- Describe the moment you realized you could trust me.
Hmm.
- OK.
Okay, the moment I realized
I can trust you. Oh.
Just when you was there, I mean, for ____.
I mean, without me asking,
without anything, I mean, just...
how much I could tell you loved me by just
the way you handled him.
That’d be it.
- Here baby. Don’t be crying.
- Yeah. It’s that.
All right.
- All right.
- Do your best impression of me?
- Oh, my God.
That. This, this, this.
Whoo. I thought that said “anal.”
- Oh, sick.
- Girl.
I had to look again.
You know I ain’t got my glasses on.
I thought it says,
“Why do you need more of anal?” What?
I don't even do.
What? But why do we need to do more?
Why do we need to do more...
What— I'm sorry,
do we need to do more of,
and why?
- Take more trips.
- Why?
- Because we getting old.
- Bitch!
- We, no, we do need to travel more.
- Why?
- Because I want to.
- Well you need to travel more.
- No, we, we!
- This thing say what do we need to do.
- We!
- No!
- Yeah. There's no I.
Unless you leaving me, there’s no I.
- I’m good on travel, babe.
- We gotta travel.
- We travelling right now,
with this whole experience
is travel,
Everything we doing right now is traveling
We ain’t in our home state,
we ain’t in our home town,
- This is not travelling.
And this is a whole—
this is a whole experience, we ain’t never done this.
- Right but it’s not travelling.
- This is travelling.
We are nowhere near home.
What?
I don’t like the way you looking.
- When do people judge us,
and why do you think they do?
- When do people judge us?
- All the time.
Why? - All the time?
- Why do they do?
Who gives a fuck?
- That, too.
But they do because
I think people judge us, first of all, because we don't care.
We're out, you know, how it is, whatever.
But I think they do because
they not happy with themselves
and they can't be who we are, how we are.
I'm not going to say I don't care about racism
and I don't care about people that's homophobic
and things like that.
But I don't make it my business.
You understand? To make it
so hateful in my heart that it bothers me so much.
No, that's your life,
That's something that you got to deal with.
Know what I mean?
That's something, that's a problem that you have
that you haven't even realized you had,
I had nothing to do with that.
Nothing. I'm happy with who I am.
That's something you got to deal with,
at the end of the day.
Girl. What my love feel like, girl?
What it feel like?
- Oh, what does your love feel like?
You love hard, right?
Well, you always love hard, but like.
You love hard to the point where it's like,
“Oh, get off me.”
I mean, but, and then... it's like.
Your love. It's just so warm.
I mean, and it’s safe.
You know, I've been a pitbull all my fucking life,
- Right.
My pitbull.
- I've been a pitbull all my life, know what I mean?
Anything happened, it was always me,
And your love let me relax.
- I love your reaction when you read the question.
- What do I do that turns you on
that I'm not aware of?
- Hmm.
- Nah, you can’t be asking these kind of questions.
See, this is the kind of stuff
that keeps the relationship lasting.
You know, when you let them know too much,
they start acting funny.
OK, let me just say that right there.
That's the thing that your mate does
that makes you tingle inside
and they don't know you’re tingling inside,
you keep that shit to yourself.
So you continue to tingle inside.
- So does that mean you’re not answering that question?
- That means I will not answer that question.
- Damn.
- I really wanted to know that one.
- Yeah but you just might not do that little—
Because you know how we petty.
- Yeah.
- You know how we petty?
- Yeah. - You feel me?
Then you might not do that little sexy thing I like,
because you know I like it now,
you feeling me? - Right.
- I ain’t got time for that shit.
- OK. OK.
Give me some, give me some.
OK. We can be very petty.
- Very petty. You know we Geminis.
It is what it is.
That’s that other bitch. - Yeah.
- When was the last time you considered
ending this relationship,
and why didn't you?
I think I know this damn answer,
it could have been yesterday.
It could have been last damn night!
- No, that wasn't, that wasn't us.
- You’re right, that definitely doesn’t happen to me.
- It wasn’t us! - Okay.
- I didn't.
Because...
For one, like we're not done
I mean like this story....
- I never want to be done.
- Like this, this chapter is not done yet.
I mean. You know,
I was a whole different person.
- Right.
- I was a whole different person when we met.
- Right.
I mean, you know, I had the fuck you attitude,
Fuck you, everybody,
didn’t look like you, you know what I mean, like...
And you know, with you like,
you, like you changed a lot about me.
And I mean, like you made me give a fuck about life.
- Right.
- I mean, so it was either... break it out,
I mean, cause that was, that’s what’s best,
that's what I want,
or say fuck it, and then go back
to the old me that
didn’t want to be, I don’t want to be that person no more.
So...
What's a pain in me
you wish you could heal?
- The loss of your mom.
I really do. But I know I never could heal it.
What I want you to do,
too. So you can heal it yourself
because no one can heal your pain.
You understand?
And I just want you
to just understand
what happened, why she was here.
You know, she was sick, babe.
It wasn't like, you know, she was murdered
or or, you know, something like that.
She died of a sickness that she fought for years.
And you put your college career on hold.
Put it all the way on a back burner.
Forgot about it.
You feel me? Your whole basketball thing.
To take care of your mom.
Nobody can re—
I don't think nobody comes back from losing a parent and
You understand,
especially a mom. But
if I could, I'll take it.
I'll take your pain because I can deal with that pain.
You understand what I’m saying?
And I, and I know I can, you know I can too.
Because you already know how I deal with hurt.
- Right.
You feel me. I don't let it kill me
because I think what you're supposed to do.
You understand what I'm saying?
Your supposed to take your lessons.
You feel me, whether it’s good or bad.
Whether it’s a loss or a gain.
You just got to take it
and learn how to live with it
because that's yours and it's never going to go away.
But I just want you to learn how to live with that wound
You feel me? Without it crippling you.
- Alright.
- Hm. - Mm, what?
- If this was to be our last conversation,
what's something you never want me to forget?
- That I love you and I appreciate you
for everything you've ever done.
- I love you and I appreciate you too, babe.
Told you don't make me cry,
when we first met, you were so broken, you know,
and not care, and not caring about nothing.
And I just believe that everybody in life
has something to live for. You know what I mean?
And I just never want you to forget your worth, babe.
You were like you were so raw,
so fucking raw. Like I mean, it's just so beautiful
to see you grow into your womanhood
and just be comfortable in your own skin and,
you know, not let people
get over on you because your heart is good
You understand?
Just never forget your worth, babe.
Never, never forget your worth.
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