Silent Retreat 25.09.2014
Session 1
Leave Everybody, Including Yourself
[Questioner] And the other thing is, I don't want to be around any people.
I find them really noisy.
[Mooji] Hmm? [Q.] Noisy and ...
I'm not interested in what they've got to say,
I mean, I have got children
and I'm expected to kind of interact;
but I have no interest.
[Q.] It's ... [Mooji] You have love?
[Q.] Yes, a lot of love. [Mooji] OK. It's OK.
[Mooji] Isn't it? Because you are breaking some mighty taboos there.
Even your children, you're not interested in what they have to say?
Well, no. [laughter]
Do you have to, because they're your children
be interested in what they have to say? Sometimes it can be like this.
It might not be a forecast for the rest of your life.
But it can be a phase that you have tasted.
You cannot stand anybody's company. Maybe even your own.
[Q.] Yeah. [Mooji softly chuckles]
[Mooji] Then where will you go now? [soft laughter]
[Q.] I don't know. [Mooji] Find out.
Even leave everybody, including you.
You do it in the deep sleep. You leave everyone, including you.
Now, do it in the waking state.
[Q.] Will it get better? [Mooji] Hmm?
[Q.] Will it get better? [M.] We're waiting to find out,
you're our guinea pig for the moment. [laughter]
And as many as wish to join. Why not?
You do it every night. Willingly, you let go.
And then, there's no task to be empty of self; no task, no job, no yoga,
no exercise to go into deep sleep. It simply happens.
Now, consciously depart from even the person you take yourself ...
You said the rest is easy, life is helping you.
'I don't find interest in interacting
with other human beings at the moment.'
OK? 'And even my family.'
And we're saying, It's OK. For the moment, it's OK.
Let's have a look and see if this is a psychological thing,
because sometimes we can do that, in a psychological state.
One girl, she told me that at one point,
she was so hurt by a relationship; her boyfriend left her,
that she said, 'I'm never going to love again!'
What a thing, isn't it? 'I don't want this experience again.'
So, love, 'Pff.' Shop closed.
And then for years she was not able to love anybody at all, in any form.
Then, she came and she said, 'I think I've had enough of it.
I feel my heart is closed, it's like a heart of stone now.'
I said, You created it, because you made something.
You said, 'I don't want to ...'
Maybe it may have arisen out of some emotional state,
but you sent a clear message inside yourself, 'I don't want to feel,
because when people come too close, I get hurt,
I start to trust them or something becomes very vulnerable,
and I'm not having it.'
And something in your being obeys this, and you shut down.
We want to see if it's that, or is it that you're finding,
which often people do, that as you go inside, into your heart,
and begin to experience from the inner realm of being,
that the outer life seems to slow down,
you aren't so interested in activities that many people are interested in,
you don't want to go shopping, you're not looking on QVC (shopping channel),
or you're not going to the mall,
and you don't want to go to some tea party or something;
you're not interested in who got married and reading Woman's Own.
You're not interested in anything at all.
And if people said, even family,
'We haven't seen you for a while, auntie's birthday is coming up,'
it's like, 'I don't want to do it.'
And it can feel perfectly like, 'Left alone to myself, I'm quite fine!'
[Q.] Yes. [Mooji] Then when you are by yourself,
only you alone now is in your universe, are you fine?
[Q.] I am.
[Mooji] Then, who must you be then?
Because even you don't disturb you.
Everybody disturbs you, but you don't disturb you. No.
[Q.] I have ... I feel so much love. [Mooji] Yes.
[Q.] for other people. [Mooji] Yeah.
[Q.] So it's not that I don't love other people, I do.
I have a lot of love for other people.
And I have a lot of intuitive feelings about other people.
Like, how they're feeling, if they talk to me.
But I just feel I want to be quiet inside.
Because sometimes there is talk about stuff that means nothing.
[Mooji] You have to find the quiet inside you
in spite of the noise outside.
It's too much to ask of life
that everybody be quiet so that I can be quiet.
[Q.] Yeah, I know.
[M.] You must find that which is not disturbed and not disturbable;
not disturbed and not disturbable.
So, something is not right.
And even 'other people, 'other people', 'other'!
So, other and I, also. First, the first born is 'I'.
'I' must be there, before 'other' comes.
Because without 'I', there is no 'other'.
So, this 'I' that sees strongly 'other', get rid of this one.
This 'I' is also 'other' to something else.
This 'I' is also 'other' to something much, much more beautiful.
Can we find him?
Otherwise, you're always gonna be your own favourite person.
The favourite person in the world is 'me'.
So this one, you must give him up, also. How?
That which perceives even 'I', personally;
that which perceives the 'I-person', which perceives the 'I-person',
be one with that. That's very, very ....
This is the height of your discovery now.
And then, nothing will disturb you,
not people, not ideas, no demons, no doctors, nothing will disturb you.
This, I want you to not stop short.
Don't end your inquiry prematurely.
Go fully, come fully in, like this.
As long as there's 'I' and 'other', you will have trouble.
Then you say, 'But that's a very big step to take.
To dissolve other is ... I mean, who can do it?
Can I look at an apple and think it's me?'
No, it's not like that. So don't waste time practicing that, OK?
It's not about going and saying,
'I am the apple, I am the tree, I am the cloud.'
Because anyway you don't believe it. [laughter]
OK? So, it's a futile practice. OK?
But simply be in the place where you can see even the 'me'
that you identify yourself to be.
Even this feeling, 'I' who perceives 'other'.
'I have lot of love for other people.
I have lot of compassion for other people.
It's just that when they make their noise, I get disturbed.'
So this link is not the true link.
You find the one who is undisturbable. Right here, he's right here.
We don't have to go even to the next side of this screen.
Right here, inside this room, inside your heart,
inside the inside of your heart.
It's not comparing your actions, this one is not comparing your actions.
It's not comparing your thoughts,
he's not saying, 'But you thought wrong'.
It's beyond all of that; not concerned about that.
It's a place of total stillness, but there's nobody there being still.
And it's going to become sparklingly clear for you, like this.
So, first thing, I already feel very good about your coming up,
because in saying this, I feel there is so much space in you for this,
there's so much space in you for this.
But you're just maybe holding onto some concepts, blocking;
they create a block, when none need be there.
You are much greater than the shape you've created of yourself.
You're much bigger than that.
When you are in that space of neutrality, natural neutrality,
the whole world fits into you.
Your love encompasses everyone.
And it need not be a certain style of love, it's not affectionate love.
Love is a very, very broad thing.
It can chop your leg off, to save your being. It's wise.
But it sees this whole world is your child.
But it's not a practice even, not a practice.
This is beyond practice, much more natural than practice.
Practice implies that something has to be practiced to get to.
I say, No, it has to be recognized.
Then, if there's a practice,
the practice is to keep out the wrong ideas from coming into you.
The practice is not to find the Truth.
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