We have control of our minute, our hour
our day. our week, our month and our year.
Stop running around being on the
receiving end of whatever people want to
dump on you. You showed up you accepted
that invite you invited these people to
your house you're in a relationship with
that man you're in a relationship with
that woman. That's you so how do you feel
at the end of your night? How easy and
how convenient is it for us to blame
everything and everybody for the things
that we have going on in our lives. There
is a such thing as you being a positive
and a great person with the best of
intentions towards everybody and shit is
rough and you just can't get a break but
most of you most of you are waking up
every day looking for pain, dysfunction
drama, unemployment, being broke
struggling, dropping every excuse in the
book about your childhood and the
problems and dysfunction that you grew
up in that's stopping you from becoming
successful. You don't like your friends
so why are you still with them? You don't trust
your managers agents and lawyers so why
are they still there? Do you really expect
your life and career to be any different
from messing with the same things people
and situations. That's all I'm saying. Are
the things that you're doing the people
that you're hanging out with and the
places and the circles that you're
traveling in does that reflect a person
that actually loves themself? If you
love yourself why would you fuck with
those type of people? You know what
they're saying about you behind your
back you know they're jealous and
envious of who you are and the things that
you got going on in your life, in your
career. You know that they don't like you
and they've made it clear they've sent you
every sign imaginable that they could
possibly send
you and because you're so desperate to
have people around you and in your life
you continue to go back you continue to
show up to everything they invite you to
knowing what they're saying about you
I'm not preaching separatism. I don't want a
bunch of people to just be alone at home
doing nothing with no friends no family
and nothing to do I'm saying that at
this point you are old enough and mature
enough to understand the difference in
good people and bad people and when
you're hanging out with negative dark
and dysfunctional people you cannot
expect yourself to go to sleep at night
and rest you cannot expect yourself to
feel good about your day when you're
including negative and dysfunctional
people in your day.
Stop being a lazy bum ass person that's
full of excuses sitting around on the
pity party coming up with every excuse
in the world as to why you ain't winning.
You are the reason you're not winning
you keep messing with negative evil and
dysfunctional people and expecting
positive results it's time you get off
the pity party stop complaining about
being out of shape when you never go to
the gym stop looking at your stomach
when you get out of the shower and your
body and complaining about the way you
look when you're eating everything in
sight and never going to the gym. You are
the reason you look the way you look
you're the reason you're unemployed
you're the reason why your surroundings
are so dysfunctional and negative you can
still be in the hood broke and fucked up
and living a peaceful life. It's a choice
we are being raised in a generation of
people that come up with every excuse in
the book as to why they are not winning
you have every excuse in the reason the
book why you're not spending time with
your kids. Fathers, i'm talking to you
because you're able to create a child
doesn't mean that you're a father it
doesn't mean that you understand the
concept of fatherhood it's time to stop
coming up with excuses why five six
seven months and even years have went by
without you seeing your child it's wrong
and it's only the kids that are
suffering in the end I got drama I got
issues my shit is public knowledge I'm
doing any means necessary to spend time
with my little girl. Period. Say whatever
you want to say say whatever you want to
say and you can read whatever you want
to read I am, fully committed
to spending time with my little one. Period.
Excuses sound best to the people that's
making them up you got every excuse in
the world that's why your shit ain't
moving. That's why nothing changed and
nothing will change because you have
convinced yourself that everything is
wrong everything is negative and
nothing will change and guess what it
won't change. Change your mind and it
will change your life change if nothing
around you changes change the things
that are around you. I'm tired of it I'm
frustrated with the amount of people
that are not successful because they
have thought their way into a depression
you have thought your way into
negativity and misery you have thought
your way into holding on to a dude or a
girl that you broke up with a year or
two ago and you're still sad and
miserable and they've moved on with their life.
It's all in the mind change your mind
and it will change your life you just
have to you just have to wake up you
just have to break that negative spirit
you have to break through all of that
shit that your in care of. I don't want to
I don't feel sorry for you
you feel sorry for yourself that's the
problem even when positive people are
trying to give you all this good energy
you have tricked your mind to turn every
positive thing that they say into something
negative every time they say anything to
try and motivate you and inspire you you
you turn every negative thought and
every you turn every positive thought
every positive intention everything that
they trying to to boost your spirits up
you flip it shake it manipulate it and
you if you are so determined to be
negative and miserable it's unbelievable.
So what you grew up with them? So what they're
childhood friends? So what they're family?
We have a responsibility to walk in the
direction of peace I want to laugh I
want to smile, I wanna enjoy myself. I
actually want to feel good about the
people that are around me because you're
inviting me doesn't mean I want to show
up because you're calling me doesn't
mean I'm going to call you back because
you want me to be there doesn't mean
that I want to be there because we're
family because we're friends because we
grew up together doesn't mean that I
want to be a part of any and everything
that you want me to be a part of. Why?
Because my experience with you hasn't
necessarily made me feel good about my
life or my experience at the end of
every night because you go to sleep at
night doesn't mean you're resting. Because you
close your eyes at night and you are
asleep physically doesn't mean that you're
actually resting and the reason that you
don't rest is because while you're awake
everything and everybody thats in and around
your life is so full of issues problems insecurities
dysfunction negativity your mind
is and your spirit is in turmoil. Issues
problems arguments yelling screams
dysfunction I want you to stop playing
the victim you are not the victim you
decided that those are your friends you
decided that those are the people that
you want to spend time with you decided
this is what you wanted to do with your
day when you get invited to places
doesn't mean you have to show up no one
wants to be alone but why spend the rest of
your life being miserable frustrated and
insecure? Not really feeling as good as
you have a responsibility to feel
feeling good isn't just an opportunity
feeling good is a responsibility that we
all have for ourselves and guess what I
actually don't care what you say about
me I don't remember the last time I lost
sleep over a hater and the things that
people are running around saying blogs
websites conversations tweets and I don't
lose sleep over haters. Why? Because
I know exactly how I feel about me and
even if something appears to be very
different than what it really is I don't
even mind that you're talking shit about
the things that you're assuming that's
really going on
the question is are you just going to
look at this video and decide wow that
was some powerful shit and do the same thing?
But it's a new day... it's a new day.
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