in this video you will learn five powerful texting secrets that will make
a man want you like crazy so if you're dating a guy and you want to keep him
thinking about you smiling and falling in love with you then you've got to
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everyone I'm Dr. Antonio Borrello and I'm a psychologist in a relationship coach
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secrets that will make a man want you if you're dating in today's world you know
that texting is the first and most common tool used for people to get to
know one another and that's because it works texting is direct and efficient
and it doesn't require the awkward chitchat that is typical of phone calls
between strangers so when texting is used properly it can be a great way to
flirt and create attraction between you and your man and because it has become
the expected way of communicating for dating it's super important that you
learn how to be good at it then you can use your texting skills to make your man
crave your attention and yearn to see you oh and I'm also going to share a
warning about how texting can lead to the death of your dating life so make
sure you watch the whole video and get that last one it's so important so
without further ado here are the secrets to texting a man that you like number 1
text him with confidence confident texting is one of the most useful
texting techniques you'll ever learn and that's because when you're sending these
types of texts you are conveying that you like yourself you like him and that
you want to further the conversation as then getting to know him better so how
do you show your confidence through texting well in three ways first the
content and style of your text are going to convey that you are confident and
happy and second you are going to show your confidence by sometimes being the
one to reach out and text him for the first time and lastly you're going to
show your confidence by knowing when to end the conversation and not
over texting let me explain these one-by-one the first way you display
confidence over text is by having fun and keeping your text playful and
light-hearted so when you are crafting a text I want you to imagine his face at
the moment he reads your text is he going to be smiling and laughing or is
he going to feel like he's obligated to respond if you're not sure fix it before
you send it and don't be afraid to gently tease him or make fun of him in a
light-hearted and non-threatening way and also make fun of yourself as well of
course you are also going to be having serious text but for the most part try
keeping things light because making him smile and light up when he sees your
message is one key to getting him to like you and be eager to see your text
the second part I want you to have the confidence to reach out to a man and
start the initial text conversation see if a guy is interested in you getting a
first text from you is going to make him very happy and it also shows him that
you have the confidence and self-assurance to let him know that
you're interested and that's very attractive trust me sometimes a man is
going to play it cool and so he waits awhile before reaching out and texting
you other times he might even be reluctant to be the first one to text
because he wasn't able to accurately gauge your interest in him
whatever the case if you were to reach out to him by sending him the first text
he's going to know you're interested and it gives him the green light to proceed
so yet don't be afraid to make the first text lastly show your confidence by
being the one who ends the conversation at the right time confident people leave
the conversation before it's over it shows that they have control over it and
that they aren't worried about when they will communicate next so be mindful and
respectful of what he's doing besides texting you and gracefully said
know that you are going to get back to whatever you were doing in real life and
of course don't just disappear on him mid conversation let him know that
you're getting back to whatever it is you were doing number two vary the
timing of your responses to text messages varying the timing of your
responses is based on the concept of a variable interval reinforcement schedule
ecology a variable interval reinforcement schedule is a powerful
tool used to shape behavior and learning behavioral psychologists know that
changing the rate or time interval of giving a reinforcement like responding
to a text message has powerful effects on behavior in plain English once you
have established that he's interested and you've also shown him that you're
interested you're going to vary the amount of time it takes you to respond
to his text messages simply put when he texts you sometimes you are respond
within seconds sometimes within minutes sometimes within hours and sometimes you
might even forget to respond and when you do that he is going to keep checking
his phone to see if you responded and that means that he's also going to be
thinking of you and when you do respond he's going to be excited to read it and
he's going to get a hit of dopamine as part of that reward and that just
reinforces his behavior and motivation for you even more think about what
happens when you are interested in a guy and you text him and sometimes he
responds right away sometimes it takes him 30 minutes and sometimes it takes
him hours when he doesn't respond right away what does it do to you well if you
like him you are probably wondering what he's doing is he busy is he working is
he away from his phone or did he forget about me but do you would like him any
less or does it simply cause you to think about him more doesn't it make you
check your phone more and think about what he's doing so vary the rate in
which you respond and try to make it as random as possible again sometimes you
respond immediately sometimes within minutes sometimes within hours and yes I
want you to sometimes not respond especially if he didn't ask a question
of course if he double texts then you'll need to respond and tell him that you
forgot number three texts that compliment him compliments make anyone
feel good but men probably don't get compliments too often so when you say
something nice to a guy that you like he'll definitely remember it and feel
more appreciated to look it's also important that you compliment him
without any ulterior motives or any sort of secret agenda in other words you are
not complimenting him in a way where you are also fishing for a compliment
or measuring his feelings instead give genuine compliments so what types of
compliments are best specific compliments that appeal to a
sense of masculinity intelligence accomplishments and sense of humor work
very well for example if you were to text him something like I always feel
safe when I'm in your arms you will be appealing to his masculinity and his
protective instincts he will certainly be smiling and feeling proud of himself
when he reads a text like that or send him a text that compliments his sense of
humor so keep in mind these are texts that you are going to send spontaneously
and they're going to be very specific if your man is funny and you always laugh
when you're together let him know in a text like this it's so great when we are
together you always have me cracking up number four
texts that create tension people experience intense emotions whenever
they are thinking about or anticipating things that are to come especially
things that are related to romantic intimacy so when texting and flirting
with your man helped him to develop fantasies that remind him of a time when
you were intimate or if you haven't reached that point in your relationship
you could create even more tension because his curiosity is going to be
peaked for sure and I'm not saying that you have to make any promises or commit
to something that you're not comfortable with just focus on the effects of your
physical attraction by creating an image for him to think about remember showing
something is more effective than telling so for example you might want to let
your man know how you're feeling when you were daydreaming of your last night
together rather than saying something like that was hot or I'm turned on you
can describe something hot by the reactions from the hotness so you might
describe a physical or mental reaction that you're having at that moment and
include words that describe sensations in your body words like tingling and
flushing or feeling faint or tell them that you're having sensations in
different parts of your body or that your heart is beating fast do you see
where I'm going again use words that describe how you feel physically paint a
picture of the way you're feeling this has powerful effects because he is going
to be imagining what you tell him so make it good number five
the question marks in your text messages to increase your perceived confidence so
instead of asking questions such as would you like to get together this
weekend question mark or are you busy Saturday night question mark rephrase
your questions into the form of a statement of what you want so rather
than saying would you like to get together this weekend or are you busy on
Saturday you say let's have dinner on Saturday evening the first question
conveys uncertainty but the second is much more assumptive and confident
you're telling him what you want to do and of course you know he's gonna want
to do it too because it's going to be a great time that text conveys confidence
certainty and self assurance now as I mentioned in the beginning of the video
I have a very important warning to share with you about texting and that is that
texting can be the death of the first date and therefore you should keep it to
a minimum before meeting in person for a date let me give you a scenario that
helps to explain imagine that you have just started talking to a guy perhaps it
is someone that you met at a party or maybe you were introduced through a
friend it could also be someone that you met on social media or online so you
just exchanged numbers and of course you start chatting with each other over text
sometimes things go amazingly well you are really clicking and the
conversations are building back and forth that's when it becomes important
to make a plan to meet in person as soon as possible but why well because there
are too many chances for the conversation to die there are too many
chances for things to go wrong there are too many chances to have something
misconstrued and then a first date will not happen at all see when you are
texting there's an absence of eye contact body language and tone of voice
that leaves so much up for misinterpretation things are
misinterpreted or could be perceived the wrong way and that kills the vibe and
any attraction that may have been created so before you meet in person try
to keep things as short and sweet as possible don't try to learn his whole
life history over text messages because when you text too much you leave nothing
to explore or talk about in person so instead try to get to the first date as
soon as possible now I know that many women prefer to
wait for the man to initiate and ask you out for the first time but if you find
that he is asking you so many questions about your life and trying to get to
know you on text rather than in real life you can be the one who suggests
meeting in person and this is exactly what you can text him it's fun texting
with you but I think the best way to get to know one another is face-to-face
let's meet for coffee or a drink then we can really get to know each other and
determine if we want to pursue a friendship your thoughts question mark
his response should be yes that sounds great what does your weekend look like
on the other hand if he comes up with excuses or doesn't try to zero in on a
date take note and be careful you could be spinning your wheels and wasting your
time on a man that is getting his needs met by knowing that you like him besides
do you really need another pen pal by the way if you are following these text
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