Are you curious and want to learn more about self-love?
Maybe you recognize that you need to work
on your sense of self-love.
Having self-love or growing your sense of self-love
has the power to change your life.
You can become more confident, resilient, honest, authentic,
and develop your self worth.
These are 10 unexpected ways that self-love
will change your life.
Number one, it can improve your health.
The most obvious form of self-love is self-care.
We all have different ideas of what self-care looks like,
since it's personal to each person.
But self care is a way for you to meet your needs
and improve your overall wellbeing.
As you develop your self-love,
you'll begin to make time for things
that make you feel better in the long run,
such as working out, journaling, or cooking,
and eating a healthy recipe.
When you practice self-care,
you're recognizing your personal needs
and doing the things you need to do to meet those needs.
Number two, your relationships may change.
There's a modern day proverb about relationships,
which goes, "We accept the love, we think we deserve.
Loving yourself and how you love yourself,
sets the example for how others should love you."
On your journey to self-love,
you might wanna take stock of your current relationships.
Ask yourself, what am I relationships like right now?
What is my role in this relationship?
Do I like the relationship
the way it is, or do I want it to change?
Asking yourself these questions
helps to clarify your boundaries
and what you're willing to accept from others.
If you love yourself, you'll find
that you'll be a bit less tolerant
of any behavior that undermines
how you've decided to treat yourself.
Your self-worth and personhood
will not be dependent on how others perceive you,
but more so on how you see you.
Number three, you'll build your confidence.
Part of self-love is the ability to unconditionally
and personally accept all of you
as who you are, warts and all.
Once you've learned to accept
who you are and still be open to the possibility
of improvement your self-confidence will soar.
Though insecurities will surface,
they'll not overwhelm you.
You'll develop the emotional maturity
to acknowledge them and try to be better.
Number four, your self-worth may improve.
Along with your self-confidence,
your self-worth will also improve.
As a result, you will feel more capable of taking risks
and going after what you want,
because you will feel more comfortable in your abilities.
Your drive and motivation towards
curtailed goals will reemerge.
Additionally, you'll strive to work hard for the things
you actually want and not choose to settle.
Number five, you'll develop your own sense of style.
Style or swag is not just a fashion accessory,
it's a state of mind.
It's your own unique signature that translates
into what you wear and how you wear it.
Having a swag is having self-assuredness
and knowing who you are.
Swag is not achieved through false bravado
or fake self-confidence,
but through the process of knowing yourself
and becoming comfortable in your own skin.
You know what you like and what you don't.
And you communicate that to others respectfully.
Number six, how you relate to your family
and friends might change.
Self-love will change your relationships
with your family and friends.
You'll start to prioritize your own needs.
And in doing so, you might not say yes to every party
or event that your friends invite you to.
Maybe you're tired and you need a break.
You'll recognize that and choose
to have a personal night in instead.
If you have toxic friends or family,
you might start to distance yourself from those people
in order to keep yourself protected.
You'll start to live for yourself
and not for others expectations for you.
Additionally, you may find that forgiveness
comes easier to you.
Self-love urges you to forgive others
because you realized how harmful it is to hold onto grudges.
Number seven, self love will help you find happiness.
In most healthy relationships,
you want your significant other to be happy.
Similarly, you'll want the same
when you enter into a more honest
and personal relationship with yourself.
When you prioritize yourself,
you'll leave behind the things that are bringing you down.
Self-love allows you to step into the life you desire
and pursue the things you've always wanted for yourself.
Number eight, you'll feel less insecure.
When you cultivate self-love,
everyone's opinions about you fade away
to where they don't hold that much power over you.
Consequently, the only opinion that will matter to you
is your own.
Hence, you'll not be easily offended
by other people's passing comments
because you're more secure in yourself and who you are.
Nine, self love may make you more resilient.
Do you take failures personally?
Do you beat yourself up about something
you did or didn't do?
Or could have done differently?
When you have a self-love,
it will be easier to experience failure,
because you've already developed a strong sense of self.
You'll realize that failure does not always
have to define you.
You will see each failure as an opportunity for growth.
You'll also be kinder and more compassionate
to yourself when you do fail.
Growth takes time and patience
and having the strength to get up when you fall in.
Self-love helped you cultivate all of that within yourself.
And number 10, you'll become more humble.
Self-love teaches you acceptance of both the acceptable
and seemingly unacceptable parts of yourself.
As a result, you'll see clearly your areas of weakness.
And therefore, accept help when you need it.
Self love will also allow you to extend compassion
and support to others in the same way
that you've given it to yourself.
You'll also be less envious or jealous of others
because you've stopped comparing yourself to others.
Love is a powerful force.
Some even say that it can move mountains
and make the impossible possible,
but love can also work in the simplest of ways.
It helps you heal and with time, blossom.
The journey to self-love isn't always pretty
and it isn't always easy, but it's absolutely worth it.
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