- Three feminine things women do
that make men go wild. (giggles)
(soft music)
Hello. My name is Greta Bereisaite.
I'm dating and relationship coach for women.
And today I am with the beautiful Chengi
from the Black Swan Academy. (giggles)
- Thank you so much, Chengi, for coming.
- Thank you for
having me, Greta. - Such a pleasure
to have you here. - Why thank you.
- So, Chengi will share those amazing things with us.
And without further ado, let's just get on with it,
'cause we are all very excited to hear them, including me.
(both giggling)
- Fantastic. Thank you, Greta for having me.
And hello, Greta tribe. (giggles)
Nice to always be on here.
I actually came to play, anyway.
(both giggling)
So number one, be a challenge but not competitive,
not challenging, okay?
Be a challenge, but not challenging.
So what does that mean?
Is have this sense of self ownership,
have this sense of, you know your values,
you know what you stand for,
you know what you'll accept and what you will not accept.
And you move in a way that is got
that kind of you know what? I want you to work harder.
You don't have to say it.
You don't have to demand it, but have that about you.
That's like, "Well that's not good enough,
work a bit harder, do a bit better."
Men love that in a woman when she's leaning back
and she's letting him do the work
and letting him come to her
and letting him work a little bit harder.
Make those calls, make that intrigue.
That is great for masculine men.
Feminine men won't like it very much
because they wanna be chased, you see?
They want a woman that is gonna come to them
and come to them and phone them and they'll pull back
and then you go forward.
So, if you dealing with a masculine man,
which I think is the kind of guy
that we all kind of like, right?
(both giggling)
He's gonna find that really desirous,
he's gonna really get excited because guess what?
Masculine men love challenge.
They love a challenge.
They're conquering, they're competitive.
They like to hunt.
They like to kill, like to get that thing.
So if you give them that,
the attraction for you is gonna be high
and they're gonna read you as a feminine woman.
They're gonna think, "She's a feminine woman."
- That's exactly what I actually,
sorry for-- - That's okay.
- That's exactly what I thought.
This is why masculine men love feminine women
because we are challenging.
In a way that we don't compete with them,
but you have to make an effort to charm her
and get to her and et cetera.
So that's how
it compliments each other. - Absolutely.
And sometimes we get it wrong
because we think being a challenge
is being challenging and competitive.
- No, don't do that. - It's not about
he says this, you say that. He's got this.
We don't wanna get into that frequency
where every time a man says something,
you've gotta say something back,
just to show that you're a challenge.
That's not challenging.
A masculine man is gonna see that's as almost--
- As masculine. - Yeah.
It's gonna bring out that competitive in him
and then you're gonna be one of the boys.
Because that's how men talk.
He wants you to be just challenging.
Work a bit harder, lean back.
Let him come to you and that is really amazing.
- Hot. - Drives them wild.
- And you can be playful. It's so much fun.
You literally like, "Ah!"
It's like you're in your feminine.
Enjoying yourself. - Exactly.
- He's complimenting you and you're just like, "Ah!"
It's so hot. It's so nice.
- Yeah. And that leads me to the second point,
which is receptive, not resistant.
- I love that. - Because that's where
when he's complimenting you, you're like (giggles).
- Aw, thanks.
(both laughing)
No, me? - Really? Oh, God thank you.
Gee, thanks.
(both laughing)
A masculine energy man is a giver.
That is the first sign, he gives up his time,
his energy, his finances.
He just is a giver, he's naturally wired to give.
And when a woman resists it, maybe by saying,
"You know what? I'll pay."
Or, "Let me pay for that."
Or, "I can open my own door.
I can do that. I can battle by myself.
I can take care of me."
And yeah, I know I'm nice, but be receptive.
We know that all of the Greta tribe
are beautiful and gorgeous,
but let him tell you that, it's okay.
So be receptive when a man wants to help you,
even if you can carry it,
let him carry it because he knows that you can,
but the fact that you're being receptive,
lets him know that you're interested in a way
that's high value.
In a way that's not chasey.
So if a man is coming for you
and going for you as a challenge
and you're behaving feminine and high value
and you're leaning back and letting him do the work
and then he does something
and you're receptive and appreciative,
and you're like, "You know what? thank you so much.
You're such a gentleman. Thank you for caring.
Oh my God. It was very heavy for me." (laughs)
- I loved what you said about you're showing him
that you are interested in him by letting him do that stuff.
'Cause a lot of girls ask,
"How do I show him that I'm interested in him?"
And you literally show him that you're interested in him
when he's like, "Oh, can I carry this bag for you?"
And you're like, "Yeah."
So he feels like, "Okay, she's letting me do that.
Therefore she's showing interest. She's letting me pay.
So she's showing interest."
But then you say, "No, I'll take it."
- Then he'll think-- - He's like,
"Oh, she's resistant, she's not interested."
- Exactly. The only man that will really love that,
that resistance, is a feminine man.
He's gonna love that you're resistant.
He's gonna be all about that 50-50 life.
He's gonna love it.
He's gonna think, "Oh, she's a great girl."
But a masculine energy man is gonna feel like,
"If you're not receiving what I'm showing you
and giving you then you're
obviously not into me." - It's you're not interested.
- And I think a lot of women in the modern world
feel that allowing a man
or being receptive to a man doing stuff
is almost like going back in time.
The women's lib or feminism.
It's like, oh gosh, if you let a man do something for you,
you're being weak and you're letting women down.
And I think that's contributed to that sense
of us being afraid to, look,
men know one thing about women.
That we are smart and we're strong.
We can pretty much do a lot of things.
So that's why he values it even more when you let him do it.
And that's why he thinks,
"Oh, she must really be into me
because she's letting me do it."
- Love that, love that. - So yeah.
That's point number two.
Number three, we're moving fast here.
(both laughing)
- No time to waste. - The other thing
that makes men go wild with with desire.
(both laughing)
And this has really always absolutely worked for me
is a woman who respects herself and respects him.
I talk a lot of my channel about respecting men,
respecting men, respecting men.
But you can't do that if you don't respect yourself.
If you don't treat yourself with respect,
if you don't honor your own thoughts,
if you don't create a life that you respect,
if you don't respect the way you think,
the way you behave, the who you are.
If you don't respect your family, your friends.
I think respect is so...
Hands up, she's got her hand up.
(both laughing) - Yeah. Oh, I missed it now.
But yeah, how can you respect?
It's impossible to actually respect another person
if you don't respect yourself.
- You can't. - It's impossible.
- 'Cause we treat others the way we treat ourselves.
Because we're always deflecting.
Whatever is in us, we project it on other people.
So if you have never learned
to think you're worth something,
that your thoughts are worth something,
that your feelings are worth something,
and that your body is worth something,
and that what you do with your life is worth something.
If you don't respect that and treat that with honor,
it becomes impossible to honor somebody else.
And if there's anyone who thinks,
"Oh, I can respect others, but I don't respect myself."
You really don't respect them, or they don't feel respected.
And with a masculine man, everything he does is for respect.
He wants especially from his women, because guess what?
They go out into the world and the world is challenging
and they have to make money and they have to fight.
They have to do so much.
And men don't get complimented that much.
We get it a lot.
We're like, "Girl, love your lipstick." (gabbling)
And so, he's gonna look for validation
from the woman he's with.
Now that is not about being just
this person who doesn't know who she is.
"And you're just a God," it's not about worshiping him.
It's really just when he speaks, let him finish.
Even if I disagree with what he's saying,
take a little notepad and maybe write down
a few notes while he's talking.
(both laughing)
- That's what I do. - Exactly.
- Not with guys, but with our people.
- Let me just write quick notes.
Okay, quick notes. Okay, quick notes. (giggles)
- Like with your clients, you let them speak,
but taking yeah.
- When my clients are speaking I'm writing notes, right?
And even we were just talking a minute ago
and Greta was lifting her hand.
That's respectful.
'Cause it's your show, it's your channel.
You could have just been like,
"Yeah, what I wanna say is," but you were like.
That's respect. It's not that hard.
And if you show it with your friends
and you show it with your family
and you show it to yourself.
Give yourself enough time
to listen to your own thoughts completely,
stop interrupting yourself with judgment and criticism.
Like, what am I thinking?
Even if it's ugly, I wanna respect and honor my thoughts.
Then it's easy to honor your friend's thought.
Even if you don't think what they're saying makes sense.
Like, "Whatever girl," let them finish.
It's small things like that.
And with men being respected for the way they think
and the things they do is so important.
And showing appreciation
when a guy does something great for you, brings you a gift.
Don't be like, "Thanks. That was nice."
- You get (indistinct) like (gasps)
"Oh, thank you so much." (kisses)
Like, "Oh, I love you so much. You're the love of my life."
Or you get like, "Is that what you got me?
Where am I gonna use? I don't like it."
- "I don't eat chocolate."
- You kind of have to be in between, have some balance.
Don't be too extreme.
- It's just that manners of thank you so much.
That's so kind. That's so thoughtful.
I really appreciate it.
That's it, right?
So, these three things seem really super simple,
but so many of us miss them.
And if you get these three things right, honestly,
you're gonna become a feminine, desirable woman.
And men really, really, really love it.
Especially if you're an achieving woman
and you're a woman who knows who she is
and you got confidence.
They really, really appreciate that.
So that's my three, Greta.
- Amazing. - Yay.
- Amazing. Ladies, if you want more tips from Chengi,
the most wonderful amazing feminine tips from Chengi,
check out her academy on her YouTube channel
and everywhere else, to be honest.
Her YouTube channel is called Black Swan Academy.
She's got lots of incredible content just like that.
- Thank you.
- And yeah, I think we'll just leave it like that.
Just enjoy your content.
Enjoy it, write it down, apply it, watch the results.
Let us know in the comments below
what you think. - Absolutely.
- Or how did it work for you once you apply them?
And thank you for watching.
Kisses from... - Chengi.
- Chengi, where are we?
- (indistinct) - Yay!
(both laughing)