INFJs believe they are misunderstood both by others and by themselves.
Well, that doesn’t come as a shock.
They are one of the rarest of the 16 MBTI personality types.
They know a lot of their qualities can be really hard for people to grasp.
In fact, sometimes, they even get confused by their own selves.
The outer world can appear to be a harsh, judgmental environment where few people actually
take the time to genuinely get to know one another.
People all too frequently make assumptions about others or become distracted by their
Smartphones rather than staying involved in a conversation.
In today's society, there are numerous reasons why an INFJ feels isolated or undervalued.
Today I am going to talk about 7 Things People Often Misunderstand About INFJs.
Even if you’re not an INFJ, be sure to watch till the end of today’s video, your INFJ
friends would like nothing more than for you to have a better understanding of them.
Let’s get into it.
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Starting things off for us today is The Way An INFJ Sees The World
One thing people often misunderstand or actually don’t even understand at all is the way
an INFJ sees the World.
Most people see the world as what it is.
They see actions.
They see people.
They see the events that are taking place and visible details.
But, INFJs focus on something else.
They don’t look at the World like that.
They understand and contemplate the World through a very complex process through their
cognitive function of Introverted Intuition.
Because of this powerful intuition, INFJs tend to focus on the unseen things of
the world.
These include ideas, concepts, theories, and hidden meanings of everyone and everything
going on around them.
INFJs don’t focus on what is happening.
They focus on why it’s happening.
INFJs find the hidden meanings behind things, actions, and
people.
They also really enjoy talking about these topics as well.
While these more spiritual and mystical qualities are valued in some societies, they are regarded
as unusual or simply out of the ordinary in much of Western culture.
Next up and number 6 today is An INFJs Social Energy
Every personality type has its own set of issues when it comes to their social life.
And of course, INFJs have their fair share as well.
When it comes to socializing, INFJs spend a
lot of their time trying to understand everyone around them.
They try to understand the feelings of others and make others feel as
comfortable as possible.
That means they’re usually very polite and conscious
of everyone’s feelings.
In fact, if there is ever a situation that might cause an argument, INFJs feel like they
have to fix the situation.
They always think they have to keep the situation peaceful and
harmonious.
Yes, that’s a great personality trait but because they spend so much time
trying to understand others, They mostly feel like no one understands them.
Because an INFJ always adjusts according to others and makes others comfortable, they
often end up feeling uncomfortable themselves.
In fact, a lot of the time, They can’t even be themselves around other people because
they always think of the comfort of other people.
They frequently spend so much time anticipating and addressing the needs of others that they
lose sight of themselves in the process.
At the end of the day, many INFJs wish they could be seen and understood for who they
truly are.
It feels difficult, however, when they are constantly changing emotionally to the needs
and emotional fluctuations of others.
Number 5 on my list of what people misunderstand about INFJs is An INFJs Introversion
As an INFJ, I’m sure you can relate that you need your alone time.
You need your peace and quiet.
The time where you can just be with yourself and not have any
distraction from the outer World.
INFJs need this time to just delve into their world of
ideas and thoughts.
But people often misunderstand that.
Don’t get me wrong.
INFJs are definitely are introverts.
But just because they like their alone time doesn’t mean
they don’t like interacting with people.
In fact, INFJs really enjoy developing deep, intimate connections with people.
They love getting to know new people and making new
friends and getting close to people.
But even in the case of their friends, people assume that INFJs don’t like interacting
with them even though they just need some time to relax and recharge.
INFJs are frequently torn between wanting to connect with others and needing to recharge
their introverted batteries.
This can lead to interpersonal problems since people assume INFJs need near-constant interactions,
yet when INFJs withdraw, they are perceived as inconsistent, frigid, or undependable.
Next up and number 4 today is The Way INFJs Communicate
As I mentioned before, the dominant cognitive function of an INFJ is Introverted
Intuition.
That means they have a lot of different thoughts about the World which are
always spinning in their heads.
INFJs are overthinkers.
And they overthink absolutely everything.
Overthinking about why the World is the way it is, about
why people behave the way they do.
At any given moment, an INFJ has a whole mess of thoughts in their head.
But when it comes to communicating these thoughts, INFJs struggle a lot.
And mostly, they end up confusing people when they try
to talk about their feelings or their thoughts.
Introverted intuitive types, such as INFJs, envision concepts and meanings clearly in
their minds; nevertheless, when they try to explain themselves, It might feel as if all
of their meticulously organized thoughts come unglued and scatter in all directions.
This is particularly true of INFJs and INTJs.
Numerous INFJs and INTJs have stated that their ideas and insights are crystal clear
in their heads, but when they speak, everything becomes murky.
Their thoughts aren't always linear; in fact, they frequently think in images or symbols
rather than words.
It is considerably more difficult to explain metaphors, symbols, and images than it is
to verbalize a linear sequence of events.
Don't get me wrong: this does not disqualify INFJs from being effective communicators.
They have the potential to be outstanding communicators, but it usually takes a lot
of practice and self-acceptance for them to become as convincing and clear as they wish
to be.
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Kicking off my top 3 is INFJs Are Often Underestimated
INFJs are compassionate, perceptive individuals who desire to make the world a better place.
However, Because they aren't as forceful and direct as many other types, they are frequently
rejected or go unnoticed.
Many INFJ women, in particular, are perceived as "kind" or "timid" (even if they aren't)
and thus disregarded since the more dominant, bold, stereotypically male approach to communication
is viewed as the ideal when it comes to performance and success.
INFJs are frequently underemployed because They are overlooked for advancement in favor
of their more outspoken and direct competitors.
In a world that encourages males to be more dominant, blunt, direct, and vocal, INFJ men
especially struggle to feel understood and valued.
In the runner-up spot is In A World That Feels Shallow, INFJs Care Deeply.
It seems most of the World is focused on little things.
They’re focused on celebrity gossip or fashion trends.
They’re focused on different scandals or dramas.
But when it comes to INFJs, these things are way too shallow.
Their focus and care is towards something entirely different.
Instead of shallow things, INFJs like to focus on things that can make the world a
better place.
They have very high standards for themselves and they want to achieve a
lot.
They want to do something that will change things, for the better.
INFJs are big-picture thinkers who wish to better the world for their own sake as well
as the sake of those around them.
They hold themselves to high standards and are constantly striving to reach their full
potential.
They are guided by spirituality, purpose, and conviction, and they wish they could find
others who care as much about their ideas as they do.
Other people simply don’t understand that.
And INFJs often hate it when they see that others aren’t constantly thinking about
making things better for everyone like they are.
Topping my list and the number 1 thing people misunderstand about INFJs is Overstimulation
& Media Burnout Is Common In INFJs.
The world we inhabit today is heavily reliant on electronic connections.
Juggling social networking platforms while also staying on top of texts, Zoom meetings,
and phone conversations is a daily problem for many individuals, especially INFJs.
They require a significant amount of time to disconnect from the actual world and register
their thoughts, where they can explore ideas and simply imagine.
They require silence in order to completely digest their insights and intuitions as intuitive
dominant types.
Unfortunately, The world isn't set up to accommodate their needs and wants.
Friends get upset because they didn't answer quickly enough to a text, and their work requires
them to attend repeated Zoom meetings where they must see a dozen other faces looking
out from the screen.
INFJs frequently crave a life they never had.
One where they could spend an evening snuggled up by a candle with a nice book and nothing
but the distant chirping of crickets.
A life in which their social needs were addressed through intimate, one-on-one meetings with
friends.
INFJs require profound concentration on one item at a time; they are overstimulated and
overwhelmed by the competing demands that smartphones and technology have generated.
their friends seem to misunderstand that they don’t want to talk.
But in reality, they just need a break.
We all know that INFJs place a great priority on personal integrity.
INFJs can be confusing because they are complex individuals who are trying to understand themselves.
However, after they have done so, they will be able to employ their multitude of complexities
to actually make the world a better place.
What are your experiences on these things that people misunderstand about INFJs?
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