what is the most important ingredient to experience greater fulfillment and
greater freedom in your life keep watching this is life mastery gym I'm
Damon Cart and I teach people just like you cutting edge NLP processes and
techniques so that you can master your life and take charge of your destiny so
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location than I normally am I'm actually in Kat on Catalina Island right off the
coast of Los Angeles by the end of this video you're going to understand how
important authenticity is in your life and what it can do for you it's actually
one of the most powerful qualities you can possess I've been coaching people
for several years I've coached hundreds of people and of course I work on myself
quite a bit and it never ceases to amaze me how powerful this one quality is and
speaking of qualities I have a self-concept checklist that you may want
to check out it's absolutely free it's a free pdf if you go to the description
down below you'll see that there's a link click that link and you'll get
access to that let's first talk about what authenticity is so that we can do a
deep dive into it let's first talk about what it's not so authenticity does not
mean that you are 100% consistent in your behavior and everything that you
say no matter what the context no matter who you're with and no matter what the
relationship in which you're having internet interaction with someone and
that would be too rigid we need to be more adaptable more flexible as people
who have we're very complex and have complex situations so it doesn't mean
that you're not authentic just because your behavior is not exactly the same
wherever you go and that you don't say exactly the same things wherever you go
we need that flexibility we need that adaptability what oughtn't isset e
really means is that you're true to your values you behave in alignment with your
values if you believe yourself to be a kind person you do kind things if you
believe yourself to be persistent you actually are persistent and it's also
important as someone who is authentic to know
when they're not when you're not being aligned with your authenticity because a
lot of people will do things make mistakes not realize it not realize that
they're going against their values and then only later to find out that they
made a huge mistake and it blew up in their face and then you have to go back
and make apologies and try to redo everything and really important if you
can prevent those things from happening ahead of time by knowing what your
values aren't being very clear about it now here's the thing when you're clear
about what makes you authentic not only will you experience a greater sense of
freedom it also helps you create those things in your life it helps you create
the things that you want the things that you value because now you're more
connected to the value you're not so overly focused on just the goal or just
the outcome and being connected to the value behind what it is that you want
you also have a lot more flexibility to make that happen
there's so many more strategies that become available to you in order to make
that happen so many more ways to fulfill your values you're not just stuck with
like over this is the one way this is the one goal this is the one path no you
have many many options so how do you do this well I would start by breaking down
your life into the three to five major contexts in your life so that could be
like your career that could be Parenthood that could be your
relationship that could be your social life so get an understanding of like
what are the major contexts in your life and then each one of those contexts ask
yourself what do you really want in each one of these contexts and you can start
off with you know there's something on very much on the surface like more money
or a bigger house you know it doesn't matter you can start off with something
materialistic and then you elicit the values on that and if you're interested
in learning a lot about how to elicit your values and do a good value
solicitation I'll link some videos to this one so you can be able to do that
take this even deeper so you find out what it is you really value behind the
goal behind the object or even behind the experiences that you're wanting to
have and this becomes super powerful like I said because now you become more
connected with the value it gives you much more flexibility and fulfilling
that value it also gives you more clarity about it so it's easier to
create in your life so that clarity will naturally bring you toward what it is
that you want also it's great for decision-making when you're in a
situation and you're worried about compromise
yourself by making the wrong choice by going against your authenticity well if
you've consciously clear about what your values are that's not going to happen
cuz you'll know okay well if I do this this would violate this particular value
you know if I if I believed in integrity and that's one of my values and I'm
being asked to do something that doesn't align with my integrity I'm not going to
do it it's not also about the nut it's also about well how can I move toward
fulfilling my values what actions what behaviors can I do what choices and
decisions can I make so that can move toward my values and the second thing
you want to do after you have that value those values elicited then you want to
rank them you want to compare them to each other could only have one you know
which one would I take and then you want to find that hierarchy because when it
comes to really tough decisions it might feel like a lot of times you can't
fulfill all of your values in this situation so you want to go with the top
three to five if you can check those box and save you your choices and your
decisions you can check off on those top three to five values that you're in
alignment with those top three to five values you're going to make a good
choice no matter what not no matter even if the outcome doesn't come out exactly
the way that you want at least you can feel good and authentic knowing that you
made a choice that was aligned with your values almost everyone's values who I've
elicited my and myself included freedom usually shows up as one of the highest
values if not the highest so a lot of us want to feel free but a lot of us don't
really know how to get at that well you know how do you become a free person and
that even sounds strange to say that we can say you know how do you become a
kind person or how do you become a person of integrity but freedom is
different freedom always needs to be contextualized it's either freedom to be
freedom to have freedom to do or freedom from and if you're thinking in terms of
freedom from you want to change that if I'm if I want to be free from something
like I want to be free from my job what do I want instead so get that shifted to
focusing on the positive well what do I want instead so I can move toward it so
you need to know what it is you want to be free to do to be to have and what
I've always found as well the corresponding quality and we focus a lot
on qualities because qualities is who you need to become which is far more
powerful than what do you need to get so if I need to be free who do I need to
become to be free so it's really simple would say like a koala
and a value of kindness so I value kindness who do I need to become to
fulfill that value of kindness well I need to become a kind person it's very
simple when it comes to freedom it's a little more tricky though so I value
freedom I want to be free to do what I want I want financial freedom
I want all these freedoms who do I need to become in order to fulfill that value
of freedom this gets very difficult for a lot of people so what I've always
found I'm sure there could be more but the answer to that that I found but
again there could be more than one answer is authenticity
so when I'm authentic then I am free if you think about that if you're free to
be yourself you're not compromising your values you're free to do what you want
you're free to say what you what you're thinking you're free to think when you
want you're free and you can be in the most restrictive prohibitive situation
and still experience this freedom and in that freedom is tremendous resources
that means you're extremely flexible and you're connected with yourself and
you're motivated so you can work your way out of difficult situations you can
make tough choices and tough decisions and do it in a way that's aligned with
your values and feel good about that and move yourself to a better place now this
is why as I mentioned authenticity is so so important how do you get it though
how do you how do you come to this authenticity that I keep talking about
so that you can experience this freedom when you know what those values are in
these contexts you know I said break down the context I listed the values and
then do a hierarchy on these values when you're in alignment with those values
you are being authentic and like I said that can be many different types of
behaviors you can act differently among different people you can have different
ways of talking amongst different people that doesn't change your authenticity
because you have that flexibility all you need to do is act in alignment with
those values when you act in alignment with those values you will experience
authenticity and when you experience authenticity you will have the feeling
of being free and so you can actually try this out like think of a time in
your life when you felt very very free or you felt very very authentic and step
into that and say okay how is this happening I can tell you how that was
happening you were in alignment with your highest values
and being in alignment with your highest values feeling authentic it also made
you feel extremely free as I mentioned earlier if you would like to go deeper
with this and you'd like to learn more about self-concept I have a free PDF
checklist right down below in the description click that link and you'll
get a free PDF on your self-concept checklist what makes a strong powerful
certain and resilient self-concept it's in the checklist if you liked this video
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