like (she growls).
(relaxed jazz music)
(Jessica laughs)
- This is all wrong!
We're meant to feel confident creatively
and then that will help us to do other things.
- Right now, it's just making me feel very inadequate
and frustrated, so it's got the opposite effect, I think.
- Oh, I'm very very sorry for that.
- What? - It's okay.
- I don't even like touching felt.
(Jessica laughs)
(relaxed jazz music)
- So often when we get off the sofa,
Claudia's like, where's my phone?
Where's this, where's that, is it under your bum?
No, no, and then I stand up.
- Yeah, and it's under your bum.
- Really is everything under my bum.
- I mean, we say your bum, it's under your many petticoats.
- Doesn't actually have anything to do with my bum.
- Can I just say,
I've just finished a six hour shift at work, so,
feeling quite tired.
- Yeah, six hour shift in PPE,
and then she's forced to craft by her wife.
It's the drama of Claudia's life.
- I find stone carving quite relaxing.
- Yeah?
- 'Cause I think I have to be doing
a level of physical exertion to find an activity relaxing.
Not always, but-- - Is that about,
what about the lasting effects of it?
'Cause I feel like if I've completed something
then I feel a little confidence boost.
- Yeah.
But I have to be pleased with it.
Whereas I think with crafting,
I know I'm very bad, with material and crafting and sewing,
I already know that by the end
it's gonna look pretty crap.
So I don't find it rewarding.
- I mean, is there not an argument
that you're making it a self fulfilling prophecy?
- Probably.
They say you should practice the things
that you're not good at to get better at them.
- Indeed.
- But I shy away from them instead.
Because at the age of 32,
if you're not good at it anymore,
you find comfort in other things!
I mean, why are you putting yourself
through that much stress?
What the hell is this?
- Oh, that. (she laughs)
Yes, that does have instructions,
don't worry, it's on the other side.
(relaxed jazz music)
- Oh, it's a lavender.
- Mm.
So, do yo think you felt, doing DT,
more confident with the big tools?
You always seem to like big stuff, like stone carving.
- Yeah, I mean despite the fact that I'm a dentist,
and you think I'm good with my hands
and people think, oh, you must be very good at,
- Intricate, small things. - Yeah,
but I'm not, I'm better with working with tools.
- I definitely feel less confident doing big stuff.
I feel more confident writing a short video
than I would-- - A novel.
- I know.
But the way that I write is in very short chunks,
so I'll write half a scene of something.
You don't even get the full scene,
not even I write a chapter
and then I write a different chapter.
- Yeah, as long as they're all the same characters
and a storyline, it's not just fragmented little stories.
- It all makes sense in my mind.
I have this fear, continuity,
which is very much about standing in my own way,
that I'll die, and you won't be able to make sense
of the bits of my stories.
- Exactly.
- 'Cause I have this thing where I'm like,
oh God, if I died I'd really want Claudia
to publish something I'd written.
- Well, I mean, to be honest
I wouldn't even know where your writing is.
Because you hide it from me.
I don't even know what your fan-fiction name is
'cause you won't tell me that, either.
- (she laughs) Yeah, I love how people always comment that
on videos, please tell us, I'm like,
I haven't even told my wife, so.
(uplifting piano music)
I can sort it for you.
- Maybe the lesson is,
you can try something but if it's frustrating you
more than relaxing, you should just not do it.
- Yeah, this was supposed to be a nice,
calming way for you to relax after a long day.
If it's not working, leave it.
- I would like, I do think think it's nice,
but I think, personally, I think I would need
to feel quite fresh, maybe sitting in a lovely lit kitchen
with the smell of freshly baked muffins.
Cup of tea, you know,
a nice sunny afternoon.
- For those who don't know,
we're currently living in a building site.
Waiting for the extension to be finished
at the back of our house, where we'll have
a kitchen diner.
Right now, we don't have a kitchen,
we just have a microwave in our living room.
And our dishes are washed up in the sink.
- Bath!
- The bath, my apologies.
- Look, it's not even lavender anymore,
I mean, what is this?
What is this?
- It's alright, my love.
- What is it?
(gentle piano music)
- Good morning.
So, unfortunately, completing a craft project
in one day was apparently a bit much for me.
And, now I have this throbbing migraine
that means I can't lift my head.
I mean, it looks like I've got my head lifted,
I haven't, I've just got a great medical bed.
It's excellent, goes up and down, what can I say?
And now my head is propped up.
So I'm gonna continue making these beautiful flowers.
So far, we have red, orange, yellow,
green, blue, violet,
no, wait, indigo.
'Cause you can't just say purple.
Why are there two purples in the rainbow?
I mean, I wish I could tell you.
I was gonna say it's probably an art thing, it's not.
It's a science thing.
'Cause if you split up white light, right?
Anyway, let's continue.
By making some lavender.
I actually had a lovely time last night.
Sitting, sewing, and watching "Glow Up".
BBC 3 show, it's a makeup challenge, rather good.
I enjoy those kinda shows a lot.
Not really into reality TV where nothing happens.
Although, having said that,
did very much enjoy "Love is Blind".
Who didn't?
(relaxing ambient music)
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Thank you so much for watching this video
and I will see you in my next one.
(she blows a kiss)
(relaxed jazz music)